I went out with my boyfriend for over a year. I cared about him a LOT. He was the first one to say "I love you" and I honestly believe I love him, because otherwise I wouldn't have felt how I did with him and how I do now. Anyway, a few weeks ago I broke up with him, but it was lack of communication, so we got back together a few days later. Then I went three weeks with no contact from him at all. Last night we were IMing, and he seemed weird. After thirty minutes of probing he finally admitted "something's wrong, but its nothing." Eventually he said that he had realized he didn't love me, except as a friend. He apologized a lot. He said that he "thought it was something, but it wasn't." He told me that he still really cared about me and wanted to be friends, and I think his intentions are good. But I love him, I don't understand how these feelings could be onesided. By the way, we're fifteen. I'm probably gonna get a bunch of "you have your whole life" answers. But I need to know what to do, and how to move on, I guess? I don't know. I'm upset.
2007-07-01 22:50:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Breaking up with him likely caused him to look at the relationship from a new perspective, & allowed him to have doubts he didn't have before that happened. Even though you tried getting back together, those doubts probably continued to fester, & he decided to end it. Next time, I would recommend communicating before jumping to the break-up.
As for getting over it, there are no quick fixes. The best thing you can do is try to focus on what should be your priority in life now: your education. Putting your focus into that could help you get through the pain of losing this guy, but it won't eliminate it entirely. Just keeping your mind occupied will help, because the more time you have to think about something else, the less time you can think about him.
2007-07-01 22:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are just too young to be seriously in love (at least he is). Besides, if he didn't have the b... courage to tell you in person, than you are much better off without him. That shows lack of respect for you as a person, period. Now, do you really want to be with someone like that? Try to go out with your friends (girls, only. No boys for a while) and have fun. It will be hard at first, but that will show him what he lost, and make him realize that he had made a mistake or make you realize that it was a good thing that you two broke up, after all.
2007-07-01 23:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by Hector F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're 15, this is probably one of your first boyfriends. Believe me, it's just a crush and you will get over him very easily once another cute guy happens to call you. He's just a kid as well so he doesn't know how he feels, he's fickle- he may like some other girl but not want to lose you as a friend. If he broke up over IM, the relationship couldn't have been all that serious in the first place.
2007-07-01 22:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by Riya Layne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do just that...move on. And it's sad but true, you are only 15 years old and everyone knows these relationships come and go. Yes, the feelings are very real, but it's all a part of the growing up process. Girls will get their heart broken and so will boys. But it makes us who we are today and it teaches us : ) My mom always told me, "something good always comes out of something bad". So who knows, maybe you'll meet another guy, someone else who you really like. Right now though, don't focus on that. Just accept the situation for what it is. He broke up with you, and that's it. His chapter in your book of life is over, so turn the page. Hang out with friends and do fun things. This will keep your mind off him and vent with your friends about it. Get it all off your chest. You will be fine! I guarantee it!
2007-07-01 22:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, we can not make the person we love, love us. It is just a fact of life that you will have to accept. It happens all of the time. He is probably too young to be telling anyone that he loves them. He has not matured enough to know what love is. Eventually, you will meet someone that will return your love. In time, those empty painful feelings will leave, and you will be able to enjoy your life again.
2007-07-01 22:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up over IM was really a bad choice. But anyways, i think you should just let it go. No matter how much you love a person, it's up to them whether or not to return that love. I think that you guys should stay friends even if he likes you again because it didn't work once, what makes you think it'll work again
2007-07-01 22:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to be treated like a mature adult than you have to act like one. move on. you do not cling to someone who does not want you. you do not beg... and you do not stalk. you continue going to school ..meeting people and then voila... you find another interest. got it.... got it. you do not have to do nothing. he is not into discussion. and for goodness sake.. do not be a puppet on a string. as soon as he decides to come back you come a running. that is the adult way
2007-07-01 22:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check out why and what has happened to him self.. if its only a lack of communication, even you didnt do a misake just say sorry and continue your love.. if its something serious you explain yourself to him.. he may understand you... best of luck dear.. evn if he dont understand try to search another bf..
2007-07-01 22:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*hug* that was a horrible way to break up with you. you can still have them kind of feelings, no matter how old you are. just spend some time on your own. you will move on in time.
2007-07-01 22:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww...dont be too upset..relationships dont last that long at out age anyways so think of it as gaining a lifelong friend...and really you do you have the rest of your life, so everything will be ok ^^
2007-07-01 22:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by abc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋