do you give people a second and third chance...?

Question

when you make mistakes... you expect forgiveness; why do we find it so difficult to give others that same courtesy?

Answer 1

yeah; i know what you mean; i have also been forgiven or pardoned for stupid "mistakes" i've made in my life; yet i am quick to judge others... wish i could change it...

Answer 2

I always tell my customers, "If you tell one of my people to do something or not do something, and they continue to do as they did before, I want you to fire them." Why? If they're that stupid as to not learn from their "mistakes," I don't want them as one of my associates. I expect the same from myself, too, by the way. If I keep doing the same thing over and over again and not learn NOT to do it, I don't want that customer to keep me.

As the old adage goes, "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."

Don't confuse forgiveness with courtesy. While it is nice to forgive someone, courtesy does not require it nor come automatically. Depending upon the "degree" of the offense, forgiveness may not be forthcoming at all, even upon the first offense.

I do not expect to be forgiven for my mistakes. Forgiveness is a "gift" given by the forgiver. To "expect" a gift is not polite. No, none of us is perfect, but forgiveness is never to be "expected," nor demanded. And how often that forgiveness is handed out is a personal decision.

Answer 3

A second chance is sometimes deserved, though not always given. If a person repeats a mistake on their second chance, already having been made aware once of their folly, then a third chance may be a foolish thing to give. The old expression goes, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

Answer 4

Depends on who it is, how much I care about them and how badly they messed up. For something small I'll give a lot of chances or just brush it off, if I found out someone was a real criminal, especially with violence involved, no way they'd get a second chance. This just isn't something with a simple yes or no answer!

Answer 5

The people I deal with most closely are my husband and kids, so when they make a mistake, I try to be kind about it, they apologize, and we start over. That's the only way for a family to survive, otherwise you're at each other's throats constantly and no one is happy.

Answer 6

if i know they deserve a second chance why not ,but some people keep on repeating the same mistake again and again and those whom i don't forgive

Answer 7

Remember when Jesus said that we are to forgive 70 times 7?

Meaning that there is to be no end to granting forgiveness to anyone.

Answer 8

I never expect a second chance, nor do I ever give one. Screw me over once, that's it. You're done.

Answer 9

I will give people a second chance, depending on what they did and why, but when they screw up the second time, that's it. It's game over. F*ck me once, shame on you, F*ck me twice, shame on ME!

Answer 10

people may give second chances, but they dont mean as much as the first.