Why christians hate when children ask questions . ..?

Question

... and usually lie and tell them myth stories..???

actually I put thumbs down for all the answers which I don't like :-)

Answer 1

Not just Christians sweetie!...telling lies to children is an almost universal failing of adults! Why do adults lie to children? Many reasons...

One common reason is that they don't know the answer; but, they don't want to admit they don't know because they are afraid the child will think less of them if they admit it! ...and not just with children. I've been teaching for nearly 20 years and if I had a dollar for every time a student made up an answer to one of my questions because he or she didn't want to admit that he or she hadn't read the book or studied...well, suffice it to say that I wouldn't be teaching any more...I'd be retired to my private island!

Sometimes they lie because they are protecting themselves or their image. Shame or embarrassment can also lead to lying. ...and sometimes they just want to have fun at the kid's expense. Christians aren't the only ones that sit their kids on Santa's knee and encourage their children to believe in that myth...the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny, and many other myths are shared regularly with children of all faiths including atheism.

Personally, I find lying to children to be abhorrent. I remember a few years ago when a girl I know very well found herself pregnant following a "no strings" one-night-stand. When she tried to contact the father, he made it clear at the beginning of the conversation that he wasn't interested in getting to know her better or having a relationship with her so she decided NOT to tell him about the baby. I remember being SHOCKED at the number of people that suggested she would have to lie to her child later if she made this decision. Christians and non-christians alike suggested that she should make up a story about the father such as artificial insemination or that the father had died. When she (and I) questioned them about why they thought lying was necessary, they gave various reasons but nearly all could be condensed in to the following, "if you tell your child the truth, he won't respect you"! Hogwash! What children really don't respect is people that lie to them!...and the truth has a way of coming out when you least expect it. For example, a person I know that told her child that his father was dead and then had to contact the father when her son needed a bone marrow transplant...when one of the father's relatives turned out to be a match, the whole story came out. The boy is still struggling to trust his mother again!

My own mother made this mistake when I asked her if she was a virgin when she married my dad. For most of my life, she insisted that she was and used her example to encourage me to remain a virgin. She went so far as to tell me that sex outside of marriage wasn't fulfilling and that I should wait...but something just never rang true. If she was a virgin when she married, how did she know anything about sex outside of marriage?...and it also seemed highly questionable that a woman could go to college, be in the military and travel all over the world, and remain a virgin until she was in her 30s! In hindsight, I might have taken her advice if she had told me the truth and shared her experiences. Instead, I ignored her and went my own way...and later, when I finally forced her to admit the truth I felt betrayed. Fortunately, we were able to work through this...she asked my forgiveness for lying to me and we were able to become very close for the last 10 years of her life by being honest and open with each other instead of trying to hide the truth to protect our respective images!

I can't speak for every other Christian, but I know that I do NOT lie to my child! He is one of the few children in his class that knows the truth about Santa, the tooth fairy, the stork, and all the other common childhood myths. When he asks a question and I don't know the answer, I say, "I don't know" and we try to find the answer together (thus teaching him that learning is a lifelong process!). When he asks a question that I don't think he's mature enough to understand, I tell him that I don't think he's ready to hear the answer yet but that I will tell him the truth when he is ready. For example, at five, my son didn't need to hear the full truth about why I got divorced and I wasn't stupid enough to burden him with it...instead I told him a small part of the truth and told him that I would tell him the rest when he was old enough to understand more about the nature of relationships!

Answer 2

Yo thomas I see you put thumbs down on EVERY question.
FFS, this has nothing to do with Christianity or any religion as far as I know. Who wrote that you should do more reading before posting such stupid questions is right, do so. Do you really think children have the ability to actually understand an answer for certain questions they put ?And Christians dont hate when children ask. Period.As is not only about religion, like i said, people dont want their kids to be mature to early.
That's all. Now you should have a BIG thumb down ffs. Get outta here!

Answer 3

Thomas, I've seen some of your other questions. Are you sure your parents gave you permission to use the computer? Are you sure it's safe for you to use the computer?

Okay, all sarcasm aside. I'm not a Christian or a believer of any sort either but, good grief, do you have to be so obvious in your attacks on Christians. Remember, even though we don't believe what they believe, Christianity, for the most part, is widely believed in this country and without it most people wouldn't have the inner fortitude to retain a moral stance. Best to remain a non-believer and keep your big mouth shut than to convince Christians to abandon their religion and get something much worse, like the vile, violent, head-chopping muslims. Think about it.

Answer 4

I don't believe this has anything to do with Christianity. I can't ever remember hating when my children ask me questions and now i have grandchildren asking me questions so fast that i can hardly answer one before being asked another one but, it doesn't bother me at all and in fact, i actually love it. Perhaps your talking about bad parents which might include some Christians but i in no way think it's just Christians by any means. Maybe you should look further into things before asking such stupid questions, you think?

Answer 5

I ENJOY it when my kids ask questions!
I am a Substitute Teacher as I hope my kids (students) ask questions.
In those times that "a sensitive subject" is asked, I usually recant the stories that my Grandmother tells. These stories are commonly so Outrageous that the kids take another perspective as it helps them to better understand their own questions.
Isn't this the ultimate objective, to help kids think for themselves?

Answer 6

Again, Thomas, I wouldn't tell children myths and stories if I knew they were false. I do my best to tell everyone what I believe to be the truth. What do you believe? I'd like to know, and again I extend an invitation to you to have a civil conversation about your convictions and mine. I think we would then gain a better understanding of each other, don't you? IM me or email me any time.

Answer 7

I do not hate it when children ask questions- how else are they going to learn the truth. My 15 year old daughter, is a Christian, and she asks questions all the time about her faith- there is nothing wrong with that. And about lying- that is not true either- don't judge us if you don't want us to judge you

Answer 8

First of all, Christians love children and their questions. There are different levels of competence when dealing with children and their questions -- and I agree that some of the explanations definitely rate a description of 'mythological'.

However, this is more a function of a persons ability to handle a question appropriately than hatred of a child's questions.

The beginning of knowledge is the realization that something is unknown and therefore the root of questions is the process of learning.

We should take the questions of our children more seriously and answer their questions thoughtfully because they are the future.

Answer 9

If your talking about their religious stories about heaven, God and Adam and Eve...those stories it's because they believe them themselves.

But if your not talking about that it's probably the parent not them being Christian, they don't know how to deal with the child and want to "protect" the child from the "bad" things in the world.

Answer 10

I remember when I was little, I'd ask all kinds of questions about god and the bible (I grew up in a conservative Christian family). I asked about what would happen to people who didn't know about Jesus, like what if they lived on some remote island or something. "Would they go to hell if they didn't know about Jesus?"

My mom said, "No but it's our job to go over there and teach them if we can find them."

Then I'd ask, "Why would you bother them if they're happy and don't know about Jesus? If they're innocent because they're uneducated about the bible, then wouldn't it be better to leave them alone? If you tell them about Jesus and they don't want to believe, then you've doomed them to hell."

My mom said, "Why wouldn't you want to know about Jesus? That's so sad. If I were you, honey, I would stop asking so many questions and just believe. God doesn't like people questioning him."

Essentially every time I'd ask a question, my mom would warn me that God doesn't like to be questioned. But I just never "bought" into Christianity, even as a little child. I don't think it's smart to stop asking questions.