my grandfather died in 2004, My parents also devericed its all been down hill from then, whenever i here that stupid song by avrl lavgine "i miss you" i start sobbing. sometimes i feel like hideing there has been severial accastions where i havent ate. because i would get myself sick. ever since then ive been "anti-social" and teachers have called my mom about it. ive been haveing weird dreams where i was driveing somewhere and i hit my grandpa with the car and killed him, but he died of a heartattack! how can i get over him, and what does my dream mean?
2007-07-14 02:02:06 · 9 answers · asked by alyssa baybee 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
ohh yeah, forgot to add this i allways do just so ya know im only 12 i was 8 when he died
2007-07-14 02:20:21 · update #1
I'm am 38 yrs old, my uncle who was my best friend and my father figured died about 15 yrs ago and I still to this day cry when I look at his picture or talk about him.
I think that you need to just accept the fact you wont see him again and that you need to focus on the good times you had together, but as far as the tears go, they are normal for something like this where you have lost someone very close and dear to your heart. I don't think you will ever get past this but just focus on the good things. Talk about him write about him, think positive things when you make decisions in your life, would grandpa agree with this..
I wish you lots of luck, I can tell your quite young and death is part of a reality that is not pleasant. It's very obvious that you loved him with all of your heart so take pride in that.
As far as your dream goes, I wouldn't read anything into that...it could just be that the car accident was an indication that he passed away quickly. It might mean since you drove the car that you had unfinished business with grandpa and you feel robbed of his death.
Best of luck hon.
2007-07-14 02:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you will never "get over" him. You loved him and you miss him. Believe it or not, that's a good thing. Eventhough he is no longer physically with you, you will have him all your life. Rejoice in that.
I lost my grandfather many many years ago, and I think of him often. How lucky we are to have had men like that in our lives.
Time will help just because there will be other things you will have to do and the time you spend doing them will take your mind other places.
You didn't say whose father your grandpa was. How is that parent, divorce or not, handleing the loss? Talk to that parent. Maybe share some tears. It really does help.
Talk to your mom and maybe a teacher at school and see if you can get some grief counseling.
By the way, your dream is just that, a bad dream. Try not to attach more importance to it than that.
Don't beat yourself up. That is the last thing in the world grandpa would want. Miss him. Shed a tear for him. Then, be a happy, healthy, productive person....for him and for yourself.
2007-07-14 02:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by jack of all trades 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what happened, I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you. Whenever you lose something or someone, in your case your grandfather and your parents divorce, the body reacts to this. Sometimes the reactions can be quite severe. Your dreams are a kind of these reactions. Do you have someone to talk to? If not, please talk to your school counselor, your minister, your doctor, or even any adult that you can count on. This problem is very common and you are not alone with this. Please talk to someone.
2007-07-14 02:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by kyle d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are upset when they lose a loved one because of their own sense of loss. Death is part of life and those who have passed are simply moving to the next part of their journey. They are always with you in spirit, just not in body. Cherish and honour his memory and that is a way you can keep him with you.
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2007-07-14 02:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by onlinelifecoach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please have your parents take you to an EMDR therapist. You and your family can go the the website www.emdr.com to find out more about this treatment and find a therapist in your area. It is a trauma treatment that has amazing results for not only myself but for my clients as well.
Good Luck
2007-07-14 04:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to find something to do, stay active and you will get over the death soon... u also need to hang out with some friends, do what ever you enjoy....
ur dream is probably from so much stress over him dieing that you had a dream about it.... again, you need to find something to do and not be thinking about that all the time
2007-07-14 02:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by Falloutrbl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no... you have a reason to feel that way towards them but yes bc u should never wish death on anyone.
2016-05-17 09:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need help from a counseller... a family member's death is pretty hectic and i hope everything works out for u. try to be positive
2007-07-14 03:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by tas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-14 02:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by nimajalalizadeh 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋