2007-07-12 06:47:11 · 31 answers · asked by henry y 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
you are an idiot and a jerk. she deserves better than you. you must tell her, and then you must get treatment, and if you are infected with HIV you have to notify not only your wife, but your doctor and the health dept.
2007-07-12 06:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, nobody is thrilled to be with someone who has an STD but you did not say exactly what you have. If it is a bacteria like syphilis, gonorrhea or chlamydia, you can get treated for that. But your partner has to be treated too, otherwise you will just get it again. I will also suggest HIV testing for you. It's fairly common and should it be caught soon enough, there are plenty of treatments now that can hold the disease at bay for a long time. As for the "ethics " part of it, just think, if it were your wife who cheated and she got an STD and she could have passed it on to you, wouldn't you want to know about it so you can get treated? Otherwise it would be like she was unfaithful to you, deceived you, and even took away your right to treatment. Mistakes are made, but the worst type are those which you refuse to correct. Good luck.
2007-07-12 13:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by lost in US 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you people are being really rude to this man---okay so he cheated---act like some of you in here haven't.....sure yeah.....can his life get any more screwed up?? He could possibly be infected with the HIV virus that has NO cure!! and on top of that if he is infected he has to face his wife and tell her that she very well might be infected as well!!
In life we all make bad choices--nobody is perfect.
1 in 5 people have herpes---how many people have posted an answer in here hmm?? then you want to come knock down someone who could have a virus that will later cause death.....
nice...real nice----way to show some compassion.
2007-07-12 14:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should sit her down and talk about everything with her. I don't know how it feels to cheat on someone but I do know what it feels like to be cheated on and it hurts. If she loves you in time she will forgive and forget. Just start doing things you never did for her before. Show her you love her and never cheat again. You have to gain her trust back. Remember that you just did the worst possible thing to you partner,wife,love and best friend... Tell her right away.
2007-07-12 14:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you infected with? Is it treatable? Curable? Presumably you have been diagnosed and treated.
Ethical considerations aside (and I see many of the posters feel very strongly about cheating), you and your wife are now potentially exposed to: Gonorrhea. Syphilis. Chlamydia. Trichomoniasis. HIV. Hepatitis C. HPV (there are 30 sexually-transmissible kinds). Genital warts. Yeast infection. Urinary tract infection. Pubic lice. Scabies.
It may be the best policy to be honest with your wife. Sure, if you don't tell her she may never know. But YOU'LL know. Sure, every marriage partner has secrets. But this type of secret may endanger her health. Sure, she may be furious. Would you be furious? Hopefully, you will not do this again. You didn't tell us what situation led to your cheating (and we don't really need to know), but marriage counseling may help you avoid a similar situation and may help your wife forgive you.
2007-07-12 14:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by july 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell her for her sake as it is her health at risk also or do you want her to find out later by a doctor or a serious illness and wonder what has happened to her. i think she would be more upset if you didn`t tell her and she becomes infected.
This is the risk you take when you have unprotected relation ships and if you get something then you must be man enough to tell your partner and take the consequences
2007-07-12 14:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut to the chase, here. If you are infected, if you don't tell your wife, if you know darn well that you ARE infected..........you are comitting a crime. When you have a sexual infection, know it, give it to someone else.............you can go to prison for a very long time. Regardless of how you feel about your wife...........you MUST tell your wife! Not telling anyone you are going to have sex with will be considered attempted murder, at least.
2007-07-12 16:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by laurel g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her NOW! You've got 2 problems: the cheating and the infection to deal with. Don't be surprised if she leaves you, but don't risk her health now that you screwed up. You made the bed, buddy, you gotta sleep in it now and pay the price!!
2007-07-12 14:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by SweetPandemonium 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all use spell check- secondly infected with WHAT?
Something curable I hope.
But I think you are mistaken - the public health authorities will be telling her.
And anyone who would be dumb enough to cheat should be smart enough to use protection.
2007-07-12 13:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by professorc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dumb ***. You better tell her, because if you have sex with her, knowing that you are infected because of your idiotic cheating ways, then you now have 2 problems on your hands: a very possible divorce AND A law suit. Don't be stupid.
2007-07-12 13:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋