i broke up with this guy almost 5 years ago he always cheated on me he was very jealous and he physically abused me once in a while i finally left his *** i have moved on and im very happy with my boyfriend now of 3 years the ex still calls and tells me that he loves me and that he wants to be with me i tell him im happy without him and that he should just understand the fact that i dont want to be in any kind of a relationship with him he has a girlfriend and a child now but he just doesnt understand what should i tell him why doesnt he get it already?
2007-07-14 07:46:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him one last time to move on, then stop answering his calls. Have your boyfriend answer or just ignore them altogether. He sounds kinda creepy to me. I can't tell you much about understanding guys, but there are some things you can do so he will catch the drift. I know you don't want to be mean but maybe that's what it will take. And you don't want it to continue because it will cause issues with your new relationship. If he continues, there are laws that protect you.
2007-07-14 07:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by kella l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't get it because you keep answering the phone. That is sending him the message that you do want to talk to him. Let him know the next time that he calls that you are being harassed by him and you will not put up with it any longer. Tell him that you will call the police and report him if he calls you again. He may start to call you from phones that you do not recognize the number. If you do get calls from unrecognized numbers then you should not answer it and the person can leave a message. If it was something important then you can call the person back right away. If it was him then save the message/messages and do just as you told him that you would do and call the police. The police will go and talk to him and give him their warning. If he continues after that call the police again and let them know that the harassment is continuing and they will take it from there. Hopefully he will get the hint after the police are called the first time. Sometimes that is all that it takes for them to get the hint. I hope that this helps. Remember it is not you that is getting him in trouble with the police, it is him and his actions that are doing this. Good Luck.
2007-07-14 15:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You keep talking to him so he thinks you still want to have a relationship with him. Tell him not to call again and stick to your guns. Unless you have kids with him, there is no reason to continue talking to him, especially if he is an abuser.
2007-07-14 14:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is very unhappy in the relationship he has now. Change your phone number, that should get the message across.
2007-07-14 14:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation you are in. I changed my number and all contacts with my ex and now I never get any calls. Trust me it works!
I hope everything gets worked out.
2007-07-14 14:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by Due 3/12/10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is about control. He wants to get you back in his clutches...Insecure men are jealous...and physically abuse women. It is very important for you to CUT him from your life. Perhaps your present boyfriend should make it clear to him (and NO...I don't mean in a violent way).
2007-07-15 20:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd consider that harrassment. Tell him that if he doesn't stop, you're going to call the cops. =\ Besides, he doesn't deserve to be with anyone. He's got serious issues if he's into abuse.
2007-07-14 14:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words: Restraining Order.
Or 3 words: Tell His Girlfriend.
Both ways should fix it.
2007-07-14 14:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps calling tell him if he really loves you he'll leave you alone and let you be happy.
2007-07-14 14:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by N33D H3LP 0r H3LP ME? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't get it because you keep talking to him.
Next time he calls,tell him you won't be answering his calls anymore and that his duty is now to his girlfriend and his child.
PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
End it!! and he'll get it.
2007-07-14 14:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋