Is getting an incurable STD like genital herpes pretty much the end of your sex life? I mean, would you have sex or even seriously date a guy if you new he had genital herpes? Even with precautions, that's got to be a huge deterrent.
I'd imagine that if you're single and contract genital herpes, you'll probably only end up having sex a few more times before you die.. what do you think?
2007-07-03 17:04:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
MILLIONS of people have genital herpes and it's not the end of the world or their sex life.
I have had genital herpes for 6+ years. I dated a guy for almost 4 years and I'm currently in a relationship with a guy who I have been with for over a year and 1/2. We have a great life together, are completely happy and have a great sex life. I even dated a guy who also had genital herpes for a little while.
Having genital herpes doesn't mean the end of someones sex life. There is ALWAYS a chance of spreading the virus, even if you feel like you are taking every possible precaution. But, a person with herpes doesn't "have sex a few more times before they die" though.
It's estimated 1 in 4 women have genital herpes, while 1 in 5 men have it. Those people aren't just going to stop having sex. Sex is great if people are responsible about it and it's with someone you love. Why would they choose to miss out on that?
Sure, herpes is for life, but I see it as more of an annoyance rather than a curse. Herpes isn't anywhere near as bad as some of the other STDs out there. It won't kill you like AIDS, it doesn't cause cancer or warts, it won't cause infertility or cause a person to become sterile. Of course the outbreaks are painful, but they can be treated.
People can be so judgmental and ignorant about herpes and other STDs. It's really pretty sad.
2007-07-06 09:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by Alli 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-31 04:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you can get genital herpes from your hands too then should you not touch anyone? There are a lot of people that don't even know they have it. Its transmitted when there is a outbreak of blisters that last a little while then go away and might not come back for 2 months to 2 years. People have gotten herpes and never had sex. But people that know they have them do not "mess around" during a outbreak and for a while afterwords and tend to be careful when they do have sex with there partner. Herpes virus of the mouth or cold sore seems to be spread in the same way. And most people would be amazed to find out how many people have that! When someone has a cold sore on their mouth they should not kiss or touch others till it is gone since that is when it can spread. Washing their hands a lot is a must. So no I do not think that your sex life would be at a end if you had herpes. Hope this helped.
2007-07-03 17:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by cave wmn 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I have herpes and it hasn't been the end of my sex life. One in four women has herpes. It is so common they don't even test you for it. I caught hsv1 from receiving oral sex from my boyfriend - he had suffered from cold sores all his life. This happens a lot.
I've told three men, and yes, all of them still wanted to have sex with me, even without protection. Firstly, herpes is not a big deal, it is not any worse than having cold sores on your mouth, and you are not infectious all the time. By having unprotected sex with me for a year your risk of catching hsv1 would be about 4%, and that is only if you don't have cold sores yourself, in which case you have an exceedingly low risk of getting it genitally since you already have herpes in another location (the same would not be true if I had hsv2) Just because it is genital does not mean it is any worse.
My current boyfriend I have unprotected sex with, we just avoid outbreaks. It isn't worth worrying about. I'd say my sex life has gone from strength to strength since I caught it :-)
The stigma of herpes is ridiculous for what it is.
2007-07-04 07:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by mayflower25 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Getting genital herpes definitely wasn't the end of my sex life. I have had it since I was a teenager always told everyone I had it before we had sex, and haven't given it to anyone yet. It's really not as big of a deal then people think it's just a skin condition. You just have to be educated, know your body, and be careful. That's like saying when someone gets a cold sore they can never kiss anyone again. They're alot of people walking around with STD's it's pretty common. I have even had "the herpes talk" with someone I was seeing and came to find out that she had it too. They say 1 in 4 adults have it. Even if no one ever wanted me they are plenty of other people with hsv2 to have sexual relations with so I'll continue living a pretty normal lifestyle without hurting anybody.
2007-07-03 17:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If I really fell in love with a guy and found out he had genital herpes i would do the research and get the drug that your partner takes to slow down or prevent spreading it. You still have a sex life!
2007-07-03 17:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by Becca C 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
NO!! First off, which std, as most are treatable and curable. The ones that aren't like aids or herpes, can be managed, and with good care and proper precautions, you can still have a sex life. Just be responsible, and let your partner in on the facts. Sometimes, both partners must be treated in order to cure some std's, like chlamydia. If you plan on sex with that same person and they are not treated, you will get it back. Some, like chlamydia, can cause infertility if not treated. Get help, and enjoy!
2007-07-03 17:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by heart&soul 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
While there is a risk when choosing to have sex with a partner who already has an uncurable STD such as HSV or HPV, I personally am of the belief that they really aren't that bad. (and no, I do not have genital herpes already.) I belief that HSV or HPV are very minor when you compare finding the person who truly makes you feel complete.
As long as the man was upfront and honest with me, I do not think the HPV is a deal breaker within a relationship.
2007-07-03 17:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mo 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you need to see your doc if you think you have or have it, no its not the end of your sex life and there are a lot of ppl out there that may accept it and may not plus there are others out there with the same thing, and God has a plan for everyone so there is hope that you will meet your soulmate and he or she can look past that, but there are treatments out there that will help you as far as outbreaks are concerned and that will lower your risk of passing it on so the most important thing to remember is safe sex and not to have sex if you think you are getting or are experiencing an outbreak and as long as you dont give it to the person you are with then chances are they will probably stay with you.
2007-07-04 04:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by kelly_hotma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why sir..do you have the great herpes??? Or are you just curious. Hell no I would never get with a guy with herpes!!! That's just dumb! There's a million other guys in the world who might be just as great w/o herpes! Why risk it???
2007-07-03 17:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋