Today it was about 10 AM, and I was just getting out of bed. Half naked, eating my breakfast, feeding the dogs, and getting ready for a shower. Then, of course, the doorbell rings. I went and saw that it was my MOTHER'S friends from 3 states away. I don't even know these people, and my mother doesn't even live here. I basically told them to take a hike, and now I'm wondering if I was wrong to do that. They came completely unexpected, and rudely expected to be welcomed into my home on NO notice. Was what I did really out of line ? Or was it an expected reaction ?
2007-07-14 08:20:46 · 14 answers · asked by ♥♥♥ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Do you know these people? I think it was a little rude, they should've called first, but perhaps they were in town when it dawned on them they could pop by and see you. I guess it kind of depends on well you know them. Most of my mother's friends would be welcome in my house at anytime.. I would quickly get dressed or whatever.. but if you really don't know them that well, don't worry about it.
2007-07-14 08:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Tina W 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
They were unexpected and it is your home, so your reaction was understandable. They were rude not to call first, but in my experience, people are usually pretty clueless about situations like that. It was probably a spur of the moment thing on their part, and they obviously didn't know that you and your mom don't share an address.
If it was me, I would invite them in and go put some clothes on. Explain that your mom doesn't live with you, give them her address and phone number, and then say, "Excuse me, I was just headed for the shower when you arrived."
What you could do now is to call your mom and explain to her what happened.
Best wishes.
2007-07-14 15:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was rude. It would not have killed you to throw on some clothes and have them in for coffee out of simple respect for your Mother. Our actions do reflect on those who raised us! On the other hand, they were rude to drop by without calling, but that is not nearly as rude as telling them to take a hike!! If I were your Mom, I would be pretty irritated that you did not rise above the events and circumstances and handle it with a bit more courtesy and dignity.
2007-07-14 15:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by naniannie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were rather rude. Sure, they turned up un-announced, but you could have handled the situation in a much more dignified matter. It was 10am, not 6am. You could have atleast thrown some clothes on and invited them in and explained that your Mother doesn't live there and where they could find her. They weren't asking you for the world.
I know if I treated my Mothers friends like that, or anyone for that matter, I would get one hell of a hiding!
2007-07-14 15:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by KingOfTheWorld 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for starters, it depends on how you said it. you could have been polite and told them they should have called first because they caught you at a bad time and plus you mom doesn't live there. if you told them rudely (because you did just wake up) then that might have been a bit much. but you were not wrong. you can tell anyone to leave the place where you pay the bill anytime you feel like it, it's just how you say it.
2007-07-14 15:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe dear old Mom told them to stop & visit you if they were in town. But still, I don't think you were in the wrong. I don't even answer my door at all unless I'm expecting someone.
2007-07-14 22:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by ebonyruffles 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO of course not. You don't know them. It would be like letting perfect strangers in your house. Maybe it wasnt expected by them but it was definetly not out of line
2007-07-14 15:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by bluntly honest 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you had every right to do that if i was in your place i would have done the same thing rude or not but that was rude of them to just dropped by so i say you did the right thing and don't feel guilty about it either.
2007-07-14 15:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by rebelady28379 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i don't know how things are in America but i would say that was fairly rude. they probably just popped by to say hello or maybe they were sent by your mother because she was worried about you!!
2007-07-14 15:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by twinkletoes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't know them,they were unannounced,your mom don't live with you,they were her friends and it was 10 am.you didn't do anything wrong.they were rude and intrusive.if they could travel across three states they could have picked up a phone to announce their arrival.don't feel bad.
2007-07-14 15:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by moanalisa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋