my girl is not a virgin, i am but she wants to have sex, i don't want to till marrage what should i do?

Question

I've been with her about 1 yr 9 mo and she wants to have sex, but i don't want to till marriage and it seems like our relationship is in the balance right now cuz of it but neither of us want to break up with each other. we really love each other and plan on getting married in like 1 yr or two. also i go down on her and visa versa and recently she has goten tired of us going down on each other. and she don't want me to do anything that i don't want to but she really wants sex, is there a solution other than breaking up?

Answer 1

if you are going down on her you are having sex. to think otherwise is stupid. seal the deal already.

Answer 2

If you truly want to wait until marriage, you need to ask the people you choose to date from the door their views on it. Perhaps meet someone after church and persue a relationship with someone who shares this view. Its natural to want to be intimate and I am sure she loves you alot if she's respected your wish this long. I wouldn't break up with her, if she loves you this last year should be a breeze. there are plenty of sensual things to do that are not sex.... massages, kisses, rubbing, touching, playing with yourself, playing with each other, hugging, dry humping... I mean of course you may want to wait until you're closer to marriage to do most of it because then you'll be temped (lol) but Just reassure her you love her and am connected to her and that you appreciate her respecting your values. It'll work out I know temptation is hard. Hand in there you've managed this long. :) I held out on my first love for 4 years.

Answer 3

Tell her how you feel about sex and that you are planning on waiting until your married. If she really likes you she will understand. If she throws a fit she isn't worth it and it shows she is just in it for the sex.