Smoking, family, friends and the right to tell me not to smoke?

Question

My friends and family tell me not to smoke but do they have the right to tell me that? I ask them to TRY to quit but they said no. (All I'm asking is to try) I need some answers please.

They still smoke in fornt of me so is not just as bad as me smoking?

I had bronchitis a couple of weeks ago and I don't smoke. My Mom get bronchitis about all the time but this is the first I got it. I could breath at all and keep on coughing too If I'm going to have the problems shouldn't I have the fun too?

Answer 1

You can request anything from anyone. That doesn't mean you will get it. Failed bargaining only serves to justify your continued smoking, as it's unlikely they will agree to your terms.

Smoking contributes to every kind of cancer, as well as heart disease, lung disease, pregnancy complications, and so many more problems.

Tobacco smoking is more addictive than most illegal substances and alcohol. A British medical study earlier this year concluded that according to their present criteria for classifying drugs, it should be among the top 10 most dangerous ones.

Often,the damage of smoking is undetectable until it is too late to reverse. That is part of what makes it so deadly.

People tend to live in denial of the danger until they are handed a life-sentence, thinking they will be the exception to that tragedy. Do you feel lucky, too?

Answer 2

Your question is a little confusing - am I getting this correct that you smoke and your family and friends smoke and they tell you not to smoke but you continue? Or is it that you don't smoke and everybody else does and they advise you not to start smoking?
Well, as a former smoker, this is a matter if "do as I say, not as I do". Smokers know first hand what an addiction cigarettes are. You would do well to listen to them.
As for getting them to stop smoking, be aware that a smoker must want to quit to even begin to have a chance at success. Quitting is a very personal endeavor. Your sentiments are admirable but until a person truly wants to quit there isn't much you can do besides let them know how you feel (you don't need to nag them on this since they are probably well aware of the dangers of smoking)..

Answer 3

'Trying' has a built in failure component - therefore asking them to 'try' is useless. Typically people are successful quitting only when THEY themselves want to do it. They're probably telling you not to smoke because they know from personal experience how difficult (and for some, impossible) it is to quit smoking. Accept the fact that you're powerless in this battle and ask them to just be more considerate when around you.

Answer 4

The more you push a smoker to quit, the harder it will be for them to do it. Smoking is a choice. After a while, you get addicted to the nicotine and it is really hard to give it up. I have heard people say that sometimes, it is harder to give up smoking than to give up heroin. I have tried to quit many times. I have even been given meds to do so. I was in the hospital for 5 months with multipls sclerosis and didn't want a cigarette the whole time. The minute I go out, I lit up. The biggest mistake I have ever made in my life.

Answer 5

Of course they have the right to tell you.

So do I.

Quit smoking, girl. The cigarettes will kill you!

You, of course, have the right to say No. You have the right to ask them to try to quit.

You might do better to negotiate something. You could say - "I'll quit if you do" or something like that.

That might be a little more productive than sitting around arguing about who has the right to say what. You ARE in the country with the right to free speech, after all.

Answer 6

People can be hypocritical, and I think no one should smoke. It's a filthy habit and your friends shouldn't worry too much about convincing you to stop, as much as they need to convince themselves to stop.

Answer 7

If they are going to be the ones lugging you around in your wheelchair toting your oxygen tanks to your doctor's appointments so you can get the medications to try to alleviate your shortness of breath and anxiety from the suffocating feeling you get because of your lung damage, well then -- yes they do.


Oh and you have the right to tell them to stop too.

Answer 8

my mother in law had to quit smoking because she was making her son deathly ill. he gets bronchitis when he's around smokers, seriously

Answer 9

don't start smoking it's a nasty habit and it's hard to stop once you are addicted ......

Answer 10

that called hipocracy, that tll you not to do it, yet they still do it themselves... they do have the right to tell you that, but it would be illegal to threaten you... i agree that you shouldnt smoke, but if you want to shorten you life span, then HAVE FUN WITH IT!