So im seeing this guy, and i think i love him, but im not sure, how do u know? and i really wanna tell him how i feel, but im scared he will think im 'rushin in' too quickly. We agreed to take things slow from the start, and its now been a month, and the L word hasnt been mentioned, i really like him but is he leading me on?
2007-07-01 22:41:25 · 19 answers · asked by hayley.n2k7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have to think about it, then maybe you're not there yet. i think a month is pretty soon, so why not wait a bit. i'm sure once you really feel it, you'll be able to say it
2007-07-01 22:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by dylan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman I have found that the best policy is to wait for him to say it first. When he does, then you can tell him too.
If he hasn't said it, then he is not there yet. It puts awkward pressure on him to say it too, and there is no good end if he is not ready to say it.
If he does say it because he feels he has to, then you will never know if he would have otherwise or if he means it.
If he doesn't say it, then it becomes awkward for you because you are left hanging out there.
Plus, if a guy feels like you are more into him then he is you, they tend to lose interest.
If you wait until he says it, no problems.
Just wait, it is enough that you know how you feel.
Besides, I think you need to be in "love" for a couple of months before you can be sure it isn't plain old infatuation.
Don't forget it usually takes men longer to fall in love. They fall in love with the eyes first. Real love means he has to first get around to noticing the rest of you, and then has to learn to appreciate it.
It can happen fast, but don't feel like there is something wrong if it takes a few months.
2007-07-02 05:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by sage 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, I have a rule to never say I love you first. Girls are usually more emotionally invested quicker than guys are.
The words I love you can make a lot of men feel panicky - like they are being pressured into the relationship, rather than just being enjoyed for who they are.
Love means a lot of different things to different people. You might just be having a sweet deep feeling and he thinks you want to get married. The L word can make things complicated if said before you know the person really well.
Guys want to know if they can hang with you and be good friends - sometimes for six months to a year before they really start feeling love. If you can just hang in there and not worry about it - he will sense that you are a cool girl and tell you that he loves you and you will know he means it.
I find that saying things like I really like you, or I adore you, or I am infatuated with you or I have wet gooey feelings for you, or you turn me on or I have tender sweet feelings for you or you make me very happy - are good things to say in the beginning.
Its really more accurate, because in reality you don't really LOVE someone til you know their darker side and can deal with that without freaking out.
Love is an action more than a feeling. You can also tell someone loves you by the things they do for you - or even calling you or visiting you.
2007-07-02 05:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, i told my boyfriend a while ago and we had been going out for 3 months, at first he said it would take him some time to feel the same way because of his past relationships and stuff but then he told me he thought i was amazing and he was falling in love with me and now he says he loves me all the time.
You wont scare him away, he will be flattered and if he don't feel the same way just yet then just give him some time.
2007-07-02 06:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Girl Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are really in love with him it will probably blurt from your mouth and you will wish you could put it back inside.
Because that little word changes everything.
However, if you have to ask... you aren't quite there.
Try saying it under your breath so he can't hear and seeing how it feels/sounds to you. If it feels/sounds wrong... it's not time.
Use your actions to show him how you feel and wait as long as possible to say that word out loud. Shout it from the rooftops if it makes you feel good... but think about his feelings first before you tell him. It frightens some guys.
2007-07-02 05:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by Scubbro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if u agreed to take things slowly. its fine. And one suggestion i can give. tell him honestly what you feel about him. Just see him one bright morning, Take him to a park or a place where you both will be quite alone.... N just blurr out whatever u feel. Don't decide previously what you are going to say. Whatever you are feeling at that very moment, say it out. In matters of heart, don't use ur head.
2007-07-02 05:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by goddess_of_fame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait 6 months -- if you feel the same way -- then it may be true...
Often it does not need to be spoken -- those who use it like a quote often do not understand what it really means...
2007-07-02 05:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by ★Greed★ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey chicks! Im with my man ab six months now n i asked a similar question las wk..........click into my avatar to check out what answers i got if you'd like!! Good luck chicks x x x
2007-07-02 05:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not rush...its better to take time slowly that way you do not regret...You only know him for about a month..that is not long enough..if you really love him you have to be patient..Just be patient and time will tell
2007-07-02 05:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by teresa_deflor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when ever i make love to someone I for some reason ALWAYS say I love you. I find that to be the best time. Even if i dont see her again, at the time, I do love her.
2007-07-02 05:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by R.Longo L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋