How soon is too soon to get married?

Question

I'm 19 and my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and have grown very close to each other. Marriage pops up in our conversation quite frequently and I have a feeling that he'll propose to me sometime next year. How soon is too soon to get married?

Answer 1

At around 18 months to 2 years, the 'honeymoon phase' of a relationship starts to wind down a bit. That is usually a good time to make decisions like that.

After then, you would have gotten to know each other reasonably well, and well enough to make an informed decision about your future.

Bottom line is, if you can't imagine your life without each other, then go for it.

Answer 2

It all depends on the couple. I've seen them work and fail for those that got married right away and those that waited. It's all about how "adult" the two of you can be. If you suspect he's going to propose "sometime next year", that gives you a year or so and figure 3-6 months to get the wedding together, which is about how long I've seen a good number of people, friends and acquaintances take. Then again, I've known people that were together for 3 or more years.

May not help you a lot, but that's what I've seen.

Answer 3

Well...I am all for love, but I am also for life. Not to say that you are to young, or that when you get married you do not have a life...BUT, this is what I have learned in my years. I am in my late 20. I have been proposed to 3 times...and am not yet married....
1. You have to have a base, meaning that you have to have been with a few people, to know what is your "type" I am not saying sexually, just knowing different types of people.

2. Do you have at least 60% in common? Mening that you have to be able to have diffrences, ( that makes things fun ) but is your chore the same...

3. Have you lived toghter...for all you know the guy could eat pizza off hos belly and play with his ^@66 when you are not around.

4. Is he a morning person, or an evening person?

5. Do you want kids?

6. Do you like eachother family?

7. Who will be the provider, and are you willing to change rolls?

8. Is he good in bed...

9. Do you love him?

10. Is it the lust of a new relationship that draws you to him, or is it him.,,,the guy in a dirty T-shirt , Just sitting around doing nothing.

Hope this helps

Answer 4

I have seen people together for years and get married then divorce soon after. I don't think its how long you are together. I think its all about knowing what you are really looking for in life and being honest with each other. In most cases people do not know what they want from another person when they are 19. Some don't know when they are older. It depends on the person. Some people know what they want from high school and have there life plans laid out others do not have a clue. I would say examine your self and what you want in life. One thing is for sure the divorce rate is very high. I don't think it's because people rush into things. I think its all about being honest with yourself about what you are looking for and being honest with each other. Remember this is supposed to be for the rest of your life. If you have a child then you are tied to this person in some way for the rest of your life. Look at the way he treats other people. Look at the way he treats people he don't like. You could be one of those other people one day. Think about it really well before you make your decision.

Answer 5

trust me, this is way way WAY too soon, i am 16 and have been going out with my gf for 6 months and that always comes up in the conversation, but that doesn't mean that we should get married. u need to wait longer than that, i know you are 19 and you think that you are old enough to do anything, but don't make a mistake, you should at least date the person for a year and a half, and you need to keep asking yourself the question, do you want to spend the rest of your life with this person? now don't deny yourself, actually listen to your head, your gut, and your heart, and make sure that all of these are telling you to get married to this person. do not do what people expect you to do, and don't do what someone tells you to do, listen to yourself and don't be scared to tell your loved one how you feel about the situation. If they truly love you they will definitely understand that you are not ready
but again make sure that with whatever decision you make,
your head, your heart, and your gut all agree
use your head to think if this is logical
use your heart to see if you truly love him
use your gut to see how you truly feel about the situation
just don't go to fast, and make sure that you don't make a mistake
remember, if it is TRUE love then it can wait

i really hope this helps

Answer 6

A couple should date at least 18 months to two years, to get to know each other really well, and each other's families. Then there could be talk of getting engaged for eight months or a year before the wedding.
It's best to be in your mid-20s! At 25, you won't be the same person you are as a teen at 19 - and you may not choose the same kind of guy.
Better to complete your post-secondary education, get out in the working world to live independently, pay rent and bills, deal with realities of life - become your best mature self - only then will you be able to offer your best self to a husband and marriage.

Answer 7

People are funny on here. It's not too soon to get married, but you have to be ready. I only dated my husband for 3 months before we got engaged, and he was barely 19 when we got married. He graduated from high school early, got a full-time job, moved out, started college, etc. I also was in college, working two jobs, paying bills.

I know a couple of girls who got married at 18, who were barely out of high school and had never had any "adult" experiences, but they have stable, successful marriages, too. So who's to say? It totally depends on the person.

Answer 8

nobody can answer that 4 u cuz there is no right answer, you have to follow your heart. I will say at 19 (i'm 34) that u r awfully young to be thinking about marriage. u have ur whole life ahead of you. no disrespect, but kids your age usually don't have the mentality it takes to make a marriage work. I married young myself (23) and 5 years later, i was a single mom cuz my husband was screwing around on me so i divorced him. marriage is hard work, trust, love, communication, and compromise. if you truly love each other, it could work but remember, marriage isn't easy. by the way, me ex is a deadbeat dad. he doesn't see our kids or pay child support. this was the man i was "in love" with.good luck

Answer 9

I was once told that people are not done forming their adult personalities until 22. Prior to that age, a lot of people experience significant changes in how they see themselves and the world around them. Waiting until you are 22, according to the person who was telling me this, increases your odds of staying married.

As far as length of time dating, my husband and I dated for three years before becoming engaged and my parents did the same and are still married after 27 years. I am glad we dated that long. It gave us a lot of time to see how the other responds to stress, joy, etc. before being committed to a lifetime of highs and lows.

Answer 10

Before noon may be called 'SOON'.By the evening should be fine. marriage is like a Project.Plan,prepare,execute,ensure timely completion and long term Maintenance.Provide for small interim 'by-projects'[home,kids,insurance,travels etc.]Good luck.