I am 13 years old and for my entire life, my father hasnt spent much time with me. Don't get me wrong, he has done more than everything that he can to take care of me. He is more than I could ask for in a father, but right now I need a friend even more. I am entering high school (I skipped a grade) and I am very nervous. I need a male who i can talk to and spend quality time with when my peers just arent enough. My father and I both enjoy futbol (soccer) very much and I try to use that as a way to get him to spend time with me but it isnt working too well. Any suggestions??
2007-07-01 19:21:20 · 12 answers · asked by xtreme5215 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Everything you just said here..say to your Dad.You said it with heart and honesty.Tell your Dad what you just said here.He would be honored,Say hay Dad I need to talk to you.Sit him down and tell him what is in your heart.Be honest and you know what I bet your Dad wants to spend time with you as well.Open up and make the first step...talk its the only way to go,Don't ever be afarid to talk
Talk Talk Talk !!!
Best of luck!
2007-07-01 19:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your father if YOU can spend more time with HIM. Tell him you feel guilty about spending so little time with him, and you would really like to get to know him better and enjoy his company more.
It's a different twist to the way you phrased your question, but when my own children put it this way, I found it hard to resist and went out of my way to re-schedule my work time.
The way you phrased it might tend to put a parent on the defensive, as if it were an accusation (which of course it is not in your case). Turning it around makes it less of a guilt trip for your father, so he can concentrate on the real issue -- spending more time with you.
It might be worth a try -- it worked on me.
2007-07-01 19:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
The people like u r father ,they may think that make their children more happy, in that way of thinking they may ignore his family some Tim's,they know that Whit r the hurdles are to be faced in that age,because they already cross that age,they try to avoid to facing of that problems in her children,on that journey he may unable to spend more time with u,for the sake of this u dint think u r father forgot u, u r always in u r father's heart.
Try to spend with u r father in any holly day spot,at least once a week, that make reduces the communication gap between both of u
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2007-07-01 21:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I know you would love to be friends with your dad, but naturally parents are not meant to be friends but this doesn't mean you can't have a fun and loving relationship. Parents are your guides and you're protectors, you may not realize it but your Dad may be wanting the same, it's just that he may feel uncool for you now. I reckon you start by asking him what life was like when he was your age, what were his interests. And that should get the ball rolling, and you'll be surprised to find that many of his interests at that age will still be the same today, but he's probably thrown them aside like we do when we become responsible adults haha. Good luck mate.
2007-07-01 20:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to these other people saying talk to him. This is what you should do, first stop whining and saying you need a friend. Secondly, maybe wreck his car or do something to get him angry then he whill ground you and you guys could hang out. Or jus follow him everywhere. Be like a spy and sneak around with him, if he drives somewhere- hide in the back seat. IMO(in my oppinion) who wants to hang out with there dad tho? dads are usually boring and jus act like morons! hope i helped!
2007-07-01 19:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by jstack34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him! parents are normally really interested in knowing what their kids have going on. tell him how nervous you are and how much you appreciate him and that you want to spend more time with him. he may think that sicne you're growing up so much he should resepct your privacy more, and that's a good thing too. a son who wants more father/son time - how could any dad resist that?
2007-07-01 19:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Erica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men have a hard time communicating or understanding a family member's emotions..so he may be competely oblivious and you may need to just tell him how you feel. Let him know how your feeling about school and his role in your life...just keep trying. good luck..
2007-07-01 19:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could write to him an elborate letter and place it on his bed. If you need help writing the letter, just contact me. I done this with someone else before.
God Bless
2007-07-01 19:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with him.
2007-07-01 22:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by DCKilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG mi dad is like that too and im 13 too. i wil try to do things with him but it feels like hes pushing me away from him. Idk has problems !!! i sware lol !!!! MAYB UR DAD WONT PUSH U AWAY TRY GOING PLACES WITH HIM EVEN IF IT MEANS LIKE GOING TO GET HIS CAR WASHED OR SOMETHING. just aslong as your trying to show him u care!!!
2007-07-01 20:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋