Which of your parents was the disciplinarian?

Question

I'm wondering which one of your parents was the disciplinarian? Which one did you respect more as a kid and which one do you have a better relationship with now?

I grew up with two older brothers. Dad was the disciplinarian, mum was more of a softie. We obeyed Dad more as we knew he meant business. Some might say we respected him more, some might say we were more scared of him, I think it was a bit of both. He would smack us, not all the time but not infrequently, while my mum hardly ever did. My brothers also got the belt very occasionally for really serious things (this was in the late 80s/early 90s). I never did, I think because I was a girl, although I was threatened with it a couple of times.

My oldest brother was always close to my dad. The middle one used to clash with dad a LOT (they get on okay now, but still not brilliantly, although my brother now admits he used to be a pain) and I'm probably closer to my mum because I'm a girl. What about everyone else?

Answer 1

My mother was the disciplinarian. My dad was just a big softy.:) I now have a better relationship with my mother (although I still love my dad to pieces). My mother is one of my best friends. I can always count on her to be there for me and even smack some sense into me. She is a great grandmother to my three children. When I was little I always thought I had the best parents out there...still do.

Answer 2

Neither one. My stepfather was the disciplinarian, and a strict one at that. I guess you could say he was overly strict. At least that's what social services said.

I hated him and I still do. He's not my stepfather any more. Luckily for him, I don't know where he lives.

I still have good relationships with my mom, dad, and stepmother.

My dad was always strict and stern, but was never very good at discipline when I disobeyed him. So naturally, I disobeyed him all the time.

My mom was very good at discipline when she had to be. I wouldn't say I feared her per se, but I always knew when she meant business, and I knew there would be specific consequences if I disobeyed her. However, she was not very strict. My stepfather had been the strict one, and once he left, things were just peachy. She had very few rules in her household, so there wasn't really any way to disobey her in the first place.

My stepmother was always very kind and caring, and wouldn't hurt a fly. She wouldn't have been very good as a disciplinarian.

I would have to say my current relationship is probably strongest with my father, probably because I have more in common with him than I do with my mother. That, and the fact that I resented my mother for a time for allowing my stepfather to control my life. I have since forgiven her, and I will always love her. After all, she is my mother. I would consider our relationship to be a good one.

Answer 3

Dad was the disciplinarian. Mom did her share of the spankings, but Dad was the toughest. I heard the phrase "Just wait 'til your father gets home." more often than I got a spanking from her. I'm pretty close to both of them, but in different ways.

Answer 4

Both my mom & dad we're sort of the disciplinarians. But my dad the most though I would say. He was the guy whom if you crossed certain behavorial-boundaries, he could chastize you pretty belittlingly.

Answer 5

My dad was or still is the disciplinarian. but I was closer to my mother as she was more loving and easy to cuddle with,
you know there is a saying which I believe to be true
GOOD THINGS ALWAYS COME TO AN END

Answer 6

My dad definitely was mostly the disciplinarian in my family! But if I did something wrong my mother could cast out an unpleasant castigation when I was young!

Answer 7

My mom was the disciplinarian. As a kid I was much closer to my mom too and respected her more. Now as an adult I am closer to my dad and respect him more.

Answer 8

Mom was the only one who stuck around and raised us, Dad didn't even send any support money.
Mom got a job and paid for stuff, got our food, clothes, everything. Took care of the house, and everything else that we needed or wanted. And so she was the one who had to discipline, too. Dad just took off to do his own thing. Didn't care about us.
So guess whom I had the best relationship with?

Answer 9

My dad....mom was the easiest to be around...but, dad was a different story.....but as I got older I grew closer to my dad than my mom...weird huh...

Answer 10

my dad was disciplinarian most of time we are distance me and my mom best friends.