I'm 20 and never had a relationship with a girl (or guy, I'm not gay). I'm a virgin and I'm shy. I dont think I'm very attractive and I'm kinda worried I'll never date. I wasn't very interested in girls until late in highschool. I asked one out, but she said no. It took me a long time to get up the courage to ask her out and I've never built it up to ask anyone else. I think they'll say no. Then I went to community college and really focused on my studies. I'm going to a 4 year college in the fall. What should I do?
Everyone else is experienced and I'm not. I dont think girls are interested in me and since I'm not the best looking I dont know what I have to offer. I dont have a lot of money.
2007-07-14 09:38:08 · 10 answers · asked by sspence966 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that everyone is date-able when they find the right person. Try talking to more people, join a club or a sport. Keep busy until you find the right women. She is out there. I believe that everyone has someone out there for them. Dont worry and dont think about it so much. There is a girl somewhere waiting for you. You will know she is the one. My mom told me to watch out for the quiet guys and I dont know why. I think your cute!
2007-07-14 09:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and people in college usually dont have a lot of money. Just because you have never dated a girl does not mean you are un-date-able. There are a lot of girls out there who are interested in shy guys. What i would recommend really is that you should focus on being comfortable with yourself. Iv dealt with social anxiety for the most of my life and i found that once you come to respect your self and give yourself meaning you begin to build a bit of confidence.
Concentrating on rejection will only discourage you further. When your asking someone out try to think about it as if your giving it a chance. If you never ask youll never know if she could have said yes. Im sure there is more to it when it comes down to it but sometimes its better to know a definite answer than to always think "what if".
I wouldent worry about being unexperienced. If someone truly likes you none of that matters.
2007-07-14 10:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experience doesn't make up for a lot of the things that are important to women such as honesty, reliability, loyalty and compassion. Don't worry about having money. Instead focus on what you like about you! Work on your sense of humor, listening skills and practice being selfless.
Don't focus on having someone to be your girlfriend. Try finding female friends to hang out with so you'll learn what is acceptable and what isn't. Or volunteer at local organizations, hospitals, etc. to boost your social skills.
Love something about you! It begins with you! Good luck!
2007-07-14 09:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by iniyaitza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not undatable, just socially backward (shy). Your best bet is to talk to people when you get to college in the fall. You might go to church and talk with people there and get in the habit of making caual talk. From there it should be easy to talk with women and eventually you'll find one that clicks and you can ask her out. Don't be in such a hurry to pair off. 20 isn't that old. Dating experience means nothing (some women are turned off by men who hook up a lot) and you're probably not that bad looking.
2007-07-14 09:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 00:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are really low on ur self esteem and confidence. U should never think that u are undateable. thats trash talk about ur self. U need to find urself attractive. If u belive that u are u will have a major confidence boost. plus try to be alot more social around males and females. don't be so quiet. Women don't like quiet men. We actually like men who talk and are social. somone who can be fun to hang out with or interesting. Well Good Luck
2007-07-14 09:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Marina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 16, but I don't think you're undatable by any means.
It sounds like you're just sort of insecure.. you aren't confident, and that's part of the reason girls haven't quite noticed you.
The best thing to try to do is.. build it up. Be yourself, ask girls out.. There IS someone out there who will appreciate you, if you can find the courage to ask.
Good luck. ;)
2007-07-14 09:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by Smurf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to be your best self. stop being so hard on yourself. start a new exercise program, get out there and meet people. If you go out without the intention of looking for a woman...the right one will come to you. everyone has something to offer.
2007-07-14 09:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt you're as bad as you say you are.
Just remember there are plenty of girls out there who feel the same way that you do...
2007-07-14 09:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have yourself to offer as money and looks dont matter for the person your looking for ....
2007-07-14 09:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋