im 17, ive been with my girlfriend for 6 months. we are not are not being silly but we both want to sleep together. How do I know if im doing it right, its making me feel sick with worry. all our mates and us are going away for the weekend to a wedding me and my girlfriend have booked a double room, its D day for me, but im so nervous now, could it all go wrong through nerves...........
2007-07-14 08:01:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sweet suzy - I do not have a religion, nor do I believe in God, for me science rule..
Some great tips on here guys, we are close and we do talk alot but i can't help but be scared about it, if it all went wrong she would be fine, i know that, i just want things to be good the first time you know what its like.......
2007-07-14 08:16:12 · update #1
Hon, when the time is right you'll know. You might still have some butterflies but you won't be worrying yourself sick. Trying to plan something this momentus gives you too much time to worry and doubt yourself. Don't feel pressured to have sex with your girlfriend at a set date and time. It will be memorable but the memory might not be a really good one. Just take it one step at a time, try not to stress/worry and make sure you have plenty of condoms.
2007-07-14 08:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're nervous and she will almost certainly be nervous too. So the chances are the sex will not be all that great. If you were more experienced you would both know that first-time sex is often not the best and you would not worry so much about it.
Doing it right is doing what your girlfriend enjoys. Different girls like different things so the only way you can know if you are doing what your girlfriend enjoys is to ask her to tell you. At 17 she won't know in advance what she likes but you can find out together.
Some people are advising you to wait. If this is your one chance to sleep together and then there won't be another opportunity for months then they are probably right.
2007-07-14 11:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by Alan_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
First all im 18 and had sex for the first time when i was 17, it was also my boyfriends first time too. you both seem in love and i think its great! anyway keeping on topic! first times are always awkward, with regards to anything, do not panic-it will be amazing and you both will remember it for ever. nothing will go wrong, have a bit of confidence and go with the flow, do what feels good and if she doesnt like it she will tell you and vice versa.
just promise me one thing tho-please use protection!!!!
Also on a side note between you and sweet suzy-i believe in God and also in science so you cant get out it that easy!! I believe that science does not disprove God but proves him all the more! everything is too perfect to have been created without God!! oh i would rant for hours on this!! sorry!!
2007-07-14 10:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by Tabbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a few beers (anymore than a few is another post..lol)
Its the most natural thing in the world, don't spend too much time thinking about it or you will worry.,,
believe me on the day, you will be so looking forward to it, and so will your girlfriend, you will have a few drinks at the wedding and hey presto, before you know it the deed will be done and you will be 'the man' for a good few days after..
I have to say it all goes down hill from there..lol..not really, but hey, enjoy it and stop worrying......
2007-07-14 08:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by LEXY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you two love each other it not going to be a problem. all you need to do is make her feel loved and just love her. her first time won't be so great because its supposed to hurt and afterwards she will probably be very emotional. But you will be there to comfort here so you don't have a problem... Just make her feel worth is and make her feel you are worth it...
2007-07-18 03:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by DarK-AnGeLs-OpiNioN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have sex until your wedding night. You will be committing fornication. Sex is only for married people.
Sex is something to be cultivated between two married people, it can improve over the years of a good marriage. Sex out of marriage is a sin and you carry the guilt of that and it really puts a damper on the whole thing, that should be a beautiful thing between, just you and your wife.
Don't do it, you will be totally disrespecting your girlfriend. The privilege of sex with her is reserved only for her husband.
2007-07-14 08:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Work through it together! Talk to her!
Unless she has had several partners, she is probably nervous too!
Not to give you another thing to worry about but...
YOU NEED TO RELAX! If you are nervous, you might not be able to perform.
2007-07-14 08:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Matt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont mean to put you off but alot of men have problems getting an erection the first time as they are paniking, especially when it comes to our little rubber friends. you have got to RELAX, make sure you are both comfortable with eachother and just start off with plenty of foreplay, that will get you in the mood. you must commuicate with eachother so you can say what it is that you both like. i hope it goes well for you, just relax and you'll be fine :)
2007-07-14 08:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by Venomous Doll 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just relax it will come naturally, no pun intented.. The more nervous you are the more mistake you'll make. If you both know that that's what you want, then go slow and enjoy discovering each other.
Good luck
2007-07-14 08:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by johanne 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be natural, im sure you know the jist of it. From what ive experianced, women like alot of foreplay.
2007-07-14 09:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Dealbreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋