he has told me he masturbates to me, and he told me he wants to have sex with me and i have been going along with it b/c i didn't know he was as serious as he actually is, well he wants to get together and do it, i have no clue what i am going to do, im 18 & it would be my first time and i am not sure if i am going to go through with it, should i do it or not, if not what should i say so he doesnt think im a total liar
2007-07-01 19:11:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're not sure then don't do it, you'll regret it. Well if he has the nerve to say that your a total liar, what does that tell you? You have the right to change your mind - making you not a liar, your just unsure about it because it is a BIG deal.
2007-07-01 19:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by GiRLfrM510 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready don't do it. Don't push yourself doing something you might regret in the future. If the boy do care about he would understand, just tell him straight out that your not ready to have sex. It no big deal to lose over a boy that don't care about how you feel.
Don't let other pressure you to do things that you don't want to.
It better to wait for the right person than to lose it to a loser.
And if you do decide to have sex with this guy remember to practice safe sex.
2007-07-01 19:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by jj1102 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, do not do it, because you still have doubts. You will know when the time is right. Don't ever let anyone push you into it. Tell him that you have thought long and hard about it, and you just do not feel ready to have sex yet. Tell him that went you do have sex for the first time, you want it to be a wonderful experience, not something you did just to please him.
If he really loves you, he will understand!
2007-07-01 19:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. When in doubt... don't do it. This is a good lesson in all aspects of life. Apparently, your soul, your psyche, your heart is telling you that maybe this isn't the right time, guy, place... whatever.
Sex is a natural thing.. and if you are entering into the deal with so many doubts... then obviously it is something you really don't want to do.... so just say no. tell him sorry, but you aren't ready.
And if he truly loves you and respects you, he'll respect your decision to wait.
2007-07-01 19:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
having sex for the first time is a really big thing, so if u feel just for a little bit that u r not ready so dont u do it, cuz u have to feel 200% ready to do it and to make it right and always remember it as a good experience not a really bad one...so how u feel about it?!
2007-07-01 19:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by smousa2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it. You dont need a boyfriend that's not going to pressure you into having sex. Its your decision, not his. take your time and if you re 18 and still a virgin, then good for you. If you have sex before your ready you will absolutely regret it.
2007-07-01 19:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by urb3stkpts3cr3t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will you should never be force to do anything you don't want to do and are not ready for. just tell him that your not ready to have sex yet. and if he truly loves you he would respect your choose. some people even wait until they are marry because they only want to be with one person. some people believe it's a sin to have sex out of marriage too. you can tell him that you believe in waiting until your married because you don't want to live in sin. don't do something your not ready for. I would say not do it because it sounds like your not ready yet. but only you will know when you are ready to do it. good luck.
2007-07-01 19:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to let him know. You don't want your first time to be one of the biggest things you regret. If he loves you, he'll understand your wanting to wait till you're ready. He might not like it, but he won't push the subject.
2007-07-01 19:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jeremy - myspace.com/jeremy41286 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is pressuring you to have sex with him which means hes not a very good boyfriend. your obviously not ready for sex so don't give into him. if he doesn't like it when you tell him your not ready then its time to find a new oyfriend if you catch my wind.
2007-07-01 19:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jacks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes no to sex this time....
your confuse and young
yes no that you are not ready.
Godbless
2007-07-01 19:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by judan7007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋