ive been dating this guy for a while and he finally tells me that hes scared of getting hurt and doesnt want to jump into fast and get hurt. . .hes kinda standoffish hes 23 and seems to think im the enemy even though his exes have hurt him, should i cut him some slack or cut im loose?
2007-07-01 18:48:56 · 8 answers · asked by police_chick86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cut him some slack. some ppl have been in really bad relationships and even if the other person says they wont hurt him he is still afraid. So instead of getting too into something he wants to slowly ease into it.
2007-07-01 18:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by anniemusgrove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut him some slack and be sensitive to his feelings and remember that he has been badly hurt from his previous relationships. Take it slow and in the process, you could probably earn his trust. The reason why he is standoffish is because that is his only armor to protect himself from getting hurt and thats why he puts you at an arms length. That is why he needs you to take it slow with him and honestly, u should be grateful and thankful that he was able to tell you how he feels because most guys are too scared to admit that and could possibly do worse by shutting a girl off. Be patient with him and remember that his trust is fragile.
2007-07-02 01:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by obviously 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him some slack. When a guy get gets hurt multiple times in a row by women, it takes some time to be totally trusting of the next one. If you give him some space and time, he should warm up to you and his fear again, should subside. Should being the key word there.
But...by your tone you sound a bit like you are already leaning on the side of cutting him loose. Only you know the extents of his situation, your situation, and the situation of your relationship. It's totally your call to make.
2007-07-02 02:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by Zen.Frank. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a guy and if had opened up to you and told you that i was scared to be hurt and wanted to go slower you should definitely not cut him loose. he is puttin himself out there and bein honest with you and if u dump him you'll hurt him like all his other exes. take this into consideration
2007-07-02 01:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously I'm not a guy. If you would please accept a suggestion from woman. Read Greg Behrendt's, "He's Just Not That Into You." I found it interesting and very liberating. I no longer waste a lot of time, money and energy on dead beats. Good Luck.
2007-07-02 02:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Marsali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well their are two sides for this...one he could really need space and a woman who understands him and will care for him...or he is just making himself look helpless and someone who needs comforting all the time to just get you to take care of him and support him while he gets you into bed...my advice is get someone who better suits your needs and wants unless you are happy with the way things are...
Hope it works out ok...
-Moose
2007-07-02 01:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by Moose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be in limbo? Cut him loose now.
2007-07-02 01:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by meg g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you sound like you want out, you want out. bye.
2007-07-02 01:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by nobudE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋