VEGETARIANS! How do you deal with your non veg mate?

Question

I'm going to get married and I am a strict vegetarian. My Fiance is not, he's a big meat eater and I don't expect him to change, I'll respect that beacause I love him. However, people ask me, "how will you cook dinner?" "How will you buy meat?" "What are you going to do?"
Does anyone have a similair situation or any ideas?
PLEASE BE SERIOUS. I DON'T WANT TO HEAR FROM IMMATURE AND RUDE PEOPLE. I WILL REPORT YOU.

Answer 1

Oh, my boyfriend eats meat and although we don't live together yet, he spends a lot of time hear so he ends up having to eat what I eat. When he's at my place, he won't eat meat because I just don't have it. He doen't mind either because he loves all the veggie fake meats anyway. Maybe try getting your guy to eat those more at the house?

However, if me and my boyfriend ever go out to eat. I let him get whatever he wants. He was a huge meat eater too. I never thought he would change his ways, but I think since he's around me so much, he wants to become vegan now too. He rarely if ever eats meat anymore. Maybe your guy will change his ways too?

Oh, also, if you're a really good cook and cook lots of vegan/vegetarian dishes. He might feel like he doesn't need meat anymore, or at least not with you making dinner. Maybe you could even teach him how to cook good veggie dishes too.

Answer 2

I am a VEGAN married since 1972 to a non- veggie. I make lots of veggie dishes & just add a side of meat, poultry or fish. We usually both have a salad with lunch & dinner.
He is very healthy because he eats many more veggies than most meat eatters. He's 61 & is in amazing shape & health. Today he hit a few buckets of golf balls, 30 mintues of cardio at the gym, then late in the afternoon played 18 holes of golf. Most people think we are 10 years younger than we are.
The only time fixing meat was a problem was during my pregancies, could not tolatrate the smell..we ate out allot.

Answer 3

Do you cook meat for him already? Will you share cooking? It all depends on how you feel about even touching meat. I was a veggie for 20 years and both my boyfriends in that time were meat eaters and I worked for time as a chef. I love cooking and am not squeamish so it wasn't a problem for me. But I drew the line at things such as veal and crabs and wouldn't have them in the house. I didn't cook seperate meals, but sometimes would do a meat thing (like a steak) as well. You need to decide what you and he can both agree on. If you eat out, you can alternate restaurant choices. There are many excellent meals that don't even need meat.

Answer 4

My boyfriend eats meat and I don't. The thing is I have no problem with cooking meat because I ate it and cooked for years before I was a vegetarian.
If you are really strict and you don't even want to buy or cook the meat.
what you can do is, make the entire dinner and let him cook the meat.
If you're not so strict than you can go to the market with him and you can both see the meat section and you'll see what he likes and that way you can cook...
That's what I do.

Answer 5

it really shouldn't be a problem. i've been with my non-veg boyfriend for six years and it's never even been close to an issue.

you don't have to cook for him you know. and if you do, you can make vegetarian meals. if he doesn't like them, he can cook his own food.

as long as you don't have a problem with meat being in your home, the meat thing will probably not even come up at all. don't worry about it.

and tell people to get the hell out of your business. ;)

Answer 6

Hey I'm not a genius but I love meat too. If your fiance is like me, he'll probably find a way to cope without meat a couple nights out of the week. You guys could also use recipes that interchangeably use meat or a meat substitute like mushrooms, soy, or other protein rich vegetables. Personally, I kinda like some of the vegetarian meals out there. It also depends on what kind of vegetarian you are, if you're vegan, then that definitely limits what you can eat. If you eat dairy, then you two should be able to find some common ground.

Answer 7

I don't shop for it and I don't prepare or cook it. If he wants to, that's his business. Most of the time I do the cooking at home and he's satisfied eating vegetarian but sometimes he throws a chicken breast on the grill. He gets the whole cross-contamination thing, so I don't worry about meat in my fridge or anything. As long as he respects my position, I respect his as well.

Answer 8

Love is a 2 way street, he has to also respect the fact you don't eat meat. But just because you don't eat meat does not mean you can not cook it. Maybe cook some of the things that you like you never know he might like them. Good luck.

Answer 9

Okay not everything has to be about the meat try making spagehtii or rice and beans things like that and if he wants meat tell him that he can cook it himself with out being rood just calmly explain your rules to him befor you start cooking and say I know you like meat but I don't is that going to be a problem Stuff like that I'm sure he will understand!

Answer 10

I've been married to a meat eater for 13 years now.
For the most part, he's fine with eating pasta, rice, beans-but sometimes he'll eat chicken and steak, hot dogs.
I rarely prepare steak or seafood for him b/c it grosses me out-chicken soup is fairly simple b/c I just throw it in the pot after cutting up the veggies and noodles, hot dogs aren't that repulsive to cook.
I do it for him. I also have children that eat mostly vegetarian foods but do like to eat chicken occasionally.
Red meat is rarely consumed by my spouse or children(my youngest has no desire for it) so the health risks are minimal as opposed to those that eat it regularly.
My spouse is fine with my vegetarian lifesyle and I'm not one to force my beliefs on him or my kids.