why would a guy want to get married to a woman that has kids from a previous relationship.
1st off, you would have to deal with the ex on a regular basis, and his family. Or worst the kid was a baby from a one night fling...sounds like you have a real winner huh?
Also- you have to deal with the kid, and you know how kids don't get along with the parents once the hormones kick in? Imagine hearing " f*ck you, your not MY dad" on a regular basis.
Also- these days with the economy what it is, you only have enough money to raise one or two kids. If you raise somebody elses kid, you are denying yourself the ability to have your own kid.
Or if you have another kid that is yours, how do you not favor your child?
What do you think?
2007-07-14 08:43:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and for everyone saying " the woman works too, it won't cost you money" I say "B.S.". If you are in a marriage the money becomes one.
I'm not talking about poor people, I'm talking about people with median incomes. You can't afford to raise, and send through college more than two kids these days-thats the fact.
2007-07-14 08:43:56 · update #1
if it is not for you do not do it .....................
2007-07-22 03:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by I AM BACK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you should not marry this woman. The only reason to marry someone is because you love them. Since you have never had a previous relationship with a woman (otherwise you would not think her having one was such a bad thing) you are no where near ready to marry anyone.
Raising step-children is not necessarily an easy task, but it can certainly be an enjoyable one. You don't "favor" your own child by being an adult and sharing yourself equally, not a big deal. Sure, there are problems, thats life and they occur in all relationships. You just need to grow up.
2007-07-22 04:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry someone you marry them because you love them and want to spend the rest of your life with them.
Yes a child is an additional part of the life you will have but it can also be a blessing.
Besides, how do you even know you can father a child, how would you feel if you want to have children and then after your married find out you can't father a child. Lot's of men can't and never find out until they try. Most men assume it's the woman that can't have kids, but that's not always the case.
Children are innocents, they did not ask to be brought into this world so don't take your insecurities out on them.
If you truly love someone you will accept them no matter what, as they do you.
2007-07-14 09:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband wanted me to marry him even though I already had four kids from a previous marriage. We also decided to have a daughter too. We love our family. It is always a struggle to raise kids that aren't biologically yours. We discuss everything and make punishment together. My kids learn to respect him because he is the other parent in our home. He provides food,shelter, and clothing for them too. They understand and respect that. We treat all the children the same. If college is your concern, start a college fund when they are young. Teach them the value of good grades and how to succeed through college. Most children will take a part time job to help pay their own way. I don't expect my kids to pay their own way. We just want to teach them college isn't given to you, you have to earn it.
2007-07-22 07:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if life was fair ....an *ss like you shouldn't be able to have children...do the world a favor and don't punish this world with another with your attitude! Children are absolutely wonderful my husband and I have a beautiful 4 month old daughter and I have a 5 year old STEP DAUGHTER that is blind....yeah that's right ...IT WORKS IN BOTH DIRECTIONS!...I love my daughterS....and my husband....him having a child before us doesn't bother me....I love her just as she is my own.
2007-07-22 08:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right, it costs so much money to just live with this economy and that person already is trapped into caring for a child. Ask your friend if he really wants to get involved in raising a child that is not his own. Ten to one this girl just needs help badly if she is alone and your friend will be stuck doing the supporting of this child - any money she gets from the child's father will not help in any way, poor guy.
2007-07-21 22:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is no love in your heart for anyone but yourself stay way from that child you will only bring harm to a young life. Play with your video games in your sur-real self centered world.
2007-07-22 01:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like someone is thinking very selfishly. If you marry a gal because you love her you are also getting a package deal! If you don't want that ready made family, you don't need to be getting married
2007-07-22 08:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never want to marry her with something like that once i clicked with this chick and when she told me she had a kid with another guy i was like ok c ya but she didnt take it that hard cause she said most guys dont like it
2007-07-22 06:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are obviously not a loving person. you are also selfish and unrealistic. your relationship does not have to be the way you discribed it if you are willing to compramise and be understanding. just stick to single girls with no kids and you wont have any problems
2007-07-22 08:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by im Zo fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce rate created blended families. THAT'S a FACT!
It's NOT her fault if her first marriage didn't work.
THAT'S ANOTHER FACT!
2007-07-21 06:31:00 · answer #11 · answered by Klingon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋