MY SISTER IN LAW IS THE MOST INSULTIVE PERSON I EVER MET. SHE SAYS THINGS WITHOUT THINKING. SHE IS HURTING EVERYONE AROUND HER. I GUESS SHE DIDN'T HAVE NOT ENOUGH LOVE IN HER CHILDHOOD. WHEN WE WERE AT A FAMILY DINNER AND I TOLD MY NEPHEW THAT I HAD MY PICTURE TAKEN WITH A BLUE ANGEL. (PICTURE TURNED OUT GREAT.) MY NEPHEW TOLD "KIM" ABOUT WHAT I SAID AND SHE TOLD HIM "YOU KNOW WHO NOT TO BELIEVE" HE PROTESTED ON MY BEHALF. AGAIN "KIM SAID" YOU KNOW WHO NOT TO BELIEVE". WE HAVE ALWAYS BEEN RIVALS SINCE SHE MET MY BROTHER "RON". I HAVE A COLLEGE EDUCATION. I HAVE 3 DEGREES IN AVIATION ELECTRONIC AND SCIENCE. I GRADUATED IN 2004. 2005 GRADUATED FROM TOP GUN AND WENT ON 2 TOURS. AND NOW I'M A MOTHER OF TRIPLETS AND TWINS ON THE WAY. I'VE WORKED HARD AT WHAT I DO. MY HUSBAND DAVID SAYS THAT SHE IS JEALOUS AND SHE AIN'T WORTH THE TROUBLE. MY BROTHER "RON" SAID HER MOUTH GETS HER IN A LOT OF TROUBLE. AND SHE IS SOMEONE WHO NEEDS TO GROW UP AND ACT LIKE AN ADULT. ANY HELP WOULD BE GREAT.
2007-07-14 01:11:59 · 26 answers · asked by SNAKEDOG 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Life is too short to waste even a minute on that kind of ignorance. Eliminate contact with her from your world. My sister did it to me and we are much happier now.
2007-07-14 01:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right about the unhappy childhood. I've noticed more and more people who are hurting really bad and they just want to hurt other people too. They want to make everyone feel as bad as they do.
For some reason she doesn't think first before she speaks.
My own sister-in-law of 31 years now was a lot like that for a long time. I couldn't stand her when my brother married her and that lasted a long time, but we understand each other much better now and I love her very much and she too had a difficult childhood.
She has found God now and she is more careful about what she says too.
You may have to stay away as much as possible or try not to talk to her a lot. As you get older, it may all fall into place and be okay.
I never thought my brother would stay married to this person either and they proved me wrong, so it may be something you have to get used to also. Good luck.
2007-07-21 11:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO, so it's not just me? I am sorry to laugh but I have a sister-in-law who is the same way. It has gotten so bad that I no longer visit. I send the kids to visit but, even the kids don't want to be around her. She is so negative and hurtful. I tried to tell her and she went koo-koo so I gave up. It's worse for me because we were best friends for years but once she got pregnant with my brother's child, she changed.
Seriously, I try to focus on the people who are good and positive, with triplets and work and twins on the way, you really should leave the negative behind. I have lost a best friend in my brother because of this, but I know he misses me and loves me and somehow that is enough for now. I know he is torn, he loves us both.
I have thought about an intervention. Her family, my family, because I really believe she is very very depressed and needs help. At the very least she needs to be aware that she is affecting everyone with her behaviors.
2007-07-14 01:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Rhonda Rabbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is totally OK. I had inlaws from hell and it is very hard to shut your mouth and let them be rude when it involves your baby so don't do it. Talk it over with your Husband and let him know and make him do the dirty work and field the miserable calls. I had a horrible time with my inlaws and it was worse when our daughter was born because they didn't care at all. I made the mistake of thinking having a baby would change them and it didn't. Don't hold grudges but learn from the past. There must be nicer people out there to be the godparents.
2016-04-01 03:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister-in-law has low self esteem. Although she appears to think more highly of herself than of others, the opposite is true. She needs love and encouragement, not animosity.
Each time you are around her, find a way to give her at least one sincere compliment. In all your conversations with her, only make positive comments. If she makes remarks whith which you don't agree, say nothing. If she says something derogatory about you or to you, say with sincerity, "I never thought about it that way, but thank you for pointing that out to me, I promise to give that some thought." Then think about what she said, If her comment had merit, change your conduct, if not file it under T.....in other words, forget about it, and just keep treating her with love and respect. If she never changes, you will still win, because you will be the "bigger" person.
This works.......I had a sister-in-law just like "Kim" She used to ruin every family gathering with her fits of anger. I still treat her just the way I described. She is much happier and much easier to be around these days. God give you strength at your next family dinner.
2007-07-20 12:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it doesn't matter about your degrees and how many children that you have or about to have. But congrats anyhow...
As for your sister in law, I have a sister who's may be her twin...She's rude at all family events and always have been. Whenever she comes around, no one wants to hear her or see her. My family keeps up a good front in front of her but no one really can stand her.
I deal with my sister like this, I don't deal with her at all. If she's at a family function, I stay away from her and avoid any direct contact with her. If she says something, I act as if I don't hear her and after all these years, my ears go deaf to her anyhow.
When she makes nasty comments about me, I become the bigger person and ignore it and let it roll off of me because I'm the one who's happy in my life and I'm not worried at all about her and her life because I really could careless.
What you must do is get this type of mentality "after you have told her off really good" and from then on, ignore her and she'll either stay away from you or she'll get her mouth together...
2007-07-20 10:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask this sister-in-law what her problem is and tell her how you feel and then be done with her? This all sounds like some silly kids game. You have enough on your plate with all the kids and hubby and career without having to stoop to that womans level don't you think? Don't let her get to you or she will never stop this childish baloney....
2007-07-14 01:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your brother to speak to her on your behalf. Maybe he can find out what the root of the problem is. Since he's her husband, she'd probably be more willing to speak to him than she would to you. Maybe you offended her in some way without realizing it. Or, maybe she's just bitter. But, you'll never be able to solve the problem until you discover what's causing it.
2007-07-14 01:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by emmajane06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is right. Just realize that this woman feels like she is your inferior. I would suggest you point that out to her the next time she goes off like that - it will hit her ego bad. I am not saying that is the right thing to do, but this woman is obviously out of control and needs to have her teeth knocked in. The problem is your brother married bad.
Good Luck!!!
2007-07-14 01:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like a very wise man.
She IS jealous AND she is not worth the trouble. You have a great life going for you that you have worked hard for. Don't let this juvenile "Bi..." get to you. Life's just too short.
2007-07-15 15:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by jbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋