What makes you really notice a girl in a positive way that make you want to talk to her? Please help me out... I'm so not smart about guys... the only guy advice I know is "be yourself, make eye contact but not in a creepy way", basically....
So, anyone want to help me out??
2007-07-01 18:23:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People, both male and female seem to concentrate on looks as the primary attraction issue. However looks last until the point one's mouth opens, at which point any number of issues comes up.
First there are the show stoppers. Say a liberal met a racist. Once they found out that they occupies opposite ends of the political spectrum, there's about a 0% chance of them hitting it off. More commonly idiocy vs. intellect would be incompatible.
When it comes to traits men find good (at least me & the people I spend time with)
In no particular order..
1) A minimum of looks, but once past that threshold, who cares.
2) Intelligence. Face it, you can't live on inane, low brow conversation for long unless you are inane and low brow yourself.
3) Happiness. Being smiley, approachable, easy to talk to, not moody. Many men understand that moody women do not stop being moody and will act accordingly.
4) Normal, not insane. Insane in this context typically involves extreme or inconsistent reactions to minor mistakes/personal infractions. Man to man advice when this sort of behavior happens is 'walk away'. So no week of mood fits when he doesn't do something you decided to expect.
5) Compatibility of interest. Outdoorsy vs. indoorsy. Lefty vs. righty. Oprah watching vs. Oprah hating etc. etc.
The happy, smiley thing is probably the most important thing in the early stages of attraction. You can't do too much about your looks in the short term, but a positive attitiude and flirty nature will get you a long way.
I however am happily married and well out of the market. My wife has a PhD, which is what peaked my interest in the first place so get studying..
2007-07-01 18:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by anotherbsdparent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is different for everyone, but I can tell you that intelligence, confidence and a great sense of humor finish the deal! Now of course appearance is crucial ( and if anyone tells you differently they are lying). Once agian unique to the guy's preference, but once the look grabs you, those things I mentioned above let me know whether the conversation will last for a minute ot a lifetime. Remember that when you are not looking, everyone else is. It's like that old saying where when you stop looking for love, love finds you. It's because there is just something attractive about a strong woman with confidence that allows her softer side to come out when in your presence.
So laugh more and don't "need" anyone, and watch how they come running :)
2007-07-01 18:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alie, here is my best shot; Yes, be yourself, be honest, etc., all these are wise advice. But this is advice for living your life...learn to love and accept yourself, without judgment. If you can feel comfortable with yourself, then you won't worry about meeting guys or how to act around guys. Being comfortable with yourself means you don't worry what guys think about you...because you know how wonderful you really are. If some guy can't see that, then he is not the one for you. But you will find that if you truly feel comfortable with yourself, guys will be attracted to you. You will exude confidence and comfort, and guys will be drawn to you like bees to honey. And when you make a choice, choose only those who will honor you.That is, you don't honor yourself by choosing jerks.
2007-07-01 18:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I noticed with my late girlfriend was her smile...once I saw that smile I started trying to find out more about her and I kept finding more and more about her that I loved and I asked her out...So you should smile alot more boys always notice a girl who smiles and wants to be with her so they can smile too, you should be yourself meaning don't change yourself to make others like you just be honest and trustworty if you do that then you will have no trouble finding a really nice boyfriend with good morals...
Hope this helps and best of luck to you :)
-Moose
2007-07-01 18:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by Moose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that I seem to notice and admire the most about a girl's appearance is how she carries herself. If she walks straight and tall like someone with a lot of confidence in herself, and good posture, it just makes me watch and take notice. Oh, and watch some more of course.
Best Wishes
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2007-07-01 18:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...be yourself, make eye contact but not in a creepy way. IM KIDDING... you gotta lokk confident and outgoing. I hate having to talk to a shy girl because their so hard to open up... just talk and look like you know what youre doing. Also, what makes ME wanna talk to a girl is if they look good, not in a trashy way but normal. Oh and a smile is always good to see
2007-07-01 18:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well be someones friend before you do anything and get to know them. the slowly start to apporach them and flirt with them. flirting makes me notices a girl. Most guys don't notices if a girl matches cloths or weird stuff like that. lol
2007-07-01 18:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by Steven R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I notice right away...
A big confident smile is a MUST.
Not slouching.
Not dressed trashy.
2007-07-01 18:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blue Bananas! yay
2016-05-21 00:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like girls like honesty (most of them at least), they want to see who u r rly are that is both personality and looks.. they dont want u to nag and to annoy them, they want to see that u r smart and funny .. what do u notice about guys? its almost the same thing..a beautiful girl with confidense and humour will grab their attention bt what really makes them stay with her is her personality..
good luck
2007-07-01 18:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋