help;my 14 year old son wont stop smoking weed!?

Question

ok now i know it could be worse but im very upset that my 14 year old son keeps smoking weed!he had a rough last 2 years and is on probation .he doesnt really get in much trouble besides normal teenage stuff and has done a remarkible turnaround but he wont stop smokeing weed.he could test at any time i gruond him and when he gets to finally go some where he gets high it worrys me so much it is makeing me phisically ill. am i worrying to much?tell me what you guys think.all comments and thoughts are welcome

Answer 1

mom needs to stand her ground as what she is and that is the PARENT.At 14 there will be things that you try and things that you turn down.He has absolutly no control in what he does or how he does it at this point.He got himself into trouble now he has to get out of it and unfortunately you are there to carry the weight of his actions.You have to be the one to stand behind the judges decision of punishment.He set the ground for you to take control.You have to show what is called TOUGH LOVE.The son needs to be put on a schedule and has to be monitored at all times.He is to have his friends over at your house and he is to leave the bedroom door open at all times when his friends are there.He has to be set with chores and responsibilities around the house.He cannot go outside or over to friends' houses.Expect him to rebel and revolt against this issue because it was his lack of judgement of his freedom as a kid that got him where he is now.You are the sergent in his life now and you have to make him respond to your rules and regulations that you have laid down.When he gets frustrated and rebelious, let there be time for a cool down and try talking to him and remind him that he is being guided back onto the path that he strayed from, not punished.Constantly remind him that you love him and are there for him and that it will be tough to change habits but they can be broken.Alot of patience and understanding is going to be needed in all of this because being a parent isn't easy.He has to work hard at reinstilling your faith and trust.But he has to instill it back inside of him first before that can happen.Research your options on how to go about this on the net with substance abuse hotlines. They offer exceptional help and guidelines for you to help him kick this habit and get your life back on track.You can do this and it can be done.Take the time for him by taking the time for you.I guarantee that with hard work and persistence you both will overcome this obstical.Good luck and talk to other parents.You would be suprised at what insight you will find.I'm a mom of a teenager and a younger child.I went down that same road as a kid.I experimented.But i also learned from it too.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You need to take charge and make him accountable for his actions. You tell him you will not tolerate his behavior and that means smoking weed, and then you stick to it. He is 14 years old, he is asking for directions in his life. It's up to you to give it to him. Find a mentor who will work with him. seek counseling. test him yourself and if he is doing drugs, punish him for it. It's called tough love and if given now he will grow up to be a responsible person and realized you loved him and did the best for him, and he in return will do the same with his own children. Don't give up, but fight the problem and above all tell him you love him . Good luck.

Answer 4

yes, if it is just weed, you are worrying too much.

Marijuana is a natural substance. It is the least harmful of all ingestibles.

Now, if he seems to have no control over it or he lets it overshadow his responsibilities, then you should worry that he is depressed and trying to use weed to help him out of depression or maybe there are anger issues. Actually smoking pot is very good for some people who have impulse control problems and anger issues - it calms them down and forces them to look more sympathetically at the world. It isn't the pot smoking you should be worrying about, it's the attitude behind it that matters.

If he's just smoking because he likes it and can handle the rest of life, then don't worry. By worrying and fretting too much you might push those teen rebellion buttons and he might get the not-so-bright-idea to try other things just to bug you. Be glad it's just pot.

Answer 5

Personally, I'd just confront him (in a calm manner) and ask him what he gets out of smoking the stuff.
What's the big draw?
What does he get out of rolling up some dried leaves in a piece of paper, stuffing it into his mouth and lighting it on fire?
Where's the big thrill?
Maybe he's afraid the Colombian Drug cartels are going broke and he wants to supplement their income...
I just don't get it. Maybe he can explain it to you.

Answer 6

well i went threw this when i was 14-21 i had other types of drug problems but to keep your son from going to the harder drugs you are going to have to step up your game a little bit he needs a new curfew and he needs to tell you where he is going if you dont like the answer dont let him go. dont try to be his friend with this type of thing drugs can and will ruin his life. it starts with weed then its crack and my mom never was strict on me and i now have a resentment against her because of it. it will be hard but you as his mother have got to do it. my mom didnt and i ended up hookin to get my next hit i want you to show him my answer because i hit rock bottom of the drug world and it doesnt have to be that way for your son its just weed now and hes doin it socially thats how it always starts then you get hooked on the bigger stuff. when i was living in that world i got raped beat mugged thrown in jail the drug life looks fun and everything now but he needs to know the real drug life. ive seen little boys killed by drug dealers for 5 dollars and this all can be prevented he just needs the realization to hit him right in between the eyes before it gets out of hands be that realization for him ne needs you now more than he ever will so dont give up on him there is always hope drugs is hard thing to get off of but when you hit rock bottom you have no where to go but up and drugs aint up.

Answer 7

A 14 yr old who is "on probation" and smokes weed daily in spite of that is not demonstrating a "remarkable turnaround" and is seriously worse off than just "normal teenage stuff".

You have a deeply troubled young man who is well on his way to becoming an addict and a hardcore criminal.

If it were me, I'd talk to his probation officer, and tell him the whole story. Maybe the courts can order a stay in rehab. Of maybe some real jail time will get his attention.

He'll hate your guts of course, but I think it needs to be done.

Answer 8

he's just having a bit of fun......but if you think it is getting out fo hand then let him know what it is doing to you. Some people who smoke weed aren't fully aware of their actions and the affects it can have on themselves or people close to them

Answer 9

good luck, My son didn't stop until he was in his late 20's. Even after the talk, the groundings, and the punishment.

Answer 10

1)take it away from him and take his money away so he cant buy anymore from dealers.
2)Ground him
3)Sit down and talk about it with him and say your really worried

and i cant think of any more sorry.

Oh does he get violent at you?