the list has gotten out of control..its now over 100 people. granted not all will show..but HER family takes up WELL over half that list. I dont' have the money to fork out for all those people..I am only having 5 of my family members invited..
what would you do in this situation?
2007-07-10 09:47:03 · 7 answers · asked by koala punch2 5 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
This is your party you do what you want. Its not like your inviting your entire family. Stop at the grandparents close aunts and uncles and cousins. Now you tell her how many can come and anything over that she should have her own dang party. can you say pimento cheese
2007-07-11 02:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've painted yourself into a corner. If your side of the family is coming, then certainly his side of the family should be invited. It is a party for him. Invite his relatives that he has contact with on a regular basis, Not great uncle Joe that he hasn't seen in years. You might have to cut back on the list somewhere else. Don't cause a family riff over this.
2007-07-11 01:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aren't her family members HIS family members? I think this is a hairy one and you don't want to alienate your MIL.
I would call her up and just tell honestly that you hadn't originally planned such a large party and that it really isn't in your budget. Ask if she has any suggestions for you.
I'll bet that she will love to of "help" and will either help with the cost or help pare the list down. Good luck.
2007-07-10 16:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her a set number of people to invite, figure out how many you can afford off of her list, and ask her to pick which ones, and only those may come, unless she wants to help pay for the extra food and drinks,
2007-07-11 09:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by chasandjayg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be honest with her & tell her you don't have a budget to accomodate EVERYONE they'd like to invite. sit down w/ her to go over the list & figure out who really needs to be there & who doesn't.
if she insists that everyone should be there, tell her that she could throw a 2nd party if she wants & have all those who couldn't attend the 1st one be there.
if she gets upset, then too bad. the fact is you can't pull money out of your butt to have a party for more people than you can afford. and if she still insists, tell her to fork up the rest of the money, other wise, she needs to be quiet.
2007-07-10 17:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by mrs sexy pants 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If these relatives mean alot to your husband, then u might want to consider inviting them. My gut feeling tells me they may not be.... no point to having a room filled with people who dont mean much to u just bcos someone else wants it. Especially since its not ur mil's bday. ;)
2007-07-10 16:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by chillipadi05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else. Wow, I can't believe he has such a big family. If you bring up your concern maybe she will offer to help you out financially.
2007-07-10 17:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by alana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋