2007-07-01 22:49:11 · 25 answers · asked by T. Boy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I need to let you all know that I will be 34 years in February 2008. My mom has four of us, I am the first there is another guy (22) and two other sisters (31) and (28) in age. Sometimes I have the feeling that my mom concentrates too much on the physical rather than the intrinsic things. She claims my GF looks older than me(she is only 30) and that she must have had a dirty past, this she cannot proove though.
2007-07-01 23:08:06 · update #1
Tell your Mum to respect your decision to see this girl. as Im sure you have respected decisions your mum has made in the past even if you didnt agree with them :) At the end of the day it's your life not your mums !!
2007-07-01 22:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the girlfriend. I'm not sure how old you are and that would be a good thing to know.. however, mother's are very wise for the most part. Most likely if your mom doesn't like the GF it is for a good reason that you are too blind to see due to your feelings for the GF. I'd go with mom. There are a million fish in the sea but only 1 momma! Man I sound like a puss
2007-07-02 05:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a sweetheart you are. Let me say this. I am a mom of 6 kids. Two boys are age 16 and 21 and 4 girls are ages 12, 14, 18 and 22. For some reason when my oldest boy got his first REAL girlfriend, my heart hurt. I don't know why but it affected me in a way that surprised me. My heart was saddened because I realized that I was no longer my sons 'one and only'. It's very normal for most boys to dote on their mothers and my oldest son was no exception. He opened doors for me, (still does) he carried groceries for me, (still does) and treated me with the utmost good and love.It's hard for a mom to give up her little boy to just any girl! I bet if you talk to your mom heart to heart and ask her why she feels this way...first reminding her of course just how much you LOVE HER (mom), you will come to some kind of middle road with her about your girlfriend. You just always need to remind mom how important she is to you and how much you value her opinion in your life. (as long as you live at home anyhow)
GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-02 06:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by blakta2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little bit complicated. I wnt advise you to dump her like that. I will put myself in your shoes and tell you what i'll rather do.If those were the reasons she gave, then they arn't enough for you to dump her. You are not looking for a queen but for a wife material, one that will give you peace and a happy home to mention a few. There are so many mad pretty girls in town, if you let yourself to be decieved with their faces, you will be a loser. Let your mom understand her values and say good things about your girl.Its never too late to convince her.Never tell your girl your mom hates her because this may be a problem in the future.About her past? Everyone is got a past, forgive her past and see the present.Some people may not have a bad past but later become wild and bad in future.Its left for you to decide but if mom insists after all these, go for another. If that one turns out to be bad, all blame and faults will go to your mom.Let her know this.
2007-07-02 06:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by k3ger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very few mums do like thier son's girlfriend - especially if you have always been mummyied and they don't have a daughter - they don't want to loose thoer baby boy and no-one can look after thier baby boy as well as she can - my boyfriends mum likes me but she is still always telling me how i should do things and adjusting my home - she once moved my furniture around!!! Its old fashioned and silly little things but it does my head in - if your mum realises how much you love her and that by making things difficult between yo and the girlfrined she will push yu away even more then things should work out ok for you - sit her down and tell her that your welcome to go out for a meal once in a while or your girlfriend could go to your mums or your mum go to yours for a meal othrwise she will see less ofyou as you will stick by your girlfriend - explain to her that you have grown up and need to be indepandant and can look after yourself ut if you need her you know that she will always be there for you!
2007-07-02 05:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ebab831 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep the two separate at all times. Try to talk to your mom and find out what it is about your girlfriend that she doesn't like. Don't tell your girlfriend your mom doesn't like her- I am sure she would probably be offended by that.
If you are serious about the girlfriend, I would try to be a mediator between the two, take them to a nice coinciliatory lunch and make them get along.
2007-07-02 05:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Riya Layne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should tell your mum how u feel about this girl, explain to her that you love her, and love your mum too, and if she doesnt understand that, providing that your old enough to look after yourself, then just keep seeing her, if shes really that special, your mum should come round to the idea. Just do what u feel is right. Good luck.
2007-07-02 05:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by hayley.n2k7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would help to know the ages involved.
i personally think you cannot live your life to please others - if your mom has made the wrong assumptions then maybe in time she will be proved wrong, if your mom is right, then you will be proved wrong. either way, it is you life
i don't think you should enf the relationship on another persons say so, it is only the the two of you in this relationship.if you feel this way about you g/f, it is your right to see how it pans out.
2007-07-02 06:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by michelle l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask ur mom why she doesn't like her... Let ur mom know how u feel about this girl too. Ur mom is just trying to protect u, maybe she sees something in this girl that she wants to protect u from... Best thing u can do is to ask ur mom flat out why she dislikes ur girl.
2007-07-02 05:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by BuuCity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think ahead, if your mom doesn't like your girlfriend, she probably won't let you two get married. If that happens, you'll have to break up with her someday. But if you find a girlfriend you and your mom both love, then i think that's the correct choice
2007-07-02 05:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋