Ive known this guy for a couple of years and we have been friends, im 21 and he's 28 but he always told me he liked me heaps but was too busy with work ( has his own business) to commit to anything, he calls me everyday to talk but never seems to want to see me in person? never really asks me to do anything coz he is always so busy. He is never romantic , has a really dominant, confident character , cocky really, but never seems like he is trying to win me over. he has said to me he likes me and doesnt c himself with anyone else but he doesnt want the usual relationship he seems to think i want.
He doesnt want any of the drama that goes with it he told me.ive told him many times either tell me yes u want to be with me or no you dont but he can never give a straightforward answer. I know he doesnt c other girls. What should i do should i stop contact with this guy if he doesnt make a descion or should we remain friends? and i start dating other guys
2007-07-01 22:56:16 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems he is the type of guy who likes a challenge and you are not a challenge to him - he likes you , but sees you as just a friend. Guys like this are screaming to be given a challenge - you need to not answer his call every day and be harder to get - don't PLAY hard to get - BE hard to get - meaning GET busy with your own life.
Go out with other guys or even with your girlfriend and say - I had lunch with a FRIEND. Find something really really interesting that completely consumes you - he is that kind of personality he is passionate about his work - it will spark his interest if you have a passion about something in your life.
Guys all have the excuse of not wanting drama - like all girls are drama queens. I have turned this around on guys and told them that I don't really like THEIR kind of drama - and tell them what I don't like about what they do... They need to learn that not all women are high maintenance.
When I met my boyfriend - I had to slowly win him over. That meant not always being available for him. Not always calling him back. When I did call back - I made sure I was on my way to something so I didn't stay on the phone too long. I was always happy to hear from him - but it sounds like this guy needs a bit more excitement from you...
My man has actually started talking about if he ever got married, he would get married on a beach. I said that sounded beautiful and I am not convinced I will ever get married. It seemed cruel - but I know my man - he is a business man - a sales man - and he always feels better if he has to work a to win the deal - the harder he has to work - the better he appreciates it when he wins. I won't just take him because he wants me - I have worth - he has to win me. Sometimes I will innocently talk about another guy for a minute - and then change the subject. It is a hint that he is not the only man on the planet (even if in my heart of hearts he is my one and only)
I am always sweet and complimentary to him - he knows I am crazy about him - but he knows I haven't given him all of me. I don't know if I ever will - because he always needs something to chase...
hope that helps... intellectually challenge him - tease him - most men love that. They won't tell you they love it - but they can't wait to see you...
2007-07-01 23:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you need to know one way or the other, so that you can go on with your life. If he says no, just don't continue taking his calls every night. Some nights just let him wait. If he truly has feelings for you, he will start acting like it. If he does not, then you need to move on rather than waste all of your young years waiting on him. You are only young one time. You should be enjoying your life, not sitting around waiting on a man that will probably never commit to you.
2007-07-02 06:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on your patience, if you know he's not a playa o too desperate then jus have some patience.
2007-07-02 06:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by J. ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋