Is it traditional for the bride and groom to pay for the bridal parties i.e the groomsmen and best mans accomodation for the night of the wedding?
2007-07-14 00:32:16 · 32 answers · asked by Karen W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Everyone pays for their own accommodations.
Unless the bride and groom WANT to and can afford it.
2007-07-14 03:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally the Groom's Mother and/or Father "host" (pay for) the Rehearsal Dinner or Party.
Traditionally, the Bridal Showers are hosted by the Bride's attendants (bridesmaids, maid or matron of honor) or her closest friends or her co-workers. Neither the Mother of the Bride nor the Mother of the Groom nor any immediate family members should host a bridal shower (the giving of gifts).
Traditionally, the Bachelor Party is hosted by the Best Man and/or the groomsmen and/or the ushers.
The Day After Brunch or Breakfast can be hosted by anyone . . the Bride's parents . . the Groom's parents . . the Bride and Groom . . any of the attendants . . or a close friends or relative.
Unless otherwise expressed or stated by the Bride and Groom (or one of their parents) ALL of the attendants are responsible for their own wedding attire, shoes, accessories, and travel expenses to the city where the wedding is taking place. The flowers are usually paid for the Bride and/or her family. Travel expenses mean plane tickets . . the hotel room . . and food (other than at the wedding events).
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2007-07-14 00:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No the groomsmen like everyone else takes care ot their own accomodations for the night of the wedding. Who could afford it if the bride and groom were paying for the hotel rooms of everyone in the weddingparty or all the guests. You thank him and give him a gift to commemorate his being yuor best man or a groomsman and then that is it.
2007-07-14 02:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd ask your fiance to reconsider the wording you have listed. That is the standard format for your situation. Maybe he just doesn't realize that and if he sees it on enough etiquette websites, he'll change his mind. Just google "wedding invitation wording" and he'll see it's the most popular answer. Otherwise, I'd suggest simply: The honor of your presence / is requested at the marriage of / jane a. doe / and / john b. smith / and so on. In the wedding program, all of the parents names will be listed. Thanks can be expressed on the program (for all to see) to the bride's parents for their assistance in hosting. A special memorial section can be printed for the groom's late father, which would be a more meaningful tribute than can fit on an invitation anyway.
2016-05-17 09:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by dorthy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days it tends to vary as most people live together and have families before marriage so the onus isnt really on either sets of parents anymore, more the couple really. My sister is finally getting married and is spending about £7k on the big day and theres no way my parents could afford that and nor could the grooms mum as she is widowed. They are both contributing but my sister is being so particular its a good job they dont have to pay for the whole thing - she has become Bridezilla!!
2007-07-14 00:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by funkyrabbit77 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now a days it really comes out to who has the most money. The grooms or brides parents or the bridal party.
Traditionally it would be the brides parents but things change.
2007-07-14 00:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, usually it is an expense the person on the bridal party that they know before hand. they have the choice of saying yes or no on being in said bridal party based on their finances.
if a bride and groom WANT to, that would be very nice. but have to, no.
2007-07-14 08:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All former traditions on who pays for what in all phases of a wedding, are out the window.
Take any kind of "who pays for what" list in wedding planning and throw it in the trash, set fire to it, or let the dog have it. Nothing applies any more.
These days, who has the dough pays, whoever is ready willing and able to cough up the cash. If no one volunteers, then everyone is on their own.
Theoretically, how can someone pay for something that is tradition that they pay for, if they don't have the money? And there is no way to force someone to pay who simply says "No, I am not paying."
2007-07-14 02:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not traditional to pay for the accomodations of any of the wedding party (bridesmaids or groomsmen).
HOWEVER, if you notice that some of your wedding party is drunk, you might consider finding them a place to stay for their safety or at least send them home in a taxii.
2007-07-14 00:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Patty G 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It used to be years ago but people got away from it for some reason. It is not expected but would be a very nice gesture. We did because a few of them had to fly to get there and I thought it was unfair for them to be out a considerable amount more than the people who lived down the street. Their plane ticket was enough of an expense in our opinion.
2007-07-14 01:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋