She has contacted through text, she said "give me a call if you want to grab dinner or something sometime". I do want her back but am unsure because she did date someone right after me. But what would be the best thing to do here? I told her you give me a call, I don't bite. She is trying to make me look like I am chasing her, but in reality its the other way around. How do I reverse this on her so that she knows I don't feel comfortable calling someone who dumped me. But yet will meet her if she pursues this, not vice versa. Maybe I should not call and ignore for a while?
2007-07-01 16:11:54 · 18 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You already put it out there that she can call you. Leave it at that. If she calls, great. If not, then that's ok too. Just play it cool.....
Good luck...
2007-07-01 16:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think that you should ask yourself how you truly feel about her and whether or not you are ready to become involved with her again. You were hurt by her before, is it worth risking for again? You should do what your heart tells you whenever you are ready. See where it leads you and don't play any games either. Although you don't want her to feel like she can take advantage of you, don't let your guard completely down. Good luck and I hope that you make the right decision for you.
2007-07-01 23:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in resuming a relationship with her, call her. If you are not, then don't respond. She will probably perceive any response, if a negative one, as an indication that you want to resume contact.
I once had a pushy used car salesman call me on my cell repeatedly. I tried to tell him that I was not interested. yet he still called when he thought I would like a car he was pushing. The only way he stopped calling me was when II simply let his calls go unanswered.
2007-07-01 23:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the "fall back guy." She does not have anyone else right now so she wants to see if you are available. She did break up with you. When someone else comes along, will she drop you again? Is it worth putting yourself through that again? Dr. Phil says, "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior."
2007-07-01 23:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by mbpowell1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go some place with her.go 2 a a resturent but when u get there talk 2 her about how u feel.tell her u want 2 get back with her but she dated someone right after she dumped u.tell her how u feel that she's makin u look like ur chasin her.ask her how she feels.hope this helps=)!
2007-07-01 23:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may just want to be friends grabing a bite to eat is no steady thing so you got to tell her how it is and how you fell you were broke up when she went to the other not while you were with her ---to call you is not chaseing you you may just been on her mind and she just wanted to know how you were -----make me think you stuck on your self here ? sorrie i'm blunt you want her back tell her but are you sure she is not with this other fellow?? you want her go after her do not let no one come in on you walk tall and act like a man and go get her go after her you want her
2007-07-01 23:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's texting you, she is the one making contact. If you want to text her back and tell her that the phone works both ways, she may get the hint that you'd prefer she call you, but again, the phone does work both ways.
2007-07-01 23:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I tried to call my ex a couple of times just cuz I was bored and he never picked up and It makes me think he is even more of a butt hole than I thought....so she might just be bored...the YOU call ME was good but she sent you the text first so if n e one is classified as a "Chaser" It's her...but give it a go.. she might just wanna be friends instead of ex-hate-ex.
2007-07-01 23:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by Keira Mantia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her only if you feel comfortable. My ex called me after two years after a bad bad break up and we are back together because we had more in common and people change.
2007-07-01 23:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to reconnect, call her. If you are in doubt as to whether you still like her or not, do not call her. Either way, there is no need to make her understand that she is the one chasing you. It is pointless to do that.
2007-07-01 23:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋