the question is: how can i convince my stuborn parents about datin??? how can i make them ok with the fact that im datin a guy and that we like each other??
well, heres the story...im 16 years old and i dated this guy who's 18 years old since 2 years and im still datin him. we like each other very much and hes a cute..handsome...sexy..kind...sweet...understandable guy.
well, the problem is that my parents caught us talkin with each other on the phone and they didnt agree ,,they shouted on me and punished me and they asked my BF 2 leave me .. but he said that he likes me and wants me and i also talked with my mom about datin and that i like this guy..
the point is that my family doesnt know my BF...i tried 2 convince them that hes not like the others..i swear hes very sweet and a gentleman but that didnt change their mind..we tried many thing like: talkin 2 them about the fact that im a teenager..tell them that we r not havin sex..and lettin them 2 talk 2 him and knowin about him
2007-07-14 05:29:41 · 14 answers · asked by yasmeen q* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but all of it went down..it didnt change their mind..im still talkin 2 him secretly cause i don wanna my parents 2 kill me..i want my parents 2 know about our love but im afraid they will refuse again..
we r thinkin about stayin with each other and we promised 2 stay with each other till we finish college then he can purpose...
so how can i convince my parents about my future fiance??? oh by the way additional point: his parents know about our relation and they r ok with it but the problem is with my own parents..plz answer honestly and help meeeeeeeee in this mess!!!
and thank u....
2007-07-14 05:37:15 · update #1
im still waitin 4 an answer
2007-07-17 04:45:38 · update #2
WOW,' It seems you've already done from what I've known about some parents !!.. You've been open & honest as`far as your romantic intrest !! wnen I've known lots of kids `round my age years&years ago,' to know of whom I talk to or even like !! & yes basically the samething goes on in MOST homes ;-{} I truly feel that your same or like instance is ONE reason kids starts to hide things from parents !!. Atleast you are TRYING to be open & honest about it !! Especially since I'll bet they have'nt even tried to get to know of or about said intrest !! ;-`{ SoO sorry !!. Just try & maintain a friendship with they guy !! & maybe they'll come around !?! Now you might get up`tight do to the advancements in your relations with this person !?! Try to re`main friends & let parents on both-sides see that you `'r"R"'r` JUST FRIENDLY !! then maybe in due-time you both can move forward successfully!?! just try & be patient !! furthermore If SEX ever comes up between you two.. Then taking the time may be what's needed !! because then you'll see his heart or true colors/intent concerning you !!?!!
2007-07-21 23:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are only 16 and have alot of life to live. You don't think so, but you do. You have to finish high school, college, and then hopfully you will experience some of real life, as an adult. You need to be old enough to make decisions, and if you think you are an adult and can lie to the two people that love your the most then , you are not an adult. This young man is only 18 , has to go to college, get a job, and hopfully a good one to afford a family. That is a long time down the road, and he will pressure you for sex, which will produce a child, which you will have to raise, and your chance to have all the things I said before are gone, because then you will be a parent and have to think of what is best for your child. Now you know what your parents are going thru. They want you to be able to grow and experience life without a child.
2007-07-22 05:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were just like that when I was 16 actually even at 18 years I had a hard time. I am afraid there is not much to convince them that this guy is a good guy unless he drops over at ur house with some friends when ur parents are home. I don't know, just an idea.... parents are sometimes strict but soon enough they will realise that its time to let go. Just it takes a while for some to get that. I am 27 years old now and my parents can give a damn where i am as long as I am safe cause they know if anything happens they are the first to know...sometimes its better when parents are that strict cause it helps you make less mistakes when you're young, well at least for me. I imagine now that kids are being introduced to adult things at such an early age it is harder for your parents to let go. Just try to let them see that they have raised a good girl with a steady head on her shoulders and you are capable of taking care of yourself.
2007-07-22 04:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that your parents love you but there is no book that gets issued at your birth that deals with the correct way to address problems like this. Trust is the basic issue here. They either don't trust you or they don't trust him. I bet it's a little bit of both. OK OK I know you're upset but here's my advise understand that boys and girls go through a change when emotions run wild we all have to go through it and old farts like me can still remember what it was like. You can't explane it to a young person it's something you have to experiance alone but with it comes the right of passage. Time drags on like a huge ball and chain when your that age. The biggest problem with young people is to many words to explain what they're feeling. Find a poem called the DESERDERATA and read it then read it again and again. have your parents read it then talk slowly about how you feel and leave out the part about getting married down the road that scares me and I don't even know you.
2007-07-22 01:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly since most couple's do it with the lights off what is the problem. If your husband is not saying anything and he is fine wioth who you are then why be so paranoid. Smart sensitive men know that there wife's body will have changes with child birth and well pregnancy. It sounds to me lioke you haave some personal issues with your physique if so get tom the gym talk to a trainer and lose the excess belly bulge. Really though it sounds to me like your hubby loves you for who you are and not what you look like on the outside and that is what you want. Be happy you have a caring happy husband and it is all phychological you have just lost excess weight and well noi you have some flabby skin if you can afford it some women consider tummy tucks to get rid of the excess skin but really diet and exercise will work just as good. Congrats on the baby and just stay happy. May God Bless You and your Family.
2016-05-17 11:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to parents its very difficult for some to accept that their little girl is growing up, in their own way they are trying to hold onto you as long as they can. They may take a long time to come around, it is hard to say. What ever you do stay a virgin, a parent can charge him with statutory rape him being 18 and that will ruin his life even if you are both in love the courts dont see it that way, to protect him. Parent can do some crazy things when they are scared. They may be thinking hes only after sex and your too young, believe me my folks done the same thing to me. We had to suffer it through till I was 18. Good things come to those who wait, have patience and give it time. Dont try to push it on them, still be good, do good and show them by your actions that you are being responsible and are more mature than they realize. As far as getting them to see your side, that only God can do, I know I couldn't get my parents to give an inch but little by little they weakened and got to know my boyfriend. I hope yours turns out better in the end than mine did. Good luck I'll keep my fingers crossed for you I know exactly where your coming from. I'll pray for you too.
2007-07-22 05:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't move out with him until after you are 18!!!!! And if you are having sex, better not let your parents find out. He is legally an adult and charges can be filed on him for sex with a minor. As a parent, I understand your parents position on this issue, but I was in your shoes at 16 myself. My dad wouldn't let me date this guy I did it anyway. It was not fun. It happened again when I was 21, I was still living with my parents and again he wouldn't let me date him. Life was hell!!! If you love him and he loves you I wish you good luck. I know your pain, but you should know, that neither of those guys I am with today. A friend of mine graduated high school and left with her high school sweetheart and got married. They are not together either...... Good luck sweetie.
2007-07-21 11:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Laura B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this problem once so i know exactly where ur coming from... i was totally in love wit this guy and i was dating him secretly for 3 years. but in the end, they were rite - he broke my heart badly
but in ur situation - i think keep seeing him even tho ur parents are against it (not the best advice) but if its meant to be, u two will still be going strong long after they decide that your old enoff to make the right decision on who u should date. just stop flaunting it in their face...
2007-07-22 04:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to have it out with your parents
no parent has the right to determine their children's relationships
weather they are making there chilld agree to chastity or simply not to have a bf/gf it is wrong
it is the childs life and not theirs
ask them how they met
did they not date?
were they not together as teenagers?
if none of that works
look your mam straight in the eye and ask her if she wants grandkids
it'l scare the $hite out of her
just remember you are in the right
they are in the wrong
argue for as long as it is necessary
if it doesn't work tell them you want to go to counselling so an adult can show them how wrong they are
honest to god, people who act like your parents do towards their children piss me off
if i hadn't met my gf i'd be on hard drugs by now...not goin to college
2007-07-21 15:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parents will never understand... until it's time to... either you can move out and live with him... or just be secretive until the right time to make it known... but for being supported financially... good luck, especially if you move out. Just gotta wait and see what they will do in the future... only you can know that, since they are your parents... what about his parents? are they supportive... if so, move in with them...
2007-07-21 03:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋