I'm a single mother of 4 children. 2 girls 8 and 16, and two boys 10 and 11. The only thing I could afford was a two bedroom apartment. When we moved in they got the master bdrm with the walk in closet and the 1/2 bath. and I took the small bedroom. They all have beds of their own. (bunk beds) Their own dressers and there is a partition down the middle of the room so that they can have some semblance of privacy. It's like two small bdrms in a large room. My mother however is peeved at not seeing her grand children more since she lives in Jackson and we live in Grand Rapids, and is threatening to call the local cps if we do not move closer to her. Like anyone with children when you hear those letters you freak out. Well, before freaking out I plan on doing the research but need help getting in the right direction. We live in Michigan. Not sure if it is a federal or state law. So Please shove me in the right direction if you can. Thank you.
2007-07-14 08:46:59 · 9 answers · asked by Connie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To answer the question. I don't have a car so we take the bus. and every two months we take the Grey hound to see her for the weekend. She is actually a very selfish person. And has a martyr complex. lol And tends to threaten when she cannot get her way. I've suggested that she move here if she wants to be closer since there isn't anything there for her. But it's has to be about her. Thanks so far for all the input.
2007-07-14 09:07:21 · update #1
I know that some cities have rules about that for apartments -- check with the city ( perhaps a department that deals in apartment rules?)
In my experience, rules like that are not always enforced -- there are many people in your situation. If there is a city ordinance, someone might investigate if there is a complaint, but I am not sure about it.
When my kids were all young, we also lived in a 2 bedroom apt -- with a boy and 3 girls. There was never a problem. When we could afford to move to a three bedroom, we gave our son one room, the oldest girl another room ( she was 16) and the other two girls shared the biggest room. My husband and I slept on a foldout bed in the living room until the oldest moved out.
I think you are doing a great job with the resources you have. Don't let your mother talk you into moving back to her area. You need to do what works best for you --- by now you know you can't please your mother anyway!
2007-07-14 11:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 06:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Micheal I have never heard of this law either. I live an a place where living space is not very big unless your family is rich and your house is big. Well my house is not and neither are the homes of my family and friends so many of us have to or had to share our rooms with our siblings, some times boys and boys, sisters and sisters, and some times boys and girls and some time more than two or three to a room. I was your age and shared my room with my teen age sister, she sleptt on one bed and I slep on another, the good thing for her is she would pick my brain while she was trying to go to sleep, drove me crazy....Don't know if there is a law saying brothers and sisters can't sleep in the same room, it happens every day in poor and over crowded homes across every where. Is there a law? maybe, but it is better sleep in the same room as your sister than to sleep out side in the porch in the cold.... Take care and don't worry about it, only someone sick would have a problems sleeping with a sibling of the opposite sex. Good luck and Keep the Faith....PEACE....cya....
2016-05-17 21:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she call the police cause she cant see your kids? Here in California, I know there are grandparent rights laws BUT that's if you are denying visitation. I also heard there are agencies like HUD who require rooms for different sexes. But I don't thinks its illegal for them to share a room. I shared 1 room with my older sister and baby brothers. My 19 month old and 4 yr old share a room. If she wants you closer, tell her to move you into a bigger room. Or have her driver her butt out to see you!
2007-07-14 08:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never heard of such a law in fact I know several families where the children all share a room. Your mother doesnt deserve to see your children.
If your really worried just call the local police yourself and ask. They will probably laugh about it.
2007-07-14 08:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only "laws" regarding this are HUD laws. (Low income housing ) It sounds like you are doing the best you can in a rough situation. No one will take your kids away for that. And if your mom continues to threaten you I would remind her that very few states have laws regarding grandparent's rights. Which means she could lose her privileges as their grandmother if she doesnt back off.
2007-07-14 08:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Bookworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Michigan and I have also heard of a similar law here. I would call your county's department of Human Services and ask about it to be safe. If they can't help, they will at least point you in the right direction. :)
2007-07-14 09:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by jennifer k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mother to shut up and leave you alone. She has NO right to call ANYONE about you. You are doing your best and thats all we can do in this life. Don't worry about sharing rooms, it's mostly for foster/adopted kids, it has nothing to do with siblings. Your mother needs something to do, so tell her to find a life.
You have yours....
good luck !!! [[[ ]]]
2007-07-14 09:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent-To-Own Home - http://RentToOwnHome.uzaev.com/?jgDc
2016-07-12 07:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋