he didnt know he had it. we always practiced safe sex. naturally i am devastated. i am afriad no one will ever want me. although we havent officially broken up i have distanced myself from him. he says that my love is conditional because i am treating him differently now. how am i supposed to act. i can barely look him in the face without crying. what should i do??
2007-07-11 14:40:08 · 16 answers · asked by Laila C 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
It's true. You can be a carrier of herpes and not know it. The virus lies dormant in your system and while in dormant stage it can be contagious. The problem with herpes is that having protected sex alone doesn't stop it. The virus can come out on parts of the genitals that aren't protected by condoms during sex, thus spreading to a partner. Normally the virus stays dormant for years and years and then one traumatic stress event triggers it and it comes out. Don't worry, in most cases herpes doesn't rear it's ugly head every day. I know people who've only had 3 or 4 out breaks in several years. You then get a prescription...acyclivir or zovirax and take it for a week or so and it clears up. I know this is devasting now, but its not the end of the world. It really doesn't have to control your life or lifestyle. Your bf could be telling the truth MAYBE he didn't know. Talk with him more.
2007-07-11 14:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by bjwamz 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-04 09:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-13 10:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there isn't any. Herpes is caused by a virus. Actually, there is little cure for viruses nowadays. The only thing that you can generally do in the case of a viral infection is strengthen the immune system and hope it fights it off. Not with Herpes, the immune system can't win against it. Thus you only get to treat the symptoms. Once you're infected, it stays with you for life. So don't get infected.
Personal experience. I have had genital herpes for over 5 years.
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2016-05-14 23:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about it. I would be up front with your boyfriend and let him know that this is devastating to you and that you need some space to figure out how you feel about the situation and your relationship with him. He needs to be understanding and supportive of your feelings. If he truly cares about you he would understand that you need time to process and accept this.
Having herpes isn't a fun thought...I don't like it either. I too am in the process of accepting and understanding herpes. I came to this chat forum for support and advice too. Know that you are not alone. I understand the feeling of no one ever wanting me because of genital herpes. Some people may have issues with it but someone who really cares for you will accept it. People can be more accepting of it than what you really think. Keep your chin up and confide in others when you feel down. It will get better.
2007-07-11 17:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Scout 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of these responses about him having to know he had it are WRONG. One out of four people have it and 90%, yes 90% don't know it.
"According to the American Social Health Association (ASHA), about 25% of all adults in the US carry the virus for genital herpes (HSV-2). Unfortunately, up to 90% of those who have the HSV2 virus DON'T EVEN KNOW IT. This is because most people with herpes have mild, infrequent, or even NO symptoms. Also, most doctors do NOT include a test for herpes when they are testing you for other STDs unless you specifically request it. And even when you ask them to test you for herpes, some doctors will tell you that unless you are having an active outbreak, there are no reliable tests for herpes available. These doctors are woefully out-of-date"
Please read http://www.datingwithherpes.org/ for more.
2007-07-11 16:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by ricksubga 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe it would be hard to have herpes and not know you had it. Don't feel guilty. You will eventually find someone else, regardless of your problems. Someone who will care for you enough to see past it. If you end up finding that person and he plans on being with you and only you, he probably won't care about the herpes thing because it is not like he will give it to someone else if he is faithful.
2007-07-11 14:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy LP 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh no. I'm so very sorry that this happened to you.
Whether or not he "knew" he had it is irrelevent at this point, so now you both need to focus on moving forward, either apart or together.
I guess all you can do is act natural and true to your gut instinct. No one could blame you for feeling differently towards him. If your first reaction is to cry whenever you see him now, there's no way to hide that from him and fake being happy.
Maybe you guys need to be apart for a while so you can figure out if your relationship is strong enough to handle this. That way, you can sort it all out without having to worry about how you act around him.
Again, I'm sorry, and I wish you the best.
2007-07-11 15:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by gnomiechick 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I gave myself herpes. :-(! I had cold sores, and touched my face and then when I was using the bathroom they passed to other, less pleasant places. My husband knows, but he doesn't care. Honestly. We are simply very careful not to let him get it. No one who truly loves you is going to judge you based on herpes. Remember, it's a LOT better than some STDs you could have. But also know your boyfriend lied to you. There's a very slim chance he did not know he had herpes.
2007-07-11 14:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by Tigerlily 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
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2017-03-02 08:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋