why do guys always see only the appearance in girls rather than their true heart?

Answer 1

oh please, everyone notices appearance (including girls) first, but when it comes to dating, the personality greatly outweighs the looks most of the time

Answer 2

It is true that people have to be attracted to each other to get the ball rolling, so to speak. But, It's mostly young guys and they haven't the intellegence to know what to really look for. Most of them are shallow and only seeking to get laid. Any man who can't see the inner beauty of a woman isn't worth your time. Any man who isn't smart enough to take the time to get to know the true heart of a woman is more likely to end up with someone as shallow and self serving as he is (and visa versa). Looks fade but inner beauty stands the test of time.
Unfortunately, society has taught people that beauty equals a wonderful, full, rich, life. It is also, now teaching people that it's okay to have a baby and then get married if you feel like it *Angelina and Brad* and a lot of other "movie stars".
(not that A and B are adopting because they have a kind, loving heart. If that were the case, Brad would not have cheated on Jennifer and Angelina would not have fooled around with a married man). But I'm getting off track here, please excuse the rant, I just get so tired of those two trying to make everyone think they are such a wonderful couple, yeck!!

Answer 3

I resent that statement. It is natural for anyone male or female to be attracted to someone based on what they can see. I can only see the outside initially which is probably why it is the thing that I would be drawn to. It is after we actually get to know the person that we find out if we like their personality or not. I just don't understand why people ask this question so much. I mean would you go to some random ugly homeless person and take the bet that they have a good personality?

Answer 4

Because girls are really fake all the time and they don't show their 'true heart' to people they just meet. So the only thing guys have to go on when they meet a girl is their looks. Basically its your own fault how other people see you. But after someone gets to know you, the personality shines through and thats usually the reason girls get dumped.

Answer 5

The plainest answer is because the apperance is what you see first... until you truly spend the time to know someone, than you won't know their true heart... hell, people spend years together not truly knowing someone because people dont' let others see their true self because of fear, because as much beauty as in everyone's heart, there is also ugliness...
Girls do it as well, you look at someone you meet and you automatically make judgements (consciously or subconsciously)... sometimes we get to know someone and we are surprised.
And apperance.. does say alot about a person.. a girl who doesn't take care of her body (I dont' mean be stick thin, spend 200 a mo at the Salon)... I mean HEALTH WISE... a guy who is very concerned with health would not simply get along with someone who is obease, their values do not match up. Same with the reverse... a girl who likes to go hiking and mountain climbing... would want a partner who can share that with her, not an obease video-game obsessed ding-dong eating fatty.
An emo goth would not get along with someone who is VERY fashion concerned whether it is because of vanity or because they believe fashion is art. So, compatibility wise, the judgements you make physically and internally about someone is important... and valid.

Answer 6

From sight the love born or something, thats the rule for the most of guys; however if the looks is not supported by a true heart, it doesn't last long.
As was written up there, the few good guys can see the true heart

Answer 7

Because guys don't have x-ray vision so they can't see through the skin.

*cough*

A lot of girls(and guys) are fake. They put on a show for people around them and the majority of the time they get lost in that fake world of theirs. Guys and girls are sometimes unable to tell if that person is real or fake so instead of having an aneurysm on deciding if the girl is real or fake, they just go by who's hot and who's not.(this was just to answer your question.)

When something or someone attracts a person's eye, they will look and probably stare.

Answer 8

Three reasons: first impressions of someone are always begun with seeing the person first. Second, American society tends to constrain how little boys are brought up to be less emotional than girls, so boys tend to understand emotions and feelings less. Third, the more sensitive boys tend to get their asses kicked verbally and physically by boys who can't comprehend seeing a girl for who they are as a person.

I think I tended to be one of the more sensitive types growing up. Being more sensitive didn't help my popularity, and tended to make me an outsider to groups of popular kids. You might want to give a chance to guys who are less popular for this reason. We're out there, we're all ages and kinds, and don't want to treat women like dirt.

Women or girls who gravitate towards the "bad boy," or seem to be attracted to men (or boys) that treat them like crap are reinforcing the insensitive behaviors that tend to be taught to boys.

By the way, if you give guys who aren't model-perfect a chance, they may give you the same chance as well if you're not model-perfect either. Good luck!

Answer 9

We may notice the outside first because it's what you see But I notice the soul after talking to a woman & that determines my outlook of their character & if it's my kind of person I want to better me & them I talk to anyone so the heart is what captures me looks fade in the matter of a warm heart

Answer 10

Guys are more visual, by they do see our true heart, eventually, when they are older, just give them some time to grow up. Until then just have fun being young, and don't worry so much about them.

Answer 11

Initial liking starts with physical attraction. This is applicable for both guys and girls.
Matured lovers looks for inner beauty rather than outward beauty and looks for true love.