me dad well he isnt my real dad, anyway we dont get along at ALL! he doesnt like anything i do or try to make him happy. he doesnt even like how i dress(skater cloths), the musaic i listen to(hard rick/screamo) anything i do, it doesnt plz him for som reason. and its so hard to go to him and talk so i go to my mom, befor he and my mom got married he was fun to hang with, but now i cant stand him!
so, do yall have any ideas in how to get along with him?
2007-07-14 09:33:55 · 7 answers · asked by I_wuv_you! hehe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When it comes to music, you both are from different worlds. He probably doesn't care for hard rock music, and that's what you play all of the time. He finds that offensive, and you need to find out what he likes and compromise once in a while. As far as your dress code, again from different time zones, and I'm sure he finds the way you dress also offensive. You need to be just a little more conservative, and not so skater type clothing. It's hard for a father or step-father to change his thoughts about what is proper and what it not. Most of us guys that are from different generations just can't cope with too many changes too fast. If you really care about what/or how he feels about you, and your living style, ask him about it very calmly. I'm sure that he will tell you. If you learn and try to compromise with what he would like you listen to, and the way you dress I'm sure he will respond to you favorably. That's it just try and see what the results are. Good Luck.
2007-07-14 11:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by Butch. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize, as step-father, he's not responsible for you.
That would only happen if he adopted you, & you didn't say.
He probably has no idea where you are coming from.
Since you didn't grow up with him, & he has no other kids.
(You would have mentioned them, right?)
The way you dress & the music you like is weird to him.
How about you try to do & like some things he likes?
Perhaps then you will not seem like aliens to each other.
You can only change how you behave, not someone else.
2007-07-14 16:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Robert S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he's just trying to be a good step-dad. Besides, it is normal to have conflicts w/ your parents as a teenager(I assume you are a teenager). Tell him how you feel and see if there's anything that you and him can do to resolve the problem. If you feel like you can't, tell your mom.
2007-07-14 16:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him what happened to him. you should probably just talk to him. Just dont all the sudden blow up at him. That happened when my cousin babysat me and mi sis when we were younger. the first year, she was more of a friend, then the second year, things changed and she became a little more uptight, and a year later, it was unbearable (she became more of a babysitter. and not cool at all when you are a pre-teen. so i got kinda rebellious, and we had a bit of a shouting match. but we talked things over, and things went back.
2007-07-14 16:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by boris t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you really talked to him and told him how you feel? Have you told your mom? I would suggest going that route.
2007-07-14 16:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by reggie29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a trip to the family counselor...ALL of you.
2007-07-14 16:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by CAT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my real dad gave me up and my apportion dad doesn't like me very well
2007-07-14 17:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by tyesha b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋