how of fen should you have sex???

Question

me 25 / her 31 been together for 1 year. we both work 2 jobs, and have sex maybe 1 every other week if i'm lucky... pissing me off i'm half temped to get a mistress

Answer 1

Don't cheat! Nothing good can come from it long-term!

Sounds like you have scheduling problems. In today's society, people are more busy than they used to be. However, you should still set aside a morning/night to be romantic.

You should have sex as much as the two of you, mutually, want it. Once a week should be possible (and would give you both something to look forward to/get you through a rough week!)

Good luck!

Answer 2

I love sex even though i have two jobs there is always time for sex. You should at least have sex every day only for 20-30 mins. If she does not want it than something is wrong, you should try romantic sex she is probably fed up of the same thing over and over again, tell her how much you love her every day, and if that does not works then you should really get a mistress in that way you would get it anytime you want but after you'll get fed up and turn back to her. Try being angry for 2 days.

Answer 3

you both work 2 jobs and who does all the housework and cooking and such. Maybe someone has 3 jobs and is more tired, more resentful, more pissed off than you. Try taking off some of that burdon by helping out and that will fix some of the resentment she might not even realize she feels at having to do all the dirty work. Try to make things easy and nice for her and I bet things will turn around. If you get a mistress you might as well spare everyone the drama and just break it off right now. is it worth it to you to put in some extra effort? Or do you just want to cut and run?

Answer 4

I prefer to have sex everytime I see my boyfriend unless we are both so tired and exhausted we crash out... which happens once every 1.5 weeks... But people's sex drives run different, if you are not satisfied with the frequency... here are a few questions to ask yourself:
Have you initiated or do you expect her to initiate? If she isn't initiating, have you talked to her about it? Have you told her you would like to have sex more often?
How does she respond when you do initiatie? Is she truly tired or is it because she just is not attracted to you anymore?
Good partners (1stly wouldn't consider getting a mistress), they talk about their issues, all their issues... I think people are sqeamish when approaching the topic of sex.
Try, try again... 1stly you cannot get discouraged from initiating. 2ndly, communication is KEY, ASK in a way that makes you sound like you're concerned, not attacking: "Babe I'm a little worried that I'm doing something wrong or you're not attracted to me anymore." then tell her, "we haven't been as sexual as we used to and I want more of that... " or straight come out tell her, "we HAVE to have sex tonight, I'm starting to worry there's something wrong with us" in a joking tone... there isn't any issues that a little humor can't lighten up...
I understand the 2 jobs thing... I have a very full schedule as well, believe me... but I guess, thats when priorities come into play... if its that important, maybe you don't sleep as much... maybe she's more ready for a romp in the morning than in the evening... work together, talk it out.
And if it doesn't work and you are constantly frustrated - DUMP HER - because a good partner would want you to be 'taken care of' - do not stoop to the level of cheating.

Answer 5

Don't get a mistress! You both sound pretty busy, so if you want to have sex more often, make time for just the two of you. Go to a movie, make a romantic dinner, offer to help with the work around the house, anything so that you both have more time for sex. Tell her you want it more often. Ask her how you can make it better. And remember, lack of sex never killed anybody.

Answer 6

Me 39, him 38...he works all flipping day!
Leaves at 6 am and returns sometimes as late as 1,2,3 am!
When do we have sex? When ever HE wants it!
I do NOT demand it from him...And we still make love anywhere from 10-50 times a month...BTW- i am 7 months pregnant!

I was working 2 jobs...but now one is out for the summer and the other I took maternity leave. So I am full time home maker and mom!

Lord, child...get off of her and let her lead. She is probably so damned tired she can't think straight!
then you go off on I want want want....how about..

"Darling, can I make love to you and make you feel good?" Then massage her back and warm her up...next thing you know you get a little love in return!

Blessings n luck

Answer 7

So, what do you do? Once every two weeks say, "C'mon baby, do me." She's tired. Why don't you try a little romance. Get out of the routine. Catch her someday when she is just taking off her coat. Swing her in your arms and say "I've been thinking about you all day, and I couldn't wait to hold you". Or make her a bubble bath with a nice glass of wine (wine is always good for seduction). Let her know you want her more without whining.

Answer 8

If you are both working two jobs, you should be exhausted at the end of the night. Tell her you miss her and want to be with her more often, but don't threaten to get a mistress. She may be having some stress issues at her jobs and doesn't want to bother you with them.

Answer 9

mind me but "u definitely SUPPOSE to ha sex when u are married" but mean y are u so thirsty for sex. Sex, u can get tha anytime, anywhere once u all reach the point in havin it, u jus got to a patience. and women don't got feelings fo rsex tha much as men do, but u kno, balance urself, the days tha u want sex it will happen, jus ha patience "an u still having it very regular" lol

Answer 10

couple of times a week.. but help out around the house, do things for her and if that doesn't work then talk to her ask her whats going on. Try diffrent places it doesn't always have to be in the bedroom.