she likes kissing .for hours..!!!!!!really!!she likes touching me....she likes it to sitting on my lap and kissing....but i brought up the "sex" topic and she told me that this is very special for her...that she only will do it with someone she loves..she tells me that she is virgin ...but she also telling me that she kissed in the past a lot of boys and that she enjoyed it to sitting on their laps too...isnt thatsex too?and now she wants children!(i asked the question about children today in yahoo answers)
but isnt kissing ..touching....sex too?i personally believe thats sex too!!and btw....i dont want to make children with a girl that tells me that sex is disgusting...she tells me intercourse is disgusting but she wants children too! isnt that overly stupid?
i mean..i dont want to make sex after turn off the lights and without any pleasure only for making children...
2007-07-14 04:22:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she is young & confused. Does she not know that sex is more than just babies?
She sounds like my inlaw- no sex unless it is for procreation.
Ridculous!
Sex is about pleasure and learning about each other in intimate details. However, I do believe that it should be between Husband & wife, but I know that I cannot change everyone!
Uh, sitting in your lap is not sex. Unless you penetrated her while she is there, then yes that is sex.
Kissing & touching is called "Fore play" But it is not considered as sex.
I wish I could speak to you more, but like I said..
Sex is not just about making children...
it should be about MAKING LOVE with the person who holds your heart
Blessings n luck
2007-07-14 04:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wellllll kissing and rubbing is considered as innopropriate as sex... when you're 10... kissing is like the farthest thing from sex and sitting in your lap is just something affectionate like kissing. Touching isn't sex but depending on where you touch it could be considered foreplay (close, but not exactly) If she wants kids but doesn't wanna have sex she's outta luck and really just give her time and don't nag her about it and maybe she'll think about it later on and want to, but from what you're saying you're not even experienced enough in a relationship to be having sex, sex shouldn't come into a relationship for a good 8 or 9 months, and at your age it should really be about 11... but either way most people don't wait that long so just make sure she's ready if you do it.
2007-07-14 04:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Blake K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing and sitting on laps is not sex, you have some weird ideas about sex, but obviously so does your girlfriend. Maybe she's from a deeply religious family that has taught her over time that sex is bad and is only for making children. Don't push her into something she's not ready for. As your relationship matures, she'll feel closer to you and want to have sex with you, but if you push the issue with her, she'll start to associate more bad things with sex and maybe she'll do it, but she'll resent you for making her do something she didn't want to do and you'll drift apart. Don't force the ideas about how sex is pleasure to her, let her figure it out for herself by when you do have sex, be very attentive to her and make sure she's comfortable.
2007-07-14 04:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
na you worry to much! If she is a virgin then the thought of sex being discusting is a safegard aginst sex so that she can stay a virgin. I honestly give her props. It's hard to stay a virgin. I'm not sure how old you both are but if you love her then wait. If your just trying to get laid then move on and let her keep her virginity. Giving up virginity is a special thing and it should go to someone that loves her when she's ready to give it up. I just wish I had hung onto mine a bit longer. It would have been better for my self esteem.
2007-07-14 04:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by ARMY WIFE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, how old are you two, like 15-16???... and wow she's a tease.. but if you keep pressuring her about sex then thats all she's gonna think you want from her.. if she's says she's a virgin i will have to believe that, i remember i was very "naughty" with boys before i ever had sex.. so she says that she will only have sex to make a child? thats kinda weird and very confusing.. i would say tell her that she doesn't make any sense.. but then again who knows what she has down there, a big hair ball, yeast- bacterial infection, a penis, s.t.d.'s.. i dont' know theres alot more behind why she says all that and then acts like she does.. slutty but no sex... i dont' know about all this i'm really confused, never met anyone like that before.. good luck and best wishes!
2007-07-14 04:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to respect her wish and respect the fact she is a young women with moral values. About the fact she thinks intercourse is disgusting ....well she never had any so she is just talking through her hat for now. If you disagree with keeping sex till later then you should not let her believe you're a serious prospect for her and go look for another girl with less moral values. Would of been nice if you had mentionned both your age.
2007-07-14 04:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things -one it's her body. She has the right to say no penetration please.
Two, she has a problem with sex. She's the kind of woman who in the past could have made a psycho-analyst very rich, or at least very busy.
Considering the messed way sex is presented in our culture I'm only surprised all women are totally neurotic about it.
It's unlikely she is ever going to change. If you can't handle the situation, respect her but move on.
2007-07-14 04:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by brianjames04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing and sitting on guys laps isn't sex. Otherwise we would have a lot less virgins in this world. She's just not ready for sex yet. Give her time. She'll come around.
2007-07-14 04:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet she's been raised to not have sex until she's married. She pushes it as far as she can without going all the way. She sounds really young and immature. Sex is when your penis goes into her ....somewhere... Sex is not kissing and rubbing, that's making out. She may say sex is disgusting, but I bet she really doesn't mean it...I hope she don't anyway. You need to see all the different people out there. There are LOTS of fish in the sea. They are all different.
2007-07-14 04:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Becky F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No touching and kissing is not considered sex. at least not for me and it seems like this girl is just playing around and trying to be funny with the children stuff.. Give her some time to be ready for sex. there is no rush! one step at a time.
:) good luck
2007-07-14 04:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by ~Sweet Allie~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋