Hi,my 13 yr old son had his b'day party on sat and my husbands brother's lad came over . He is 7 and he was hyper as he was running round non stop! anyway all the kids were in the front room and ryan (the 7 yr old) kicked my girl in the shin!(and he meant it) she has a hell of a bruise and it is quite painful. should I let ryan's dad know as he is quite spiteful or should i let it go!!
2007-07-01 23:53:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
rebecca i agree!!my girl is 16 too so she is not little and it still hurt! however she did not mention it till they had gone!
2007-07-02 00:02:59 · update #1
oh sorry! ryan is spiteful
2007-07-02 00:04:01 · update #2
Tell his father.
If you don't get this boy to understand he causes pain with his actions and make him apologize directly to your girl he'll be off and running to be a bully. Perhaps if he sees the bruise it will be more effective.
2007-07-01 23:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by NinaFromNewEngland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love dont let some little kid run you over. You are no one's place mat- in face let the little boy KNOW his place. Who is spiteful? Ryan or his father? If Ryan is spiteful then hell tell his father. Next time he does somethin in your home put him in time out or something of the sort. Dont let a 7 year old have control over you, you're a grown up and let him know who is the boss in your home.
2007-07-02 00:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by HeRo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should let his dad know. But the situation should have been handled immediately by a time out at the very least. He should have been instantly removed from the stimulus of the party and had a chance to calm down. And at 7 he should not be displaying such out of control behaviors, this type of behavior ceases to be age appropriate after 5.
2007-07-01 23:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldn't let it go you obviously feel it is wrong else it still wouldn't be bugging at you. Tell his dad because kids are kids but if one really hurts another than it as to be addressed therefore the child made to say sorry to your daughter properly. He will run around doing what he wants to others if he's allowed to and he needs to be taught what is exceptable behaviour and it can only be done if you raise the issue with his father and then it is up to him to set boundaries for his child.
2007-07-05 03:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 year old and an 8 year old as well as a toddler. I think you should tell the father of this kid and if neccessery get your daughter to back you up as he will almost certainly insist his son wouldn't do anything like that.
Its more difficult because its a relation so try to be erm-delicate about it.
2007-07-04 08:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell the boy's father what happened, but I'd drop it after that, it is up to the father to mete out discipline. If the boy is truly hyper, he may need his meds bumped up.
I totally disagree with a previous answer that said to spank the boy. Even though your husband is his uncle, he is not the child's primary caretaker (a parent) so it is not up to him to discipline the child. I can say that if anyone other than my husband tried to spank my child, they'd be on the floor with my teeth at their throat ... hitting a child without authority is assault.
2007-07-02 00:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time have your hubby pick him up with one hand and spank the hyper and kicking desire right out of him with the other.You will be amazed, his parents will be amazed, the neighborhood will be amazed at what a change has taken place in the little brat.Then tell him if he does it again, he gets another.This is called"Negative Reinforcement " and it WORKS!
2007-07-02 00:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
whether your daughter is 16 or younger this lads parents should be told of his behaviour. just tell him you concerned that if he can do that kind of damage to a girl of that age what else is he capable of. i think you need to say something for your daughters sake too. it would of been so easy for her to retaliate against him, good for her she did not. you should be proud of her. if you say nothing you are sending signals to your daughter that it does not matter who hurts her because mum will do nothing. best to go to boys father and discuss quietly, they are probably aware of his behaviour anyway.
2007-07-02 01:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should have told you straight away, but next time you see your Brother -in -law, show him your Daughters leg, say '' look what Ryan did to ----- '' that was very nasty , He should apologise
2007-07-05 07:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by Weed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋