Why are girls "creeped out" by...?

Question

...a single 28 year old guy that still lives at home and has never had any relationships and sexual experiences? Even if the guy is gainfully employed and is working on a graduate degree to get a better job? I am a single, straight, male with my head on my shoulders. I enjoy living at home and saving my income for my future. Unless I get a job too far away to commute, I plan on living at home until I die. There is an apartment in my house, so even if I get married I don't have to move out, but I probably would. I haven't gone on a date for over 5 years and I probably went on 3 or 4 my entire life. I just feel way too young to get married or have kids. I'd like to settle down before all of that. I actually have friends that are getting married or want to get married and have kids in the next couple of years. 30 is the new 20, did they not get the message? Anyway, are women too harsh sometimes? Why does living at home and being sexually inexperienced have to be a stigma?

I hear there are actually dirtbag parents out there that try to force their children to date, get married, and have children. What is up with all these parents rushing to get rid of their kids?

Lol, and why do people always assume that adults living at home live in the basement. There is an apartment in my house, but it is upstairs. My grandmother currently lives in it. I could pull some strings and get her out, but I can wait, plus I got my bedroom just the way I like it. I am not ready for a move. I just love living with my family as an adult. I also have my adult siblings living with me (26 and 24). My parents couldn't be happier! Why must people knock this? Jealousy is an evil and ubiquitous thing indeed.

And another thing; people always ask how I would bring a girl home? Um, that's simple I'd probably drive her here. Then they say, well what if you want privacy? Privacy for what? Sex? Sex comes after marriage so that is a complete and total non-issue.

Answer 1

there is nothing wrong with that

Answer 2

Kids cost a lot of money. I wouldnt call them dirtbag parents for encouraging their children to move out. It is somewhat abnormal in our culture for them to even allow you to still live with them at 28. If you are from the middle east i suppose it is much more common or even routine and in which case you should find a woman who is also from the middle east as they will be used to this. No Woman is going to want to live with your parents in an Apt downstars (well not many at least). It sounds like you might have some security issues if you cannot handle living on your own. As far as being sexually inexperienced, dont tell them that. Not at least unless it is a loving girlfriend.


My friend it is not jealousy making people put forth these statements, it is truth. It is HIGHLY unusual for a 28 year old male to live at home and be happy about it, the fact that you have two adult siblings living there as well says something about the way you were raised. It doesnt necessarily mean its a bad thing per say but it is definitely not normal. And almost all women are going to be somewhat put off by this, NO MATTER HOW NORMAL YOU FEEL IT TO BE. When you ask a question, expect answers... instead of becoming defensive about it , think about what was said here. YOU did after all ASK for these answers. You asked why there is a stigma... well there is a stigma because it is abnormal.

Answer 3

Well, technically I'm a girl who hasn't even reached 20 but I'll try and answer the question best as I can anyway. Probably, there's something we find a little odd about how someone can go that long without having had a relationship, let along a sexual one. We'd assume that a guy at your age would have already decided to declare full-blown independence by moving out. Finally, your attitude doesn't really give a woman her security so any women would probably back off already.

We like to think 30 is indeed the new 20 but reality will always catch up with us again. We are a little mean this way but it's for our own good. And as to your last question, it's just unbelievable for a 28 year old. We tend to think of it like a plague, although we are assuring ourselves it's a good thing actually.

Answer 4

Woman are creeped out by men that won't cut the cord. Momma's boys that live at home and don't want to move.. No woman want to be the man that they are "with's" mother.. They want a companion.. Woman like a man that's independant and has his own place and can do as he pleases ... Woman don't want to share the man they are with his mother... So, plan on not getting laid, married or having a family if you plan on staying at home forever.. Where's the fun in life with that... ? Take a chance and break free.... For a man living at home 30 is the new 20 for the rest of us having a normal life 30 is still 30... Woman like to have families BEFORE they are forty... Good luck....

Answer 5

The reason most girls are "creeped out" by a guy living with his parents, is because a girl figures that means that even if she married that guy, he would always be a mama's boy, and his mother would always come between them. There is nothing wrong with living with your parents, BUT, living on your own shows others (and prospective girlfriends) that you CAN stand on your own two feet, and make your OWN way in this world, and it will make you more appealing to the opposite sex. That doesn't mean all girls/women are creeped out, but rather, means that women will view you as a man who is living OFF his parents, which means they OWN you, which means the girl doesn't stand a chance, as you will always be an OWNED man.

Answer 6

You're a looser guy!!! That's the simple answer!! You 28, and you have done nothing to make it on your own!! I bet mommy still picks out what you wear every day!! You need to grow up, go make a life for your self, stop mooching of your parents. No self respecting woman is going to marry you and move in with your parents!!! The fact you still live at home shows total lack of motivation on your part. Are you still gonna wonder tonight, as your mom helps you put on your feety pj's "why can't I get a date?"

Answer 7

You can never be a man if you still live with your mommy! REspect is important in attracting girls, and girls will have no respect for you. Spare 400 dollars a month for goodness sake for your dignity!! Im 18 and live on my own (with roomates). Sometimes some things just arent worth 'saving for.' Because your gonna wake up one day old, with a lot of 'saved' money, and no girl to share it with. Go share an apartment with someone elsewhere.

Answer 8

girls think that guys older 21 still living at home but they have a degree and a good paying job is crazy. plus we think that it shows that u r not capable of living out on your own and being able to provide for a family.

Answer 9

I am sorry, but most people would find your situation to be unbelieavable! but then there are others that find this perfectly normal and understandable. i, personally, cannot judge you. You are obviously a very detailed and careful person. To your advantage, you are in the best age to find your soul mate. Although, you might want to leave out the sexual inexperience until you are at it. Let her know once you are already in the relationship, If she loves you she will teach you. It's kind of nice to hear that there are still innocent and nice people out in the world. Im proud of you! I iwish you the best and Good luck!

Answer 10

Part of growing up is GETTING OUT of your parents house. I'm sorry but what you are doing is not normal and I wouldn't date you either. What's wrong with rooming with some guy friends to save money "for your future"? What girl wants to go out with some 28 yr old guy who mooches off his parents?

Answer 11

be glad you get along with your parents - most parents will not allow their kids to stay home and work toward getting their crap together and saving for thier own life - you are very lucky!

as for girls liking it or not - as long as you aren't a total momma's boy and let her decide your relationships - it should not be a problem - most girls want to be #1 in your life - just reassure them that they are and you will be fine. good luck to you and tell your parents they are awesome...