Yesterday was our one year anniversary, so we planned the whole day, we went swimming with dolphins followed by lunch/picnic on the beach. And we both enjoyed each other’s company.
Last night, we went out for dinner, it was something we didn’t plan together so she took it as a surprised. I made it very romantic; she told me that it was the best French restaurant she has been to, Kudos for me. So we went home to red flower petals all over our bedroom, we had sex and towards the end (losing my load), I screamed out my ex-girlfriend’s name.
I won’t go into details about what she did to me because male-rights group could probably sue her but I’m now sleeping on our sofa typing this question. How screwed am I? And is it possible to get her back?
Please Please help!
2007-07-01 16:49:29 · 59 answers · asked by Curious about the World 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds to me that maybe you still have someone else in your heart. lifes too short to waste it on someone you arent completely devoted to or in love with. her reaction would have been the same if you had said her name in your sleep. now she feels like you are thinking of the other person and its gonna be hard for her to believe otherwise. my advice is to kiss some serious butt. a heartfelt chat wouldnt hurt either. how would you react if she has screamed one of her ex's names? and what would she have to do to fix things with you. i would start by just talking to her. maybe just be honest with her even if you do have feelings for that person still or even if it was just a blonde moment. good luck
2007-07-09 16:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by razorblade romance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos on the plans, very romantic. Now back to your problem.
You have a major, major, major problem, yet I'm sure you know that by now. If you really want to keep her, which I'm sure you do. Prepare for the mother of all battles. This will even send the Four Horseman of the Apocalypse riding in the other direction. You will have to beg more than you have ever begged before. You will have to grovel more than you have ever groveled before. You will have to apologize more than you have ever apologized before.
I would suggest first opening lines of commutation. Let her know that you are the biggest dumbas_s ever. (Don't hold back on this one. You will have to degrade your intelligence on this one.) At the same time let her know that this ex is real just that, an EX! And that you couldn't live without her. (Your GF, not your EX.) Tell her that you don't desire someone as great, beautiful, and sexy as her. Let her know that she is a Goddess walking. Make her believe this. If you can afforded it, buy her lots of roses, enough to fill a room if possible. Chocolates and strawberries are also always good. Be ready to become her manservant. Also give her a full body massage.
Tell her that you are unworthy of her forgiveness, but will do whatever she would require of you to receive that forgiveness.
And last but not least of all, pray. You need God's help with this one, and maybe your lower area will need his help too for a while from what it sounded like.
Good luck, and I will send up another pray for you.
2007-07-01 17:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by John M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh damn.this is a mess.you messed up badly!!obviously you STILL have feelings for your ex.It was your unconscious mind speaking because there is still a part of you with your ex or otherwise you would have forgotten her name.And i'm sure she did what any female would do if her name said another female's name during sex.She didn't kick you out?She just put you out on the sofa so there's still some hope. Ask for forgiveness but don't expect her to want you the way she has.you just completely broke her heart.we women are very very possessive when it comes to that and to hear you say another woman's name is like you asking for a death penalty.if she wants nothing to do with you then just let it go....she doesn't have to stay with you after that.But you need to talk to her aight, before anything.....let things cool down and plan another romantic idea and talk to her and then make love to her like you never did.....only this time make sure it's her name you're screaming.but i still think you got something for your ex man.
2007-07-01 16:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by youngpoet07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are on the sofa instead of on the street you should be able to get her back.
You will have to work on this one. The problem is that you can hardly come up with any good excuse for what you did (play all possible scenarios in your mind, and you will realize that none of them work), so you have to rely on her just getting over it by convincing her that you just made one really stupid mistake, and that you are perfect in every other way: attention, thoughtful gifts, pick her up at work, do errands, show how nice her life is with you at her side. Have some of your friends tell her stupid things they did in relationships to put it in some type of perspective. I don't know, this one is tough.
2007-07-06 10:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly you have some unresolved issues with your former girlfriend. Maybe you could start with that and ask your hopefully current girlfriend to help you. Start doing the mushy I need help resolving this or something. Let her know your vulnerable.
It is kind of a Freudian slip thing going on here. Maybe you're not quite over the X yet.
2007-07-01 16:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Meng-Tzu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction was that you're definitely screwed...big time. However, you've been together for a year and I'm sure you've had your share of good times. If she really loves you, she'll forgive you. Be honest about why it happened...don't make excuses. It might be a little rough, so go for all the brownie points and suck-up points you can get. Treat her like a princess...anything to cover your butt. It's gonna take some work, but show her you really love her and it should work out!
2007-07-01 16:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by nutz2203 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Time is the key here buddy, but sounds rough. Obviously you were thinking about yer Ex while boning your current. Not good form, my brother. Just go into super boyfriend mode, flowers, cleaning up all the time, being super nice, and hope for the best. Don't know what else to say really.
Good luck, you're going to need it.
2007-07-01 16:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by TubThumpin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are kidding me right? Or are you telling the world that she now knows who you think about while making love to her. That sounds somewhat painful. You might be on the couch for a while. If this is your only problem , I wouldn't worry too much , apologize, sincerely , hopefully , she will forgive you before you have back problems and can not perform.
2007-07-01 17:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by cynthia k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I feel for you...something similar happened to me once....only I didn't scream the other g/f's name...I said "I love you_________" and said the wrong name Yeah dude, you're pretty screwed. Whether or not she'll let it go just depends on her temperment. I'd suggest you do some serious kissing up, man. I know you didn't mean to say the other chicks name, but that had to really mes with your g/f's pride...now she probably thinks you're fantasizing about the other chick while you're doing her. If you are, don't EVER admit it!
2007-07-01 16:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by trustedhacker 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh Man, you are SO screwed. I mean, it's been a year, not a couple of months!
I don't know how you are going to get out of this one. Give her time, give her space. Apologize profusely and suck up to her as much as you possibly can!
I have to tell you though, if I was her, I'd be really hurt.
2007-07-01 16:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋