i was with my ex boyfriend for about 6 months he was the first guy i ever had sex with and i was very attached to him but we broke about six months ago. We started to talk back often and started to hang out alot and now we have started to have sex very often. he tells me he is addicted to our sex and so am i. the problem is he has a girlfriend and claims that she is very boring in bed and he enjoys me more. Should i stop doing it with him..or continue for the fun?
2007-07-14 08:54:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've got to be kidding me. Unless you like being used for sex and treated as an object, you need to stop having sex with him, NOW.
Unless your ex is willing to break up with his current girlfriend and get back together with you. You should not have to share this guy with another girl. It's unfair to you, and probably even more unfair to his current girlfriend. How do you think she would feel if she knew that her boyfriend found her to be boring in bed? Don't you think that's something she would want to know?
How would you feel if you had a boyfriend and he was cheating on you with his ex? Especially if the reason he was cheating was because he thought you were boring in bed?
If you just want to have fun, stick to single guys with no attachments. Make sure they use protection, and get yourself some birth control. Get regular testing for STD's. Seriously. For your own good.
I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with sex for pleasure, and I am not judging you. But what you are doing to your ex's girlfriend is just plain wrong. If he wants to cheat on her, let him cheat with someone else. Don't be the "other woman". Karma has a way of coming back to haunt you for things like that.
2007-07-14 09:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what you should do, you should stop having sex with your ex. It is absolutely terrible when the chemistry and sex between you and your ex is so wonderful and strong, yet you know that the relationship is not a good healthy one, and that the two of you should not be together. If you know that the relationship is not good for you, then you just have to be mature and strong enough to walk away so the two of you can move on and find love elsewhere. You unfortunately will always love him, and probably miss the incredible sex, but you can't very well stay in a relationship that isn't healthy or good for you just because the sex and chemistry is incredible.The longer you wait, the harder it is going to get to walk away. He is an ex for a reason, move on.
2016-05-17 21:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, Darlin, there is a reason he is an EX. The sex may be good, but you are now the "other woman." Not a position you were looking for. Just because he was your first doesn't mean he is the only one who can get you off. Find yourself a new man...
WHY would you want to do that? He's basically got a girlfriend AND mistress. He's not gonna quit. YOU need to be the bigger person and move on for your own sake.
2007-07-14 08:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by Rav 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HMMMMMMMMMMM...the best person to get advice from is from someone who has been in the EXACT same situation! Let me be the first to tell you that you are doing the wrong thing. Your ex will tell you whatever he can to keep you in bed, just as he is telling the girl whatever he can to keep her. He wants to have his cake and eat it to. He doesn't care about you and you'll soon find that out. Sad to say that if you don't end it now you may not be able to be friends later on. I made the mistake of continuing to sleep with him despite the girl and then I got a shock of being pregnant and a shock of someone telling her! It was at that point that I actually saw how he truly felt about me. If you need a visual watch the movie Match Point!
2007-07-14 09:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like that sex between two ex's are better when they're apart rather together. interesting.....you should tell him to teach his girl friend how not to be so dang boring in bed or let her go. and the two of you get back together for the sex act. Its not right to jump back in the bed with your ex's knowing that he had a girlfriend. If you wanted to be treated with respect then carry yourself in such a manner. What you're doing doesn't showing that you don't have any respect for yourself as a woman and not respecting the other woman that your ex's is with. Clearly that he doesn't have any amount of respect for her and you. Think about this, you're his ex's and he is just screwing you. Have some respect about yourself and stop it, unless that you like to be screw.
2007-07-14 09:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say stop.. Men are addicted to any kind of sex they can have and not have to have a relationship for you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak.. If he was a man worth being with he would break-up with is current girlfriend to be with you... Since, he hasn't she must provide him with the things that you may haven't ... Sex isn't the only thing in a relationship.. Move on a find someone worthy of you love,attention and affection...
2007-07-14 08:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please stop having sex with him. This is sounding to be more than the occasional hook up. This can be destructive and hurtful to his girlfriend. How would you like it if you had another boyfriend and he was sleeping around with his ex-girlfriend? He just wants to sleep with you both and I think he's taking advantage of you. Open your eyes. You only went out for 6 months, c'mon.
2007-07-14 08:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by island girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is telling you the truth then why is he with the boring girl, if you are more exciting to be with...He is playing you like a piano, I'm sorry...He is the type who thinks he is a player and wants to sleep with many girls. U R being used...Get rid of this wannabe and find someone who really loves you.
2007-07-14 09:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is involved with another girl?
Doesn't that bother you?
I mean, what you have is purely physical. There are no emotions in it is there?
If you can say, "I am doing this because I still love him."
Then you need to tell him.
I think if I were you, I would be freaking about sleeping with him and him sleeping with her!
STD's you know....
All I can advise is think long and hard...is this "Sexual" thing with the ex going to ruin your future relationships?
Good luck whatever you do....blessings to you.
2007-07-14 09:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a life! If you can so easily have sex with someone like that, your the kind of person who is going to end up with crabs and VD ect......You dont know good sex until you accually make love to someone.
2007-07-14 10:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by emily66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋