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We have been together now 2 years and she is going to LA, she signed with a talent agency for movies and singing. I live in Cleveland, Ohio. That is 2800 miles away from each other, we love each other and talk about family and marrige alot, but we just arn't ready for that yet. She says that she can't have me out there bc she needs top be able to do this acting/singing thing on her own, and she wants to know that she can do it by herself, she doesn't want me there to be able to bail her out if she is on a jam, she just needs to know she can make it on her own. She wants to stay together, here are her exact words "I know it would be fun and great to have you out here with me but I need to find myself and what I really want out of this life, and it kinda makes me sad that if you come with me, I will never know if I could have done it, I love you and whatever is meant to happen will happen. Everything will be ok. I will love you forever." Help me please, what this means, advice

Answer 1

You ask, I tell the truth. No lies, because if people lie to you, it only gets your hopes up and then you get even more hurt. I would believe her when she says she loves you, but that doesn't mean you two will be together any longer-as in bf and gf. I think she wants to move on with her life, this change is Big for her and she knows she can't have two big things in her life to be juggling right now- L.A. and You.
It sounds like she is letting you go and that, in my mind is a good thing. Don't lie to yourself and say you could make it last while she is 2800 miles away singing and making movies and you are at home thinking about her all day, long distant relationships are very hard to accomplish. It doesn't mean you will lose her forever, you two will still have contact with each other, but not the contact you had at home, it will be tough, but you have to let her go as well and hope for the best for her, like she said, "Whatever is meant to happen, will happen." This is as tough on her as it is for you-if not more, so just hang in there and let her do this and rely on fate to bring you where you want to be. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Well, just because she says she'll love you forever doesn't mean she'll want you forever! Obviously she wants to have experience with many types of men (maybe women too) before she settles down with anyone. You wouldn't believe what goes on in LA and how fast someone from a normal place can get caught up in it. Plus 80% of the so called talent agency's turn out to be not so legitimate once they get someone far away from home, After a few months of bogus bookings and broke she'll probably be coerced into the porn industry. At least if she comes back she'll be a lot more fun!

Answer 3

shes right whatever happens is meant to be. but you honestly have to ask yourself this: if she calls you and tells you that she is in a jam arent you going to help her out just as if you were with her??? it's automatic because you care and love her. so i really dont get what her reasons are for saying what she is saying. maybe she is being completely honest. but hey. i live in cali and L.A umm is a pretty big place for partying also not just trying to become an actress or model.

so talk to her more and dig deep and when you get your answer that you are really looking for then you will know the right thing to do.


good luck!

Answer 4

If you truly love this woman, trust her and let her go. She needs to find herself, with out you by her side. But that doesn't mean she doesn't love you any less. She has you in her heart. I think that would be good for the both of you. It'll be hard but try not to worry. Easier said than done rite?! But she's right, everything will be ok~!

Answer 5

Sounds like maybe you're ready for a bigger commitment right now than she is. I don't really see how being in a healthy partnership stops you 'achieving things on your own' just because you are living together. It's up to you whether or not you wait for her, but don't forget your time is precious too. Good luck!!!

Answer 6

Sometimes I think the same way she does. I wonder if I can really make it on my own. Girls just like knowing that, I don't know why, but we do. I would still keep in contact with her, if she calls you everyday and still shows that she loves you, stay together. But if she starts ignoring you, start dating other people.

Answer 7

You could move and still respect her need to be on her own, and she should know this. This sounds like an excuse to break up with you, unfortunately Maybe she wants to keep her options open, if you know what I mean, for this new life.

Sorry :(

Answer 8

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Answer 9

She's ending it man.

It's hard, but you'll need to accept it as soon as possible, else it will just get worse.
It may hurt a lot, but if you really love her, you should be glad that you are the one suffering, not her. Trust me, it hurts a lot more the other way around, believe it or not.

Answer 10

She's letting you go. She wants to try new things. If she finds out later that this isn't what she wanted; she will come back to you. Question is are you going to sit around and wait for her?