am going to marry my indian boyfriend soon, everything was great untill he told me that his ex-wife asked him to return. I love him so much but am afraid if he will accept his ex-wife again for his kid's reason. He had 2 daughters from her and his ex-wife left him with another guy. She lives in NZ now while my boyfriend lives in UAE. after 4 years my bf finally get contact with their daughters and he is very shocked knowing that his daughter's life is unhappy . I know about his feeling abt this, for me, there will be no problem if the kids want to live near the father as long as his ex-wife not ruin our life. Please tell me what to do ...
2007-07-14 06:41:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He has children. He if wants to try to reconcile with the ex, you need to let him go.
Also, you need to let him make the decision as to whether or not to attempt to reconcile by himself. Do not try to influence him at all.
And I'm sorry. I know that is very hard on you, but it is the right thing to do.
2007-07-14 06:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Suz123 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs to try to get custody since his children aren't happy with their living arrangement. If he loves you he won't go back to her there is a reason she is an EX! As long as he is open and honest with you and is willing to let you participate in that life with him then there is nothing to worry about. You continue to plan a wedding, and obviously you have accepted that he had another life and has another life just become part of it and if that can't be done then you should move on because he really isn't serious about sharing his life with you. But it sounds like he does so talk to him tell him how you feel calmly and ask him to involve you with his girls. Hope this helps
2007-07-14 06:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by kella l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is surely going to take a look at to peer you once more. Even as you could have extreme feelings for him (and silly adequate the entire ruin up and wife factor may make them appear rather a lot deeper than they are) he is in a very harassed or simply undeniable malicious factor in his existence. That is certainly no longer the style of man or woman you are going to wish to have inside and outside of your lifestyles. I'd additionally advise that it does your soul just a little good to remain out of the middle of a marriage (whether or not separated or not). It's great that you don't have any contact with him so you're correct but I feel that you're still reeling slightly from this. It simply takes time. A part of it is the break up and questions about how he feels about you. Had been you really important? You had been main on the time but obviously his marriage was somewhat more primary to him and that's just how it's. That does not make you unfit as a person or anything not up to pleasant, in any case you weren't the one that was separated and carrying on relationships in a unstable time to your lifestyles, he was. Hear, i've been in this main issue (genuinely on both aspect in a technique (it was once no longer even as I was married)), move on and do not be buddies with him FB. How is he telling his spouse that you are not most important but wishes you on FB. I might be so indignant and damage if I learned that my husband had a lady friend that he dated in the course of our separation on facebook. To find any person who is free of the drama and is in the market just for you!
2016-08-04 04:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by nembhard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you may be concerned of his feelings for her, because 4 years surely shows that he can live without raising his children, approach with caution your treading dangerous territory, was with a man for 7 years the second I broke up with him he went directly back to his ex and children, I suddenly felt nothing but disgust with myself for not letting go in the beginning.
2007-07-14 07:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by jdydewing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman are ruthless, it's just international. You have to listen to your gut. I had a ex-boyfriend who was dumped by his ex girlfriend and he still would contact her and still stay in touch her parents too. He even wanted me to meet her parents. Mind you he was never married to her, no kids nothing but my gut told me he was still in love with her. It was very hard but I told him to never call me again. A year later, I bumped into his sister and found out he was marrying her. She got divorced, moved back to the states and that was that. I knew in my gut that it wasn't right. Listen to what he is saying. No what you want him to say. This ex-bf would write letters to her during xmas and never ask me if this bothered me. If you plan on staying with him he should respect your priorites, it's only going to get worse. Listen to your gut!!
2007-07-14 07:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lyla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, im over him now, but 2 years ago i was in love with this guy, he has and ex wife and 2 boys, it hurt me every time he would go over there and see his boys while i was left behind. i finally got tired of it and dumped him. but it was the hardest mistake i ever had to do.
2007-07-14 06:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been with my bf for over 2 yrs. his exwife asks all the time for him to get back with her and their daugther to make a family for her. and she misses him and loves him still and all that cr@p.
he tells me often that he's where he wants to be and there is a reason she's an ex now. he confirms often he's not going anywhere and i trust that.
if you are engaged and get married go for custody of the child.
no sense letting the child be unhappy.
ex's suck and there is no real good way to ignore or aviod her if you are marrying him. just grin and bear it and kill her with kindness.
trust what you have with him and don't get paranoid about it.
encourage him to fight to get custody of his daughter to bring her in to YOUR family together.
2007-07-14 06:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-02 08:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋