What do you do when you're with a friend and...?

Question

the friend keeps making phone calls on her cell phone or taking calls. They're all social calls; nothing business related.

She does this when we go out to eat.

Answer 1

Tell her how you feel. If she's a real friend she'll understand. It's very possible she doesn't realize that her behavior is bothering you, or that it's rude, many people don't. If she keeps it up, the next time she asks you to go out to eat with her, explain that you want to talk to her, not listen to her phone conversations, and see what she says. If she's offended then I would say she's not really your friend.

Answer 2

You might ask her when you make arrangements to eat together, if she plans to take phone calls. Tell her you'd like to arrange a time when the two of you can converse uninterupted. If she thinks she needs to be on the phone all the time, then she isn't much of friend. Stop eating with her. Her MAKING calls in just inexcusable! Even taking calls is rude, but, making them is really unbelievable!

If she sees she has been been rude and allows that she should not be on the phone and ultimately does get on the phone, I'd excuse myself and tell her you'll see her later when she has time to chat. I would be nice about it and say it in a friendly tone.

Don't tolerate this behavior. You may need to get a new friend.

Answer 3

Is she including you in the fun of the social call?

I had a buddy who lived by the phone. We were at a base-ball game and she was taking pictures and sending them to the UK ... now she showed me the pictures, and the txt messages, and it became part of our conversation and social enjoyment at the ball-game.

I also had another acquaintance (who I thought was a friend) be occupied with the phone to where I felt they were trying to get away from me. Instead of showing me what was going on, they walked away, spoke more quite, and even sometimes turned there back to where I was stuck alone. I dumped 'em.

Answer 4

After the first time I decline any further invites. If that someone asks why, I tell her because I do not enjoy going out to lunch with her phone. I have done this and it does work. Said in a friendly way, it can save the relationship or end one that wasn't too good to start with. You are allowed to be, even supposed to be, picky about who you spend your time with you know!! It's just self-respect.

Answer 5

I would let it go a few times, but if it got excessive, I would say something...because it is rude of people to do that, whether they realize it or not. People have become way too reliant on their cell phones nowadays. How did we ever live before they were invented? Sometimes, people need to be reminded of what is courteous, and what is not. Some people tend to forget their manners.

Answer 6

A real friend would see who was calling, if the phone needs to be left on, and cancel the call if it was not important.

If i`d go out, esp. for dinner, i would either switch off the phone, or set it to silent, and check who calls, if i am expecting a call.

But, when out with friends, it`s gotta be pretty important.

Answer 7

if we were together and she would keep making phone calls i would call her and tell her on the phone looking at her that she's so rude and i hate her and i will never speak with her again. then she would have to buy me dinner

Answer 8

Sit down with her (away from a place to eat) and ask why she does this. Tell her it makes you uncomfortable. If she's a friend, she'll stop. If she doesn't, don't go to eat with her.

Answer 9

Next time tell her not to do it before going out with her. If she does it again, don't go out with her again.

Answer 10

i will ask her nicely if she can turn off her phone until we are done eating