I know a girl that is pregnant and has been seeing this other girl for almost 2 years, and now they are having a baby together. Do you think this is okay? From what I know, they are totally in love and almost impossible to separate, but now they want me to come to their wedding and I agreed, but do you think this situation is okay? I just want opinions from people that i don't know.
2007-07-11 20:55:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just to be honest, I am in the same situation here, except me and my girlfriend are not getting married yet, and I totally have no problem with this. I also know that everyone has a right to be with who they want to be with and I don't care who says it's right or who thinks its wrong. I just want opinions on how the world looks at this kind of thing.
2007-07-11 21:01:33 · update #1
Both of us are allowing the father to be a part of the baby's life. As much as he wants, and he is okay with the situation. Just as long as we treat the baby just like any "straight" couple would.
2007-07-11 21:03:41 · update #2
I will love my child with my whole heart. AND so will my friends. If I thought i couldn't then I wouldn't even consider doing this. I have tried to change my life for others, to make other ppl happ and it never works. Everything I do from here on out if for my baby. If I am not happy, then how will my son ever be happy? If I am forced to be with someone that I don't love, BCZ of their gender, then how will I make my son happy if I myself am not? Tell me! because I really don't think that it's possible to give a child the love, care and compassion they need and deserve, if the parents are not happy themselves. Am I wrong?
2007-07-14 18:05:21 · update #3
Why wouldn't it be okay? I think it's awesome that they're raising a kid together. Why does it matter whether a child is raised in a gay or straight family as long as the parents/guardians love him/her/whomever? A lot of people nowadays live under a misconception that gays somehow molest children or that their children get picked on more than others. Well, I've done a presentation on gay adoption, and I've seen the statistics, and all that is NOT true. They are merely lies that the church uses in order to scare society into thinking that homosexuals are bad, which is utter *BS*. In fact, in a study that was done on 269 cases of child sex abuse, only 2 offenders were gay/lesbian! And no, being raised under a house with two mommies or two daddies will NOT "turn" the kid gay. In fact, in every credible (NON-religious) study conducted in the past couple of decades, research has emphatically stated that it is nature, NOT nurture, which determines sexual orientation. This means that it is already pre-determined whether the kid is gay, straight, bi, omni, etc., so being raised by gay parents will make no difference. It's also been speculated that being raised in such an environment actually has an effect on the intelligence of a child. Since they are being raised to be more open-minded, they tend to excel more in studies and school and such. And about the whole being teased by others thing... do YOU know whether your friends' parents are gay or not (assuming you've never met them)? NO ONE KNOWS UNLESS THE CHILD OF THE GAY PARENTS TELLS THEM THAT HIS/HER PARENTS ARE GAY! And the kid isn't going to disclose such private info to other people he or she is not comfortable with. The kid would only tell close friends whom he or she trusts to be understanding. So no, the teasing thing isn't as big of a problem as most people think! Most kids don't go around asking their friends, "Hey, so... how are your PARENTS? What did THEY do over the weekend?"
As long as a child is provided with the necessities like food, water, clothing, shelter, and love, then what does it matter WHO is providing those things for him/her?
2007-07-11 21:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, and as a teacher, I'd rather see a child raised in a loving family than raised by a single parent. Some of the most loving parents I've had in my classes were gay or lesbian.
On the other hand, I've had far too many male/female families where there was NO agreement on how the child should be raised. IF they were together, it was only for appearances.
I'd rather have gay/lesbian parents who love each other rather than see a child who was raised in hatred or ignorance.
2007-07-12 05:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by George Y 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters what sexual orientation the 2 parties have with each other, as long as the child is raised in a stable environment. Even if it was 2 gay men raising the child, it doesn't matter. Parenting skills aren't just for heterosexual partnership, its a bonding between 2 people who feel they have the right tools to raise the child to be a survivor.
2007-07-12 04:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by syntheticmynd 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you are ok with it, it really shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. Don't let other people with their judgements and opinions run your life. If you are ok with it and still want to be their friend and a part of their wedding, it should matter what everyone else's opinion is.
BTW, I think it's perfectly fine as long as they are committed to each other and raising this child together. As long as they are providing everything that a child needs, not just financially but emotionally, then I see no problem with it.
2007-07-12 03:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie M 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
If they are very much committed to each other and are able to handle raising a child, then that's awesome.
There are heterosexuals out there who are abusing their children. I feel for those children. If a child is brought up in a loving environment, it doesn't matter whether the couple is lesbian/gay or heterosexual.
... oh, and to the one whose bible says that being gay is a sin... MY Bible tells me not to judge others. :)
2007-07-12 12:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by AV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A family is no longer nuclear, a "Family" is a group of individuals who love and care for each other as they do thyself. Lesbians and/or gay men, make great parents, they are people to with instincts. Don't be a nay sayer. God Bless.
2007-07-15 08:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? As long as a child is raised in a loving home by people who want her it really doesn't matter.
2007-07-12 08:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If they love each other and the child, then it is none of anyone else's business. People spend too much time checking on the life and activities of other people when they need to spend time working on their own life.
2007-07-12 04:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just as if we were talking about a 'straight' couple, I think as long as they are in a healthy relationship and can provide well for the child, the child will be well-raised.
2007-07-12 11:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As long as 2 people find love and have love to give a baby it doesn't bother me at all. Love is love.
2007-07-12 11:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋