There's this guy... He is totally sweet & funny... and I like him so much... He's a GOOD BOY. It has nothing to do with looks, because in everyone's eyes, he's really not that cute... everyone i tell thinks that I could "do better," but there's no one else i want but him...
I've known him for 4 or 5 months... I've always felt something for him. He's just so easy to talk to, and he makes me laugh. One time, this woman saw us flirting, and actually told us that we should date!! He said, "Her? No way, noo no noooo," but he was sorta smiling when he said it. I was hurt, but my friends told me that guys sometimes pretend they don't like girls, when they do. So, we've seen each other at work an average of 1-2 times per week, for maybe 10 minutes per time...
Well, last week, he started dating this girl. She is awful. She has a nasty personality, is manipulative, fake, and is just out to hurt people. She's a controlling liar, and has tried to mess with me more than once... when she was supposed to be my friend... and, she's no beauty queen. Her outisides match her insides, basically. People always comment on how gross she looks...
I was so hurt when I found out taht they started dating. How could he want her and not me? I'm a nice person, I don't hurt people... and *if* he was superficial, I'm 20x better looking than her!
What do I do? I want to tell him how I feel, but if he doesn't feel the same way, he'll tell the girl he's with, and she'll humiliate me. I just can't tell if he likes me. I feel bad flirting with him, when he has a gf, and I try to stop myself, but everytime I'm around him, I can't help but smile and laugh. The worst part is, is that now he has a new shift, and it'll be weeks before I see him, unless he comes in to visit HER.
Help me? What do I do? Am I in love?
2007-07-01 17:35:59 · 16 answers · asked by Sweet Pea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have deep feelings for him. if you say he's ugly yet you're attracted to him. thats a good sign you want to be with him.
If he's happy being with her don't mess it up. Move on.
If she;s what you describe her as... break that home.
2007-07-01 17:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by letukno 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you asked, "How could he want her and not me?" The sooner that you learn it is not possible to know these things, the better. He just does, at least for now.
This may not be what you want to hear, but there are very, very many things that are out of our control. In this case, who this boy chooses to date is not within your control. Heck, it may not even be within his control!!!
You said, " I want to tell him how I feel, but if he doesn't feel the same way, he'll tell the girl he's with, and she'll humiliate me." Does this sound like a plan you would recommend to a friend? If not, then don't do that to yourself!
And finally, you said, "I just can't tell if he likes me." Wouldn't you rather wait until you did know? Patience, Sweet Pea! I swear you young women just have to go and push the river! Where's the fire? Relax and wait. He is not going to run off with this other girl in the next 72 hours. Take your time. You will not regret it.
2007-07-02 00:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by freecyclevic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to breath some fresh air and date other guys for now. Don't fall for this guy when there is no foregone conclusion he remotely feels the same way (he has a GF). You can then on occasion let it slip during one of your chat sessions how your date the other night went. See how he reacts then. I think you will have some idea if/how much he is into you at that point. Good luck!
2007-07-02 00:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by danny23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's as bad as you say she is, they won't last long. The next time you see him, slip him your phone number and tell him that you would like to talk to him and when the best time to call you would be.
If he can go in to visit her, you can go in to visit him. I think you should. He may have an interest in you but didn't think that he had a chance with you. Sometimes you just gotta take the risk and let a person know that you have an interest in seeing if you have enough in common to be friends.
Good Luck
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2007-07-02 00:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him date her even if you can't stand it. Messing with this will only cause you problems. If she's not right for him he'll figure it out soon, and if she's as bad as you say her true colors will show. If you butt in and try to break them up it will drive you and your guy apart if he knows what you're up to. You can't change who someones dating they have to want to do that themselves. Not to mention it's just wrong to try and lure him away from his woman, wait for things to fall apart, or if they don't there is probably someone else out there even better for you. If it's meant to b e between you two it will happen sooner or later. If it's not, it won't. I know...It sucks. Sorry for your predicament and I hope things eventually go in your favor.
2007-07-02 00:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. You know that this isn't right. Sorry he chose someone else, but you should have been more forthright with him from the begining.
If they break up and you still like him, then ask him out.
There are a lot of guys out there, no reason to go against your own values for this one.
2007-07-02 00:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by sage 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are infatuated at this point. It can't be love, you don't have a relationship yet.
If he just started dating the other person, it probably is not that serious yet. Just be yourself and see how things go with them, and if you see that things are cooling off with them, then tell him how you feel.
If they are serious, then maybe you would do better to let it go. Though he is friendly with you, you just might not be his type.
2007-07-02 00:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Carol B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like he sees you as just a friend. If he really likes that girl then I think you should leave your feelings out of it and continue to just be his friend. They are an item now. He must like her to be dating her, whether you like it or not. I hate to be so blunt, but I've been in that situation before and all that's going to happen is you will end up getting hurt. So look out for yourself and steer clear of guys who have girlfriends.
2007-07-02 00:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Marie Jane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you re interested in him. He may think that you just want to be friends. You dont want to find out down the line that he liked you but didnt think the feeling was mutual. You only live once!
2007-07-02 00:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by ezdoughboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't be a homewrecker. If he's dating someone leave him alone. No you're not in love with him. Time to move on.
2007-07-02 00:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by Nico 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋