I been thinking that if my girlfriend and I ever broke up, that I would be hurt the most. I would do anything to avoid that, but if it's not meant to be, who knows. If someone is wondering about their partner, should they still put all of their energy into trying to make it work, or would it be wise to look for future "opportunities"? I mean, if anything happened between us, I would be so devastated I don't know if I could feel the same way about another girl again. And of course being as shy and weird as I am, I probably would be alone for a long time to come. I doubt there are many guys who would be as hurt by losing their girl as I would and I don't know if that's good or bad.
2007-07-01 16:24:47 · 8 answers · asked by jldude 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I recently had a conversation with a young man, he was commenting about his love for his girlfriend, and what devastation he'd experience if they broke up.
Any boy or man, dealing with love, deals with vulnerability, and that means risk of pain.
I think when a man falls in love, or is falling in love, and the relationship ends, his heartache hurts the same way a woman's does when her heart is broken.
We just don't conceal it as much.
2007-07-01 16:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to stop worrying about the what ifs. There are no guarantees in love, but if you love her, is she not worth the risk. If you ever do loose her, at least you had that time , and that love. Those are memories for you to hold in your heart. Don't speculate about what it would be like to loose her, loosing love hurts everyone, but its not the end of the world. You have to love yourself too, and be able to be content with yourself. You would survive, hurt yes, but eventually move on and be happy again, yes. Live for now, not what you are wasting time worrying about later. You don't know the future, you may break her heart, you never know how things will go. But if you are thinking of future opportunities, such as other possible women, then you really don't feel as strong for her as you say you do, and you are on your way to breaking her heart. We all wonder about our partners at times and all have fears, but if you truly love her, stop worrying and enjoy life in the present.
2007-07-01 23:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be hurt if you lost the one you loved due to a break up. If it's your first love you think you'll never love again because it is the hardest one to get over. But through time and it "hitting you when you are not even looking", you find out it is possible to meet someone new who you will love. And then you look back in hindsight at your first love and realize with clarity why that person wasn't right for you.
2007-07-01 23:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing is to tell her your feelings so that she knows, then ask for hers. I mean thats the only thing that you can do because that happened to me. Just try this and tell me how it goes. Relationships are so picky, if you know what i mean, you should never try to change a person or change your self to fit that person. just remember that
2007-07-01 23:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Sometimes spending time thinking about what you lost can make you blind to new opportunities in new relationships. But remember this, if it's meant to be, it will be.
2007-07-01 23:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by NIESHA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if you are looking ahead instead of enjoying now..and looking ahead in a negative sense. Why would you even entertain such thoughts unless you were heading into a split w/your gf? I am a bit confused.
2007-07-01 23:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
whatever happens will happen. don't make yourself worry about it for no reason. try to make things work now and if it doesn't then it was meant to happen and things will work out.
2007-07-01 23:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um..,i think your in love with her and you never want to let her go! i have been in love to and break ups are NOT easy!!! but if you do break up then a whole new door of options opens and the one with you and ur grlfriend closes!
2007-07-01 23:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋