Sex... Question?

Question

I am a 16yr old virgin and the other day me and my boyfriend got "playful" and he fingered me, at times this hurt me and afterwards i bled. i put this down to him braking my hymen, but then yesterday we tried to have sex and he wouldn't fit. He fingered me to loosen me up but again hurt me, i bled alot smaller amount but stil bled aafter this... PLEASE HELP :'(

Answer 1

My guess is when he's fingering you, he's cutting up your insides with his nail. Tell him to be gentle for christ, sake and to cut his nail. And you have to relax your body when he's going inside you, otherwise it'll always hurt. Try massaging your "girl" when he's going in, ok? I would say my usual, "You're too young, blah blah blah", but you're not going to listen to me so I'm not going to even bother. Oh, yeah and make sure he's using a condom.

Answer 2

About the bleeding:



Answer 1:
Yes, it's normal. Some women bleed the first few times they have sex.


Answer 2:
Yes, it is normal, some women don't bleed.

Answer 3:
yes! A "cherry" usually refers to a girl's hymen. The hymen is a thin skin that stretches across the opening of the vagina. There is usually an opening in it to let menstrual flow out of the body.
"Popping the cherry" usually refers to the stretching or tearing of the hymen during first vaginal intercourse, which may lead to some bleeding. But not every young woman bleeds the first time she has vaginal intercourse. Some women bleed a lot, some bleed a little, and others don't bleed at all.

Hymens come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Some girls may appear to have no hymen at all and may not bleed. This is perfectly normal! A woman's hymen can also stretch or tear during insertive masturbation, as well as during sports and other non-sexual activities. Hope this information helps!

NOW THIS:

First off, MAKE SURE YOU ARE USING BIRTH CONTROL!!
second off, you have to be READY to have sex. When I say this I mean that it takes a womans body a bit to warm up to having something inserted inside. If I remember my first sexual encounter right, I remember only one thing...IT HURT LIKE MAD. I wasn't really all hot and bothered when I had the sex so it was quite painful. That is where "forplay" comes in. Forplay is important for a woman because it allows her to get to the point of actually wanting to have intercourse with her male partner. Forplay is the stuff that leads up to the act of intercourse. It involves a lot of kissing, fondling and touching. It's what allows the "Hot and Bothered" part to take place. When a woman becomes sexually excited, her vagina gets moist and ready to accept a penis for insertion. I'm not going into full details here but if you aren't sexually excited AND you are a virgin, you're in for a rough ride. Of course it will be painful. I suggest you read this information HERE:

This will explain everything!
http://www.teenwire.com/ask/1999/as-19991001p022.php

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!

Answer 3

It could be that you're a little bit nervous and tense and need to loosen up. If he's using a condom (which I hope) this has some lubrication on it and should help him slide in easier. RELAX, that's the main thing, or even try using a lubricant. NOT petroleum jelly, because it will weaken the condom.

*Above all, if you're gonna do it, do it for the right reasons. And be safe! I think 16 is young and you guys don't even know the mechanics of even getting his penis in. Maybe you're not ready?

Answer 4

Hymen or no hymen, when you're just getting started you will be really sensitive. He needs to use his fingers less at this stage, they're relatively hard and rough. He should be getting you turned on with gentle oral, and external stimulation with his hands. Only attempt full penetration when YOU are ready, no matter how frustrated he gets! Take your time, you'll be fine x

Answer 5

Hey, u r not ready yet for sex. IT's not abnormal or somthing, it's just that everybody's bodes are mde different by nature... and grew mature in different ways and take different time. Wait for time being,.. Surely, soon enough u will be ready for it ! But certainly, this is not the time or else u eill end u hurting yourself physically and emotionally too.

Answer 6

Well you should stop bleeding after a few times but you can try numerous ways or I mean he can try. Try these "Warming up" techniques. Have him rub your lower spine. Do Pilates 5 times a week. This strengthens your muscles near your vagina and should be a little easier on you. Do foreplay before to get you all wet.

Answer 7

well tell him to put Vaseline on his penis and your vagina should be wet so put a little 4play with it he should be eating some pp

Answer 8

maybe your body is telling you that you are not ready for this. especially since you do not seem to have enough knowledge about sex..to be having it. you know......aids... pregnancy... love.... respect. ... std's. you know.. all those little things,.