She's made up things in the past like disorders or allergies she's supposed to have had...then l've seen doctor's letters and certificates stating all clear, no positive results, etc etc. Anyway, at age 3 she had her daughter diagnosed with Autism, after seeing about 25 doctors and therapists in total, the official diagnosis in on the Autism spectrum (based on the Mother's statements and evidence), she doesn't qualify for any therapy time, special ed teaching aide time, or anything. Anyway, her daughter displays NO signs of Autism or anything, but her mother is telling everyone she has Autism, bleding disorders, allergies, etc that AREN'T TRUE, she's ruining the child's life! l've called CPS in the past about the mother, but they say there's nothing they can do. Does anyone have any ideas about anything l can do? l've spoken to my friend, she won't listen, the father is not in the picture. Am l over-reacting, or is there something l should do?
2007-07-01 20:01:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
she could develop into full blown munchausen by proxy and start doing things to the child so she has real symptoms, if the girl talks, doesnt sit there and rock, shes not autistic, the woman is lying to get attention, when thats no longer enough shes going to try poisoning her or breaking bones or something, call the womans family or else simply stop giving her any attention when she whines about something wrong with the child, when she doesnt get attention for the ills, it wont make any difference to invent illnesses. shes insane in a way, and shes going to harm that girl physically eventually , and shes already harmed her emotionally.
2007-07-01 20:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot beieve that I just read this! Your daughter is going through the time of her life right now. She is a teenager. She is asking you for help with her homework. It don't matter if you guys get along or not, you are her mother. I can't believe you are saying that she's not the most attractive girl around. She is your daughter and she should the most beautiful girl around! She's a teen for god sakes! She's gonna complain about the clothes she has and want new clothes. Yea, I'm sure it is hard and overwhelming, it's all part of being a mother! You should love her. Think back to the day when you first had her! The feeling you had (not the pain, of course). The joy, the overwhelming feeling, not know how to raise this child. These feelings are no different from now. You are so overwhelmed you don't know what to do. I understand that, but you need to really just try. Don't give up on your daughter! She may, but at least you can look back and say, "I tryed." Right now you can't say that by the way you are acting. And NO you should not tell her that you are not her real mother. I do feel that you need to spend less time with your boyfriend and more with your daughter too!
2016-05-21 00:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by julianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mild autism can be hard to recognize. These kids may be completely verbal and may have nervous habits such as wringing hands instead of rocking & arm flapping. These kids largely went undiagnosed until very recent times.
BUT it is not uncommon for normal kids to be misdiagnosed with mild autism. Especially if the mother went doctor shopping to get the diagnoses she wanted.
The point is, you don't know & there is no real way for you to know anytime soon.
Doctors cannot talk to you about thier patients, but I don't see any reason why you can't talk to the doctor. Tell him (or her) your concerns that the mother may have Munchausen by Proxy, and her accounts of the child's behavior may not be accurate.
It would be horrific if the mother got some doctor to medicate the child for a condition she doesn't have.
Just keep in mind, the girl MAY have mild autism.
2007-07-05 12:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Smart Kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Working with children in special ed, mostly with autism I can say it is very hard to diagnose autism. Unless your around a child who has it, finding the characteristics that contribute to this disorder is hard. Autism could be very mild in this particular child. I've working with some children in general ed classes that have autism but don't require our services. If a doctor diagnosed the child then I'd say just leave it alone. To me, if your personally haven't been with the mother and gone with her to the doctors you really can't justify whether or not the mother is lying. I'd just stay away from it. Personally, yes I feel you are overreacting. If CPS thought the child was in danger they would have done something about it.
2007-07-01 20:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kels 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the mother has issues. I would ask her why she can't be happy with her healthy daughter and to stop putting her child through this. It should be considered child abuse, but unfortunely the state won't consider abuse until after the child is in critical condition or dies. I would tell her that since her daughter is capable of going through life without therapy for autism, she should treat her daughter like she loves her and not like some soap opera she controls. The woman needs to get help before she starts poisening her daughter. I would keep calling CPS.
2007-07-01 20:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by goturanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a disease called Munchausen by Proxy where Mothers insist their children are sick -some go to the point where they make thier children sick -in order to get attention for themselves. It could be this. The child is not sick the mother is.
2007-07-02 00:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a tough call to make, but if you interfere it sounds like you would make it worse as your friend sounds like she likes to play the victim and to gain the attention she so badly desires... its unfortunate for the child but its your friends daughter and she is the one with the right to make judgement calls about her daughter she is also the one who would know her daughter best... perhaps speak to your friends family and see what their view is, before you tread on your friends toes because no mother appreciates someone elses opinion on their children so be careful you may be over reacting but something inside you is obviously sending u[p warning signs so go wiith your instinct and perhaps research autism further before you approach her again. good luck
2007-07-01 20:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the mother could use a support group.
2007-07-01 20:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by M L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it does don't it, still i suppose the experts would know for sure!!!!!!
2007-07-03 02:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋