Very upset and embarrassed! help!?

Question

A good friend of mine who can be somewhat of a b*tch walked in on me getting changed last night.

My friend feels she's overweight and needs to loose a few pounds.

Anyway, I was trying on bra's that I bought. I'm very self conscious about my breasts. Nobody has ever seen them aside from my current boyfriend with whom I've been with for two years. My breasts are very small. I think I'm either a 32A or a 32B it varies sometimes I fit into 32A's other times I fit into 32B's.

To get to the point I was trying on these two push-up bra's I had that were size 32 B. They fit "OK" but for some reason didn't give me as much "push" as I would have liked.

Well my friend walked in and started laughing at me. She told me she thought it was funny that a 20 year old female would/could have such a small chest. She THEN took off her top and tried on one of the two bra's I purchased that was a push up and said "ha these push me up more I'll take them off your hands."

She then went on to say "boy I'm glad I fit into bra's and that I'm a 34B and I actually know what size I am and boy I'm glad bra's can actually PUSH me up."

I almost started crying. It was very embarrassing for me!

I'm 20 years old considering implants I'm very thin though I only weigh 100 pounds and I eat like a horse. It's very amusing. I've went to doctor's and gotten tested and every doctor says the same thing I'm healthy I just have a very fast metabolism.

I'm very upset now!
what should I do?!

Answer 1

Love your body. I think that if you gained weight maybe your chest will look bigger too.... don't pay attention to your friend, for all we know, she might be jealous since she's overweight.

Answer 2

Well she is no friend that is for sure. What kind of s**t is that for any friend to say that. Like it is your fault that you have nice little breats. You wait a few years and then see which boobs will hang down to whos knees. I am a small breast guy. it is the middle part of the breast the best part for me.,, and what is in the heart. I say it is time to DUMP THAT B***t and find a real friend. Look not one of us is perfect not your friend not moi, not the best looking guy oir girl in the world.. We all have something going for us and we also have more things working against us. Be tough, hold on to your dignity. Other people are seeing what a lousy person she is for telling them about you. You have a mind and a heart and together they will help you with your character,, not the size of your breasts or the hair or pretty face. Ok thse things help but really when it gets down to it. It is what is on the inside girl. Be strong your "friend" will blow away. She is hanging herself right now by talking bad about you. You wait and see.

Answer 3

I would love to have a fast metabolism! That's a great thing to have! First, I would encourage you to be positive about yourself. I'm sure you still look sexy and you ought to feel that. Look at all the super-thin models out there! Your friend seems to be very jealous of the fact that you can enjoy a slim model-like body without effort while she has to die hard trying to lose some weight. If she hadn't secretly admired our body she would never have commented the way she did about you! Think about it. As for me, if I were you, I would surround myself with uplifting and kind people rather than a crappy person like her. There are so many things in life that can make us down, so the last thing we need are people like her to be around us! On the positive note, you are slim and nice and maybe you might not even have to worry about getting a breast cancer since I have always heard that women with larger breasts unfortunetly tend to get it! Enjoy yourself and your life, and remember to tell yourself " I'm beautiful, no matter what they say"!!

PS on the note of breast implants, I would advise you not to go for it. Why put yourself through pain and tension when you are healthy and pretty anyways? I would never imagine putting stuff under my clothes let alone under my skin to make me look like pamela Anderson! NO WAY! My friend who has big breasts always complains and says that they make her feel uncomfy when she runs or jogs and she worries about carefully choosing tops that won't emphasize her chest more. See? Its the other way around. So big breast don't mean a thing, trust me!

Answer 4

She's no friend -- time for you to ease out of that relationship.

And don't even think of implants -- learn how to handle having small breasts. It's easy to make the most of them -- you've just got to do things differently. Focus on your nipples. Forget about bras and begin to think in terms of letting your nipples show through your tops and wear open necks so that you can show off more chest.

Try it -- and see how all of a sudden a large number of people start admiring your chest.

Answer 5

Listen, that is no friend. She's only finding fault in you because she is embarrassed about being a porker. Don't let her influence any decision you make on implants. If you want them go for it but DO NOT get implants for a boyfriend, he'll be gone eventually, or because some one else makes you feel bad. She's just jealous. Find a friend who loves and respects you for who you are. Real friends who NEVER make fun of you.

Answer 6

Don't be embarassed. Everyone is "built" differently. Remember that the breasts are just fat. She(your friend) made the rude remarks(just showing you how fat can go to the brain too).
If your breasts can supply enough nourishment for your new born baby, why would you need anymore? Looks? Don't become a fat head like your "B" friend and be so shallow in mind.

Answer 7

God ditch your friend! she sounds so damn cruel! I'm rather self conscious about my boobs too but if my friend said that to me i would have yelled at her. a real friend would not have said that to you.
so what if you have small boobs, she shouldn't make fun. as for breast implants. it is an option but don't go to big because your only 100 pounds they might be out of proportion but your surgeon would be able to recommend a good size.
but i really do think you should ditch that friend of yours.
she not a real friend.

Answer 8

OMG! Get rid of this biatch! First, she humilated you. Second, she stole your merchandise! What if you had wanted to return them to the store? This girl obviously doesn't respect you and has no consideration for your feelings. You're better off without her than with her. Of course, you could always try talking to her about how she offended you, but she might get defensive and the two of you will be no better off than you were before.

Answer 9

When one is upset,she should do what she likes and does the best.Go out and a nice meal of your choicest dishes.Hell with such a friend.YOU will fill up.Give nature time to work on it.

Answer 10

Eat a bowl of Ice Cream. Can't do anything about the past. I wouldn't consider having this person around any more.