My sister is coming to stay at my house next week for a couple of nights with some of her children.
I dont mind her bringing them. But i dont like her to bring her son age 16 he is a bully and all he does is wind me up and picks on the little ones.
My daughter cant have her friend round when he there because he picks on him because he cant talk right.
How can i tell my sister i dont want her to bring him
2007-07-14 00:16:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a woman it about and hour and a half by car and why should i send my daughter to stay at her friend just because he a bully
2007-07-14 00:26:32 · update #1
He once hit my other sister little boy and she told her that her son was a bully but she said he was liying and that her son was not a bully.
but why would a 5year old and a 6year lie about that
2007-07-14 00:40:12 · update #2
You have to explain to her what is going on and if she does not agree then you have to make a decision of your own.
If he makes everyone so uncomfortable then you simply say it, sorry Sis I love you but your son does not know how to behave around this house and I will not tolerate it.
2007-07-14 00:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lay it on the line with her. Explain what her son does and how you do not like it and how it affects the other children. Tell her that he is a disruptive and negative influence upon your other children and if she cannot control him one day someone may just turn and give him a taste of his own medicine.
My niece (she's 14) bullies around my other two nieces, ages 7 and 9, and we administer plenty of physical training because of it. We don't have to yell or exert any energy and by the time the 14 year old is done she's too tired to bully anyone around. Plus it's healthy for her.
2007-07-14 01:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by tercentenary98 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say "sis, i am not being funny or anything, but if you come here, don't bring (name) with you because i can't cope with his bullying, he upsets people all the time and it spoils things for everyone else" tell her what he does and that it upsets your child, also tell her that you do not want to go through the trouble of getting all her stuff ready just so she has to stay with your friend, if she gets upset by what you said then just explain that it's too upsetting to see what he keeps doing all the time, seems that this lad only picks on kids, and MAYBE he needs to be taught a lesson.. you should get someones teen to stay and see what your nephew is like with another teen around him, if you really don't want him there then make it clear to your sister....the one person you SHOULD be able to talk to is your sister, be honest and open, it's much easier to talk to sisters than it is to friends, so just be blunt and tell her how it is.....
2007-07-14 00:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit your sister down and the 16 year old and have ONE serious convo. Tell him in front of your sister "16 yr old, "You are welcome to stay here, but if you scare or bully the little ones, you will not be welcome here and I will ask you to leave in an instant." I will also tell the children to be on their best behavior. Since you are becoming closer to an adult, I have faith in you, to TELL ME if there is any problem. You will not fight with them. I will correct them especially in my house. Give him one LAST chance and make it clear to your sister that it affects your health and the well being of the little ones. If the kid acts up, send him to a "scared straight school and make it a point that it is WRONG for him to make FUN of ANYONE with difficulties in appearance or function.
Good luck
2007-07-14 00:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by Respuesta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't allow bullies around your daughter and that includes her son. If she don't like it, then you suggest she set that boy straight and let him know not everyone in this world is going to put up with his ****. There is no way in hell I would send my daughter out of the safety of her home because of a bully that wants to be here. I'd kick his *** and I don't care if he is a relative.
2007-07-14 00:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To an extent you are at fault because you've obviously let this happen a few times and not done anything about it so now it's at a point where you want to ban him.
You need to tell her straight that you will not accept his behaviour, that SHE is responsible for him when he's at your house and if the slightest thing happens again then he wont be allowed back in your house.
By saying this you are giving her and him a last chance to stop this and so your in a much better position to stop him coming in than saying he can't come in now because it'll undoubtably cause a big argument.
Get her on her own, explain what's happening and tell her this is his last chance.
2007-07-14 00:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are so many things you are not saying in this question. I.e are you a man or a woman.(yas it doews matter for the answer). Also are thay coming far. If so it would be very hard. however if not shouldnt be a problem. Can your daughter not stay st her friend for a while.The reason I ask if you are male or female is that it ewill sound better coming from one woman to another, and so you should gat your wife to tell her if you are a man.
2007-07-14 00:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Teenagers change with the weather, give him the benefit of the doubt, let him stay, if he steps out of line once then take him to one side and without raising your voice explain to him why he shouldn't be doing what he is doing and that he is the oldest and should be setting an example to the younger ones. If he doesn't listen then explain to your sister that you think its best that he doesn't come anymore, until he changes his ways. Bullies need a short sharp shock, you can be assertive with him without getting physical shout loudly at him, let him know your angry, it won't harm him and it will let your sister and nephew know that you are angry because of his behaviour. He's a kid and it's upto you to take control.
2007-07-14 00:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by DIANNE S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should tell her that her son is a bully and if he's going to be in your house he should learn how to show respect. If she doesn't do anything about it..... well, it is your house and if you need to set him straight yourself you should do it. If none of that works then you should just hit him until he gets the point. Always works with me and my nieces!
2007-07-14 00:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
be frank
ask her if she feels that her son bullies people and ask her if he's had some sort of counselling for it
if she's aware of it then she will presume that you know about it and then you can say that the children feel uncomfortable in his presence and are scared of him and you would love to see her but not him un til he learns to treat people with respect
2007-07-14 00:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋