i fell 4 him a wile ago. he broke my heart by going out w/ the girl i hate. and they broke up, we became friends and talked alot. now hes going out w/ my best friend, she talkes nonstop bout him even when i ask her not 2. i want 2 hate him but i still love him. why could that be? theres alot that happend that i dident wright. please i need ANSWERS!
2007-07-01 16:16:58 · 24 answers · asked by monkkeytheblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was never my boyfriend,
2007-07-02 03:52:00 · update #1
Feelings aren't always logical. You can't always control who you love and who you don't, but you can decide whether or not you're going to act on it. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to break off all contact with someone who has hurt you and sort out your feelings.
2007-07-01 16:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you are feeling. Men can sometimes change everything! In my case, I believe that I still love him because when we are alone, he seems to feel the same way about me and i can tell it by the way he acts. A lot of my friends try to tell me that I like him because I cant have him, but im not the jealous type. Maybe you love him for the same reason I do, he is the same man you fell in love with a while ago and he will always be, but im sure if you look hard enough you'll find someone even more perfect! :)
2007-07-01 23:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Christina SMILE :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think its sort of crappy of your friend to have gone out with him in the first place. Unless she had no clue that you liked him. I think you should move on, even if they broke up, you wouldn't want to be with a guy who was with your friend, or the girl you despise. Maybe you should have just told him how you feel, maybe you did, but at this point you need to move on. I know its hard, but whats the point of continuing to put yourself through this, don't lust over something that you can't have. Not that you couldn't but he has been with 2 other people that have an affect on your life. The circle needs to stop somewhere. Especially if he knew how you felt in the beginning. You deserve better if he did. You also need to respect that he did choose your friend and if he is her boyfriend it is wrong of you to continue to have feelings for him. You need to distance yourself from him because it is friends that are there for you in the end, just make sure those friends are true to you though, only you know the answer to that. Good luck with your situation, but there are many fish in the sea, fish that are not dating someone you despise, or fish that are not dating your best friend.
2007-07-01 23:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you still love him, even though it may feel like it's love. You still have feelings for him and it also hurts that a so-called best friend talks non-stop about him and you are mistaking all those feelings for love. Find a better "best friend", someone who would NEVER choose your ex as a boyfriend. You need to drop HER like a hot potato!
TRUE friends will always stick by you; the opposite sex will come and go until you find "Mr. Right for YOU". Girls can be so catty and competitive and it's those type of girls who do NOT make good friends at all. Good luck hun! :)
2007-07-01 23:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by â?¥â?ªâ?«Karenâ?«â?ªâ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man right now you are just liking excuse me loving him so much because everybody else has him except you. this guy is really a has been. when you break up with someone you will still have feelings for him but it might not be love. with me my ex broke my heart and like six months after it happened i was still feeling love or what i thought was love for him. i missed him dearly but its time to move on. If he broke your heart the first time he is going to do it again whether to you or to your little friend. baby girl just get your mind off of him. its not worth it. you wouldn't want that back if your best friend was in it also. besides what kind of friend does that to you?
2007-07-01 23:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jay W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learning to get the hang of love and relationships is tough. What got me through your age was that someone I liked gave me great advice.
It was "Everything that happens before college is just practice."
Try and learn from things, try new things and so on, but NEVER think it's the end of the world, or that things won't ever get better.
It's just practice.
You'll feel better soon, I promise. You'll be fine I can tell.
2007-07-03 12:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you know how in movies ppl sometimes say that they hate someone so much that they hate them well i never really understood it before i went through a similar situation as yours.... it hurts a lot but if your friend really was your friend she would try to tone the whole boyfriend thing down around you so maybe you should talk to her about it... and i think you still like him for the same reasons i still like the guy i like... its the thrill of the chase you want what you cant have
2007-07-01 23:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the reason you r still in love with him is because 1.you have a consitent want for him. you love hm secretly, but want to cover it up with hate. the reason you might be thinking about him all the time & things like that is because of your friend who talks about him non-stop! so tell her how you feel about her talking about him all the time. 2. you can still tell you like him. you want to be with him so you hate him for not being with you & going out with other people who aren't you. well right now he is taken so wait until they break up. it seems to me that he's not the person who has long lasting relationships. if you know you still love him tell him right now before anything happens. let him know how you feel. but if you seriously want to get him out of your mind & you REALLY want to hate him, then just move on it shouldn't be a problem. (prior expeirence!) Good Luck! =)
2007-07-01 23:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by lOvE LiFe & LoVe Me!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and hate turn into each other too easily. If he had dumped you twice, I'd consider moving on. But that is easy for us to say, and only you can make that call. It might be easier in the long run to find someone else, than keep worrying about him finding someone else.
2007-07-01 23:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through. I'm still in love with my ex i want to like him only as a friend but it seems like, my feeling for him just can't go away and i wish they would and i wish they woulndn't, cause i want tell him that i still love him and i want to be friends for now too. But i know that that can't happen cause no matter what i know that he will always be appart of because he was one of my loves he will always be there deep down. So basically what i'm trying to say is that you can try to be just friends and you can, but your always going to have that feeling of loving him no matter what happens, if he dates you friend, the people you hate or anything like that YOUR GOING TO LOVE HIM ALWAYS!!!
2007-07-01 23:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋